Looking to make a change

[thegodson Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thegodson]

Hey everyone,
I've had some real fear about intimacy in the last couple of months, and a large part of it is because of my penis size. This probably sounds really stupid, and I don't mean to offend any men of color on here, I have become conscious ever since I started dating my most recent girlfriend. She's African-American, and she hasn't been with that many guys, but I can't get this feeling of inadequacy out of my head. With all the porn I've watched over the years, the idea has been drilled into me that I've got the average white guy dick, and it's a crazy irrational fear, but I worry she wouldn't want to stay with me because of it. I know that she likes me a lot for my mind, way I make her laugh, our conversations, etc. We just haven't had sex yet, and a part of me has been post-poning it until I can at least strengthen my erections to rock my full length. The inadequacy has always been there though--in the locker room in during football in high school and college, listening to girls talk about other guys I knew and how big their dick was. It messed with me a lot.
Porn played a big part in it, so I stopped watching it while ago but because of that I sort of stopped masturbating all together, now its weird whenever I try to get an erection. My flaccid state is smaller than normal too, and when I'm with her and we are kissing with some foreplay, even then I know I'm not as hard as I could be. At this point in time, I just want to get fuller erections and get back to the way it used to be.
And I have visited this site a couple of times before, but always sort of got sketched out--I feel like most have been at one point or another. I have tried some methods through other sites before, and while I believe I might have been doing the exercises correctly, the one area I was lacking in was patience.
I've done some heavy reading through the site and after reading some awesome success stories, persistence and patience really seem to be the keys. With those in mind, I wanted to do things my own way. I've seen a lot of people on here say that each penis is different, and responds differently to workouts.
Well I'm all about efficiency, so I figured I would construct my own workout tailored to my penis based on the existing theories of penis growth on here, which I figured would maximize my success. But I don't know everything! I started looking into this back when I was 18 and a freshman in college, I'm 21 now and about to graduate. That's why I'm excited to be a part of this community and if anyone has any tips they want to share, words of encouragement, or anything like that, I'm all eyes and ears!
I'll keep a log separately for measurements, and update this on a the basis that I have thoughts to share or experiences with working out. I'm also going to put my initial stats down so I can keep track of everything from the original post. Looking forward to sharing my journey with this awesome community!

Do you guys think I should talk to her about my fears? We've liked each other for a while and would hangout as friends, and just started dating in December, so it feels early to talk about something like this. Any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated!


Initial Stats:
(Measurements taken without warming up)
BPFSL- 6.25
BPEL-5.8
MEG-4.5

Goals:
BPEL-7.5
MEG-5
Flaccid Hang: 4
NBPEL: 7

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

My advice? Your dick is fine; your brain needs a major overhaul and only you can do that. Go back and read your post and tell me how you/we are going to fix that?

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Welcome to the gym thegodson!

I think you are overthinking this. I wouldn't worry about offending "people of colour" or anyone for that matter, I upset everyone at some point and we aren't responsible for other peoples feelings. This doesn't mean we have to be a dick, but it does mean quit walking on eggshells.

The first girl I was with was a black girl and she was probably also the wildest in bed. Also she had the tightest vagina of every girl I have ever been with, so don't draw prejudicial conclusions about the water, just dive in!

I would advise starting a log and doing one of the beginner routines for 3 months as conditioning. Also you might want to include edging in your routine and keep an eye on your PI's! All of this information can be found >here<.

Anyway, good luck with your routine, quit thinking and start doing in order to improve!

My advice? Your dick is fine; your brain needs a major overhaul and only you can do that. Go back and read your post and tell me how you/we are going to fix that?

Its no use Dr CUSP. The patient is too far gone, should I prep for brain transplant?

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Welcome to the forum!

Please take the time to review the following:

From An Open Letter to My Fellow Ladies: Please Stop Talking About Your Partner’s Penis Size:

First – MEN: STOP DOING THIS!!!!! Seriously – STOP! It’s like a woman asking you, “Does this dress make me look fat?” Or, “Do you think she’s pretty?” It’s a loaded question.

To add- regarding getting your clues from porn: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence

[thegodson Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thegodson]

My advice? Your dick is fine; your brain needs a major overhaul and only you can do that. Go back and read your post and tell me how you/we are going to fix that?

Funny you mention it, I've been working on it for a bit on my mental, but I guess it's pretty evident more work still needs to be done. What made you see that?

[thegodson Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thegodson]

Welcome to the gym thegodson!

