Age 32 impotent for 13 years is there any hope?

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

Hi all,

First time posting, quite nervous so be gentle!

Just looking for some advice or if there is any hope I can sort this?

I've had ED for the last 13 years, about 2 years prior i managed to loose my virginity however I had performance anxiety and couldn't get it up at first but did some foreplay got hard and penetrated but then had PE after about 30 sec not surprising as it was first time. Anyway things didn't work out with that girl so that was that. 2 years later i hooked up with a hot blond but just couldn't get it up. This happened with 4 other girls 2 of them multiple times. Fast forward to now, I've been in a relationship for 6 years, first few times we slept together I couldn't perform so I started looking for dick pills online and was buying what i Thought was 'herbal Viagra' which solved my problem for a few years, I later found out the products i was buying got banned as they had undisclosed Viagra in them. I stopped the DPs and things returned to a sad ED state occasionally I can get 50-60% hard sometimes penetrate her but its not enjoyable for her and I would usually cum fairly quickly. We do have a 2 year old boy now though so I've managed that which I'm very proud of.
We hardly ever even try to have sex now because I think shes just fed up of it, and she can get her self off with her vibrator when I'm in work.

I've been to Docs few years back, and had blood tested, apparently everything including T is fine. I may go for another test soon.

Porn habit: when this ED first started, I didn't watch much porn at all, some but not much. However I have always masturbated a lot since age 12ish, sometimes up to 5 times a day.
When ED started I couldn't even get much more than 60% EQ even watching porn and masturbating. In the last 6 years I've started watching porn a lot and masturbate between 1-3 times a day, sometimes a day or 2 without, at best 70% hard but as long as I ejaculate it satisfy me.
Morning wood is rare and at best 40% hard. I'm not into particularly hardcore porn, I just like normal shagging and watching girls cum.

Today is the day i quit Porn.
Do I quit masturbating too?
I've been drinking erection tea for 2 days, I've noticed a little EQ improvement but not much, will continue.
Are there any supplements recommended?
Which exercises/training should I do?


What can i do to achieve natural and morning 100% erections?

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Quit porn and quit stroking it, your banana and mind needs a reboot.

Don't give up the fight!

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

So today I quit porn & will stop masturbating for sometime too.
I have been trying to get my head around Reverse kegals, been trying them a few times today but not too sure I'm doing it right, sometimes feels like I'm pushing a fart or poop out so try to push forward more.
I will keep progress updated here

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

Welcome aboard Bloke!
Thanks for joining and thanks for posting.
Yes, there is hope and you will find help here.
I think that cutting out the porn is a great idea and, in fact, a must. I would also recommend cutting back on the masturbating and do some reading up on edging and kegels.
I am going to move this thread over to the Introduce Yourself forum so that you can get greeted properly.
Another suggestion: start a log thread on the progress forum. This will help you stay motivated and organized and also makes it easy for others to review your history and situation and give you feedback and encouragement.
I suggest that you start with JP's 90 Day Beginner Routine. It will give you something productive to do for a few months. Hopefully, you will use that time to learn about how your body responds to the exercises, read up on the subject, and generally get really, really, smart!
Yarr?
You are going to be fine, shipmate.

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

Thanks for the welcome!

Where do I find JP's 90 Day beginner route? What is edging and where do I read about it?

Thanks

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

So Bloke. How do you feel about your size? I know when I watch porn it makes me feel inadequate. So much so even with 120 mgs Viagra I can't cum.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Welcome to the forum!

If you acknowledge there's nothing organic about your ED then you need to work on your mindset. Your mention of porn in combination with ED isn't very unusual.

You might want to review the following: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

Only with about 100mg (2x 50mg) of viagra do i get near 100% EQ and then I'm OK with the length but girth is a bit on the thin side, however it dosn't bother me. I just want to be able to achieve an erection naturally or even hard enough for sex without viagra. As it stands I need porn and stimulation to achieve at best maybe 70% EQ. With my partner without viagra I can achieve near 70% enough to orgasm with a hand job but if i go for penetration I lose it almost instantly. I'm laying off viagra as side affects are getting too much.

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

Welcome to the forum!

If you acknowledge there's nothing organic about your ED then you need to work on your mindset. Your mention of porn in combination with ED isn't very unusual.

You might want to review the following: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence

I keep going to the doctor as I thought it must be organic not mental, but he kinda thinks its in my head but even he is perplexed due to how long its been and nothing obvious

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Only with about 100mg (2x 50mg) of viagra do i get near 100% EQ and then I'm OK with the length but girth is a bit on the thin side, however it dosn't bother me. I just want to be able to achieve an erection naturally or even hard enough for sex without viagra. As it stands I need porn and stimulation to achieve at best maybe 70% EQ. With my partner without viagra I can achieve near 70% enough to orgasm with a hand job but if i go for penetration I lose it almost instantly. I'm laying off viagra as side affects are getting too much.

No, you don't need porn, you need her, so there is no such thing as porn, now, right? Only her, that needs to be your, our mind set. Lock it in. Delete all previous memory, both of the porn and having erection issues. Today you are a hot horny virgin, don't think you are, know you are.

Thanks Morfious. That line works so many times in life.

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

No, you don't need porn, you need her, so there is no such thing as porn, now, right? Only her, that needs to be your, our mind set. Lock it in. Delete all previous memory, both of the porn and having erection issues. Today you are a hot horny virgin, don't think you are, know you are.

Thanks Morfious. That line works so many times in life.

Shes not interested at the moment, we've gone through quite a rough patch over the last few months too. I'll have to wait for an opportunity once shes had a few to drink. I've let her down too often, I dont even get cuddles or any intimacy anymore so this is going to be tough!

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

I keep going to the doctor as I thought it must be organic not mental, but he kinda thinks its in my head but even he is perplexed due to how long its been and nothing obvious

Many who experience psychogenic ED are under the impression there has to be some sort of time limit on it. If the subject is increasingly anxious and/or there are subsequent negative experiences from failed sexual encounters this very often further reinforces the ED.

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

Many who experience psychogenic ED are under the impression there has to be some sort of time limit on it. If the subject is increasingly anxious and/or there are subsequent negative experiences from failed sexual encounters this very often further reinforces the ED.

How come I can't get hard on my own, even with stimulation jelqing/edging is out of the question unless I'm watching some porn?

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

All the information you seek can be found in either the respective forums, with a search of your question , or under the START HERE button which is located at the top of the page if in the main forums or in the stickies in the beginner forums if on a mobile device. But understand that what your issue is, a really poor upbringing as far as masturbating and porn. It is not healthy to jack off 5 times a day, the porn is only making sex with a real women not exciting. You are stuck in a fantasy in your head of what sex is (based on porn) and real life never lives up to the fantasy. So, as others have mentioned, a reboot is in order. Lay off everything, detox and return when you are aching for relief. That is when you will understand how porn has affected your life. Not touch, no sex, no porn, no jacking, no nothing for at least a month. If that doesn't work wait longer. Then we can have a conversation of a PE program, conditioning and building a better you. The ball is in your court, all we can do is recommend, it is up to you to act. Are you ready to tackle this beast?

[bloke84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bloke84]

How come I can't get hard on my own, even with stimulation jelqing/edging is out of the question unless I'm watching some porn?

Even watching porn sometimes I loose it so can't edge, I have to really stimulate my self just to manage a poor orgasm