Do you feel pathetic as a man ?

[mcpecker Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mcpecker]

Not weird. Everyone should realize when they embark on PE that they are doing it for themselves. Seriously. Nobody will care more about your penis than you. Women barely care as long as it's not freakishly big or small.

Gay men, I would imagine based on your post and my experience in talking with gay friends, are probably a harder sell since they are playing with their "home field" equipment. I would imagine being gay would add more pressure re: penis size. That sucks, but I know there are good men out there who care more about the guy's inner traits than his outer traits. Depends on if you're looking for hook ups or relationships.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Last I checked, I'm not the man, my penis is the man!

I used to let my size get to me, but I've learned to not let it define me as a being, anymore. After all, my body operates through its brain, not its penis. Well... most of the time lol

Stay safe while you PE; accept the size of your peen.

[Hugh_package22 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hugh_package22]

I think you would probably benefit from taking yoga or meditating, and also if you are watching porn, stop, it messes with your head and warps your perception of things such as gender roles, size and other things, but that is just my advice. And i don't know if that specifically has entered mind but i know i haven't always been secure as i should be. Be proud of who you are and what you got cause there isn't another person identical to you and every woman looks for different things in a guy

I just wonder have any of you guys one day just looked as your penis and felt that you didn't feel anything like a man because of your size ? Did you feel that the penis you have wouldn't satisfy any woman ever ? Sometimes have you felt that you didn't deserve to be a man because of your size ? Has your penis size made you feel pathetic sometimes ?

In some point in time I know every man insecure about their penis has asked themselve these questions before. And to tell the truth I almost ask myself these questions everyday. And I know the penis doesn't make the man but sometimes it feels that way.

[Dissily Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dissily]

Not weird. Everyone should realize when they embark on PE that they are doing it for themselves. Seriously. Nobody will care more about your penis than you. Women barely care as long as it's not freakishly big or small.

Gay men, I would imagine based on your post and my experience in talking with gay friends, are probably a harder sell since they are playing with their "home field" equipment. I would imagine being gay would add more pressure re: penis size. That sucks, but I know there are good men out there who care more about the guy's inner traits than his outer traits. Depends on if you're looking for hook ups or relationships.

When my psychologist first recommended I learn from this forum I was, for the first time in a long, long time, thinking of finding a long term partner. Realising how much work I'd have to do and how much I have to learn here that thought is temporarily on hold. That won't stop me going out and having the odd casual root but here in the sticks such are very hard to find anyway. My main advantage in all this is the years I spent following a tantric yoga discipline learning practices such as kegels and holding yourself at the plateau stage. As to size, since discovering this place that oddly isn't as important to me. OK, I'll be happy as hell if one day I look down at myself and think. "Wow, that's a big one" I know it will turn me on. However all the other benefits alone are worth the effort anyway. For instance, and some will probably get bored with me repeating this here, the new sensations I'm experiencing in my dick even when I'm not playing with it are fabulous. I'm constanty experiencing subtle physical sensations in my wang as I go about my daily activities. This oddly has induced a psychological change that isn't in the least subtle. It's hard not to shout about this from the rooftops but I soon learnt discussing PE out in the open often has other guys thinking you're mad. Their loss.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

I would feel far more pathetic if I was a brussel sprout. God I hate them. Maybe we should all be happy just that we're alive, healthy, a bit drunk ( me), and that we have a most beautiful world to live in, despite the presence of brussel sprouts. Rum anyone?

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Mmmm J.D. Whiskey!

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Mmmm J.D. Whiskey!

I make wings with that! You'd love em!

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

I make wings with that! You'd love em!

Hey I'll send you some reps if you send me some of those whiskey wings! Lol

[JurassicBone Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JurassicBone]

Being that my starting girth was so small at 4.5, i can say yes i sometimes did feel not so much like i wasn't a man, but more along the lines of puny, like i would wonder how i could please a girl who's been with average girth dude when im slimer.
i had good length to start, but it made me look thinner, i started at bpel6x4.5mseg
But once i hit 5'' girth even though my length went up by an inch, i still felt much better!

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

100% did and at times still do. It's a struggle.

