Do ALL men like to experiment during sex? Why or why not?

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I have no limit unless it involed me touching another man. Otherwise if she can think it up I will try it. She on the other hand has a few bounderies but thats ok, she atleast tried before she said no.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

So here's a thought...one woman in the group could not understand the need for sexual experimentation because she felt the end goal/result was always the same...orgasm; so did it really matter how one got there?

When the rest of us chimed in about the need to alleviate sexual boredom..she asked, well just what were we trying to alleviate exactly? I replied...the experience, the view, the sensations...so would this be the same for men?

For her -> It's not always about where your going, but the adventure in getting there.

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

An example of a kink I might tell them is big ugly socks. The bigger and uglier the better, for example holiday socks would be perfect. Then I would encourage her to put on her biggest ugliest socks before we have sex. They are never sure if I am serious or not.

Haha...that is great WG...and the added bonus? Both men and women have a greater chance of orgasming when their feet are warm...so socks may soon become the new sexy bedroom attire!

Another example is I might just sexualize a random body part. The belly button, the elbow, the ear, whatever. I will talk about how sexy that part is, and how I want to have sex with it (they are always parts that would literally be impossible to have sex with) and pay lots of attention to it during foreplay (less attention than the spots that are actually important though). It just keeps things interesting and lighthearted and fun. You can also tell a lot about a girl by judging their reactions to this stuff.

Wow...how fun and so very erotic...kudos to you Fella!

[Rasputine Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rasputine]

If I had someone to experiment with-HELL YEA!

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

I can't answer for all men, but I sure do. I suppose everyone who does has a limit as to how far they will take the experimentation, but being willing to add new and exciting varieties to your sex life should only be seen as a good thing.

If we had not been willing to experiment, and continue to do so, I think we would have missed out on some very useful knowledge of what "does it" for the other person. Trying or talking about new positions, new places, new toys, different kinks and fetishes, etc. All for the fun and pleasure of it, and keeping it interesting. Why not?

Well said W4I...and without question I absolutely agree! So now, let me play devil's advocate...could it be that those couples who choose not to move beyond their sexual comfort zone and prefer to stick to those tried-and-true positions/techniques be doing it because it enables them to fine-tune and elevate those positions/techniques (vanilla or otherwise) to something that can also alleviate the need for variety?

For her -> It's not always about where your going, but the adventure in getting there.

Again, I absolutely agree! And again, I'll play devil's advocate...if orgasm is not used to indicate the end of sexual play, what is or can be used?

[WantGirths Banned Find all posts View Profile Close WantGirths]

Haha...that is great WG...and the added bonus? Both men and women have a greater chance of orgasming when their feet are warm...so socks may soon become the new sexy bedroom attire!



Wow...how fun and so very erotic...kudos to you Fella!

That is actually how all of this got started is with the ugly socks, and it is a common one for me to go to. If I notice the girl has (literal) cold feet I will pull that one out. Then I realised how much fun and how much I learned from that little joke so I took it from there and started doing other stuff such as sexualizing random body parts.

Many people treat sex too seriously I think. They think that sex and comedy don't go together, but I think they are a perfect fit, and sex should be a very fun and lighthearted experience.

Glad to see you endorse my ideas. Assuming you aren't being sarcastic. lol

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

If you are serious about manually pleasuring your wife's derriere...may I suggest you use a bit of lube, make sure your fingernails are clipped and opt for the index finger.

I prefer the Pinkey for the first time for 2 reasons.

1. It's your smallest digit.

2. You can give yourself a "Thumbs Up" and Smile in Appreciation!

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Yep, it's me again...so I was out with a few female friends and colleagues last night and not surprising; the conversation turned to sex and relationships. One woman posed an interesting question…and although, I suspected the answers would be similar to most women’s; I thought I would get confirmation from you all just to be sure…so, here goes…

Do all men like to experiment during sex and more specifically, why or why not?

I have to admit, I do like these questions of yours.

Do I like to experiment? Hell yes I do. I love to incorporate toys or other sex aids to enhance the experience and fun of it. Little whip cream on my dick or her pussy/tits and we lick it off each other.........oh HELL yes. The ONLY area the two of us refuse to experiment with is anal sex.........I refuse to stick my dick in that hole for obvious reasons and she doesn't like it. Otherwise, bring the experimentation on!!! :-)

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

Yep, it's me again...so I was out with a few female friends and colleagues last night and not surprising; the conversation turned to sex and relationships. One woman posed an interesting question…and although, I suspected the answers would be similar to most women’s; I thought I would get confirmation from you all just to be sure…so, here goes…

Do all men like to experiment during sex and more specifically, why or why not?

I know my husband does. I do as well. Why? After 10+ years of marriage, and a gazillion missionary, doggy, whatever sex, you start wanting to add new things to the mix(not an extra person ) It is the reason I found the gym in the first place. My husband was interested in certain things that I was ehhh on. I did my little research, we talked, the rest is history.

I think, for him, it shows my complete trust in him I have, to surrender to what he has in mind, to try things(at least once).