I think you are overthinking this. I wouldn't worry about offending "people of colour" or anyone for that matter, I upset everyone at some point and we aren't responsible for other peoples feelings. This doesn't mean we have to be a dick, but it does mean quit walking on eggshells.

The first girl I was with was a black girl and she was probably also the wildest in bed. Also she had the tightest vagina of every girl I have ever been with, so don't draw prejudicial conclusions about the water, just dive in!

I would advise starting a log and doing one of the beginner routines for 3 months as conditioning. Also you might want to include edging in your routine and keep an eye on your PI's! All of this information can be found >here<.

Anyway, good luck with your routine, quit thinking and start doing in order to improve!



Its no use Dr CUSP. The patient is too far gone, should I prep for brain transplant?

Overthinking is MO unfortunately, trying to get to a place of balance with it, "quit thinking" is a good approach, maybe I'll give it a go haha.
Thanks for the advice, it's appreciated!

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Your penis is fine. It sounds like she is an awesome girl. Stay building a relationship with her. Don't fear intimacy. It will go very well. Porno has screwed with your brain. Take back your brain or they will drop one like I have to suffer with. Trust me you don't want that.

As to doing PE most efficiently how about sharing your intended routine? We can help advise on that. Enjoy my brother.

[Yotguy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Yotguy]

I had no idea how much porno has affected people! I don't do it. 'Have glanced at it occasionally. Always makes me tense up. My imagination is wild enough! Thank God! Turn off the fucking TV! I wish all you guys who are influenced by this all the best. I don't judge you or condemn you in any way. I have a gay friend in Ft' Laud. who stays up half the night on multiple computers. He is a brilliant retired pharmacist and he is totally addicted to porn. Such a waste!

[ArmyStrongPenisSmall Member Find all posts View Profile Close ArmyStrongPenisSmall]

Initial Stats:
(Measurements taken without warming up)
BPFSL- 6.25
BPEL-5.8
MEG-4.5

My dick is 2 inches shorter than you and no one I've been in a relationship has complained or gone elsewhere. I'm not gonna act like I don't have my own problems but at the end of the day if you have a good woman, you love each other, you actually communicate and want to make it work then there aren't any problems.

I would probably kill a stranger a few towns away for your dick.

[closed155 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed155]

I wouldn't be mentioning your fears to anyone, let alone your girl. Women may say they like a man in touch with his feelings, the metrosexual guy, but when they see that man bag it is all over. Talking to us is way better. A strong, reliable man who is not a user or a shirker is what they want. Let us be serious, your girl can have any dick she wanted sort of shop-a-dick website, but she is with you not online looking for Mandingo. In my opinion height is more important to the gals, not dick length.

[thegodson Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thegodson]

Your penis is fine. It sounds like she is an awesome girl. Stay building a relationship with her. Don't fear intimacy. It will go very well. Porno has screwed with your brain. Take back your brain or they will drop one like I have to suffer with. Trust me you don't want that.

As to doing PE most efficiently how about sharing your intended routine? We can help advise on that. Enjoy my brother.

Yeah it really has messed with my brain. I tried masturbating last night without anything just using my imagination and went for about ten minutes without cumming and a 6 or 7 EQ. Only way I came was by lightly stimulating my asshole, which I'd read about and it surprisingly worked, I came in a couple seconds. Ever hear of that?

For my routine, I was going to focus my stretches on my LOT which is straight down, and working on my tunica muscle limit, but I'm not sure that's the issue. I was with my girl the other day and had a solid erection, like 9.5 which hasn't happened in a while. But if I were going off my numbers alone it'd be the tunica. The breakdown looks like this:
Focus 70% Length, 30% Girth
Total Workout Time:30 minutes
10 min warmup
12 min of stretches
9mins-3 sets of 30 seconds Straight up, straight out, straight up L/R, straight out L/R
3 mins- rotating stretch
8 mins of jelq
-6 mins of standard jelq, 1 rep being both hands for 3 seconds
-1 min of V jelq, 1 min of side jelq
10 5 second hold kegels
9 min cooldown.
2 days on 1 day off for two weeks with gradual increase on intensity

How does that look?

[nofapcap Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nofapcap]

Wow lol, yea deep depression will you get you!

Old account was the godson, this is my active one. What's up!

Haven't done too much except what burtybasset said...less thinking more doing..you should be a shrink with that advice! Mine hasn't even said so much lol.

Crazy to read back how paranoid I used to be. how times change right?