[wellshii Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close wellshii]

I dont know about not feeling like a man because of my size,nor was I worried about satisfying women,but kind pissed off at the size if that makes sense.Pissed off at alot of things,im generally angry

[Dissily Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dissily]

- - - - - - -Working on OVERALL physical appearance and health also goes very well into building self esteem and feeling better about oneself, as well as making us more aesthetically pleasing to the opposite sex, which in turn brings confidence and lessens that feeling of inadequacy from merely the size of our manhood.

There's an interesting side effect I experienced immediately getting into PE. I'm not sure why, maybe it's just the act of doing something for myself, but for the first time in years I've started exercising and dieting. This could be the 'manhood' thing as a few days into PE I remembered what I felt like mentally and physically when I was running marathons and going to the gym. At the peak of my fitness I'd get so uncontrollably randy, often without apparent reason, I'd have to sneek off and wank otherwise the erections became painful. At my age I probably won't get back to that level. I'm at a disadvantage though now as I live out in the bush a long way from a gym and can't run anymore as running marathons wrecked my knees and the orthopeadic surgeons have warned me not to again. So, it looks like a lot bike riding, sit-ups and push-ups, a much harder way to get fit. I'm going to do it though as I'm not putting myself back on the flesh/ romance market until I can look at myself in the mirror and not go 'yuck'. There's an issue of so called manhood in there somewhere.

[JurassicBone Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JurassicBone]

There's an interesting side effect I experienced immediately getting into PE. I'm not sure why, maybe it's just the act of doing something for myself, but for the first time in years I've started exercising and dieting. This could be the 'manhood' thing as a few days into PE I remembered what I felt like mentally and physically when I was running marathons and going to the gym. At the peak of my fitness I'd get so uncontrollably randy, often without apparent reason, I'd have to sneek off and wank otherwise the erections became painful. At my age I probably won't get back to that level. I'm at a disadvantage though now as I live out in the bush a long way from a gym and can't run anymore as running marathons wrecked my knees and the orthopeadic surgeons have warned me not to again. So, it looks like a lot bike riding, sit-ups and push-ups, a much harder way to get fit. I'm going to do it though as I'm not putting myself back on the flesh/ romance market until I can look at myself in the mirror and not go 'yuck'. There's an issue of so called manhood in there somewhere.

Also, its to bad there isn't a pool of some sort, because i imagine the aerobic exercises would be incredibly light on the knees while still burning a tone of calories! Good luck on your transformation!

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

I used to feel this way, I choose now not to live up to other peoples standards, I make my own, I do feel compassion for people who do feel this way because these feelings pretty much used to rule my life.

I felt this way for such a long time I didn't lose my virginity till I was 23, to a lovely lady I didn't fully appreciate at the time, but I had started PE'ing before this.

You should know that every woman I have been with has orgasmed before we had penetrative sex, so I truly believe it has nothing to do with size, however it has taken me a long time to figure this out.

I've heard my own mother say negative things to my dad (maybe in jest), but nevertheless shouldn't be said in front an impressionable boy of 6 who wears his heart on his sleeve, not my fault my parents are ignorant (took me years to figure this out too).

I now realise we are all flawed, it's our differences and our own individual life experiences that make us unique and the person we are now, this world would be a boring place if we were all identical.

Most of us are here because we want to be able to give our partners the best experience we can give them, not to hear them say "oh your the best I've ever had" (well I don't it's not about ego for me), it's because we actually care whether they enjoy their time with us, as well as confidence.

Being a part of this gym and making a positive difference in peoples lives, no matter how small, makes a positive difference in mine too, doing my bit to help others, makes me feel more of a man than clinging to my self pity ever did!

I hope you come to realise as I did that you have value and women will appreciate you, but you must appreciate yourself first, don't give in to these feelings of negativity, be positive, help others and you will have much to feel good about.

May god keep you safe all the days of your life, take care brother.

[Dissily Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dissily]

Also, its to bad there isn't a pool of some sort, because i imagine the aerobic exercises would be incredibly light on the knees while still burning a tone of calories! Good luck on your transformation!

Too right, it takes me an hour each way and $25 worth of petrol to get to a pool.
The locals have been trying to get the Council to build a pool for over 20 years with no success.
People around here who used to allow us to use their private pools for a token fee no longer do it as the cost of insurance skyrockets if they do.