Haven't tried anything I haven't asked for seconds on yet

[TehDBare Senior Member Member of the Month Sept 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TehDBare]

Yep, it's me again...so I was out with a few female friends and colleagues last night and not surprising; the conversation turned to sex and relationships. One woman posed an interesting question…and although, I suspected the answers would be similar to most women’s; I thought I would get confirmation from you all just to be sure…so, here goes…

Do all men like to experiment during sex and more specifically, why or why not?

Absolutely, why wouldn't anyone want to experiment a little? The only way to improve or find what works best is to try things out. Obviously there's a time and a place, I'm not going to turn anniversary night into an experimentation session, but I would say that every time we are together we will take a few minutes to try something new whether it be a tweak to an old position, an entirely new position, a toy, a different touch, whatever, if it's good we will keep doing it for awhile or if it's not the right time we'll file it in the memory banks to use at a later time.

The way I see it every couple has their own fit, their own style, unique to their combination. Things done before with a previous partner won't feel the same, it's like starting all over again for the first time. We all may think we have certain preferences but through experimentation may find new things we didn't know about ourselves or even old things we had written off years ago work well with the new combination of the couple. My girlfriend and I have approached our relationship like this from the beginning and have both experienced new levels of pleasure and intimacy we never before imagined.

All that being said I have to point out that for experimentation to be successful the partners have to trust one another completely and be secure enough with each other to be freely open with their sexuality. Inhibitions are ice to fires of passion.

[WantGirths Banned Find all posts View Profile Close WantGirths]

I have to admit, I do like these questions of yours.

Do I like to experiment? Hell yes I do. I love to incorporate toys or other sex aids to enhance the experience and fun of it. Little whip cream on my dick or her pussy/tits and we lick it off each other.........oh HELL yes. The ONLY area the two of us refuse to experiment with is anal sex.........I refuse to stick my dick in that hole for obvious reasons and she doesn't like it. Otherwise, bring the experimentation on!!! :-)

Toys are so much fun!
I need to buy a new vibrator. The last girl stole mine. lol
I used to be against anal until one night a girl asked me if I wanted to fuck her ass. In response to that question my dick got uncomfortably hard. So I said apparently I do. That was my least successful attempt (despite her having experience with it before I was too big and it hurt her a bit), despite taking 15 minutes to work myself all the way in and no actual humping, I still enjoyed it, and have since learned that I really enjoy it.
I have tried it with two other girls, went much smoother (despite neither ever having tried anal before). My number one sex memory is actually the last time I had anal sex. I took a girls anal virginity (she was against it until she tried it, then she loved it) and I DPed her with a 7 inch vibrator, and I thrusted away until completion. I was amazed she could handle all of this on the first time! She took it like a champ, and I came harder than I ever have before.

Point being, don't knock it till you try it.

[anonymity Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close anonymity]

Obviously if your in a long term relationship hopefully you start trying new things. This way the old "go to's" don't loose their effect. However we should accknowledge that the reason they are "old go to's" is that they work and they are something you both are obviously comfortable with for a reason. Trying new things is imorptant, but that's exactly what they are "new". This generally means that ya'll are comfortable enough with eachother to communicate this interest to begin with. This does not mean that every new idea is going to awesome! In fact as many new things we've tried, I'd have to say that only half have stuck, (becoming new "go to's".) But this doesn't mean we quit introducing new ideas! Because the "old go to's" is ineffect an ever evolving list that will do us just fine in the mean time. Life is a journey, and so is sex. find the right partner and go exploring for new adventures.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I just kinda push or tap gently on the outside with a wet fingertip for a while and it will open by itself when its ready or she will let me know she wants it

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

For her -> It's not always about where your going, but the adventure in getting there.

Perfectly said, I totally agree.

Again, I absolutely agree! And again, I'll play devil's advocate...if orgasm is not used to indicate the end of sexual play, what is or can be used?

Why end sexual play? it could go all day long, not necessary as in intercourse, sexual excitement and connection, verbal, teasing, and so on, keeping the flame lit

Its the whole experience that counts, not the orgasm, and not all orgasms are created equal.

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

Like to experiment? OH YES !!!
Experimenting is second nature to us. Part of being a Dom is finding different ways to please your sub. That can be pretty much anything. Toys, food play, flogging or spanking, you name it.


New things are great but also new combinations of old things can be good too. Being bound is just one part of it. You can be tied up in many different ways so that's just one thing to experiment with. Spread Eagle style, Hog tied, etc. Then start in with the toys and whatever you have and you're in for a great time.

Just getting to the end result was mentioned. What about getting to the end result over and over? That's what we do here in our little dungeon. That's also why it's good to have different things planned out to try on her. being a Dom is great fun but requires some work (planning) as well if it's to be done right. Planning properly makes all the difference. Now don't get me wrong, not every little detail has to be planned but there is also a bit of improvising as well. If she is moaning and groaning then go with it and wait till after the next orgasm before you change your plan of attack.