1 year Anniversary question. All help appreciated.

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

hey guys.

So me and my girls 1 year anniversary is coming up. As a reference we are both about 26 years of age. Now at the moment I'm not in the most financially secure position as I have a low paying job and burdened with student loans. I suggested that we take a romantic beach trip for our anniversary to North carolina. I have already booked a hotel for two nights and everything. I was hoping the trip could serve as my gift to her for our anniversary considering I will be paying for everything. Hotel and transportation and restaurant. It'll come out to about 600 or so.

My question is would that be enough? or would I come off looking insensitive and/or cheap for not getting a seperate gift? Like jewelery or a bag or something like that. It is our first anniversary, so I have this image in my head of her friends asking her what her boyfriend got her and her saying "oh NOTHING". This trip is literally emptying me out so I was wondering what I should do. Any help from you guys is appreciated.

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

I don't know how your girlfriend is, but I'm just a simple girl and if my husband did this for me, it would be enough. To me, it's more about the time/effort you took to do the planning, booking, having everything lined up than any other gift you could buy. Very romantic plans you have for the two of you, the Carolinas are beautiful. Hope you two have an amazing time

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Your gift to her would be a weekend away That's the gift. Take lots of pics

If you feel like you have to absolutely have something for her, get her a "card" for your anniversary and write something personal to her. It's not the cost, but the sentiment that counts.

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

Yea, make sure you load the experience up with good memories. You're paying for the trip, but be sure to have fun! Photograph it all, too. Cameras are great

LOL If you want an idea that will make her think you're romantic, try this:
Tell her that you won't be able to stand by her side the whole trip, that maybe you two should have a little alone time. Tell her that you're worried for her safety and you'll hire a bodyguard that she'll meet on the day of the flight.
Then, go out and buy her a teddy bear and give it to her on the day of the flight and tell her that's her bodyguard.

[09vetteZ51'sBunny Member Find all posts View Profile Close 09vetteZ51'sBunny]

i think you did an awesome job on the anniversary weekend, being in NC the beaches are very nice. i want to plan a weekend get away to the beach soon with my hubby. Good job!! have fun!!

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

Thanks everyone, and especially the ladies for all the replies. I was hoping the "getaway" would be enough of a gift. The only concern I had was the fact that it was our first anniversary and also the fact that her birthday is coming up in a month which I will also have to be aware of. I guess she can always tell her friends that her boyfriend took her on a weekend trip for our anniversary.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

Congrats on one year.
I am a simple girl like SLU.. I would be stoked with a weekend away.. quality time alone is hard to come by these days.. adventure and new experiences also help keep things exciting and fresh....maybe one day make a private spa for her...if you can't afford a professional do it yourself get some massage oil and candles etc and don't make it about sex..if she wants it to be about sex or a happy ending she will let you know make it about relaxing her and a bit of one on one contact in a different way.

[Gspot Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gspot]

and don't make it about sex..if she wants it to be about sex or a happy ending she will let you know make it about relaxing her and a bit of one on one contact in a different way.

Listen to Tinkerbell on this one. Too many marriages get into the anniversary buying game. Your gift shows how much she means to you: "Look honey, you mean a gold neckless and a moderately expensive dinner to me. Oh look that is nice, my assistant picked it out." Ok, but really. Taking the time to plan and pamper her is much better. Treat her like a goddess and give her your undivided attention on your anniversary if no other time. This says to her, "You are the most important part of my life and I wanted to show you that this weekend." Your wedding anniversary recalls the excitement and joy of HER wedding day (every little girls dream) to YOU (you lucky bastard!), so bring out all those feelings in her again this year, next, and everyone after. This reinforces her choice to marry you and not all the other men she might have picked. And keep it about taking care of her and she will be the one pushing you, or even making you have loving and possibly wild sex! But if all you do is cuddle, that is nice too. Hope you have lots of fun!

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Where in NC are you going? Anywhere near Corrola?I know a great place place for a romatinic dinner but your gift is great even without my input!

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

Hey thanks everyone for all the replies. Cusp im headed towards Cape Hatteras. I hear there is a nice lighthouse there that I plan on taking her to the night of our anniversary.

One more thing, When she hands me her gift which she got me, What happens then? I will definitely have a card but would that be enough? I dont want her to hand me a gift and then I'm like "hey, this trip is my gift". Thats kind of in your face. How should I handle that situation?