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[Gone in 60 secs Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gone in 60 secs]

Hello Just found this forum and hope it can help me in my quest for more self worth in bed and sexual confidence... Now I might sound miserable but I am far from it.. I am Really happy In life apart from my PE and have only recently decided to take steps to fulfill my sexual happiness..

I am 28 and have had more than I can take now....

In my youth I had many sexual partners one night stands this was cool cause I was loaded with beer and was a legend in the sack... But as my relationships advanced sober sex was a blow if I was comfortable with a girl and had regular sex 3/4 plus times a day I could last 3/4 mins this was ok but far from great but I always provided them with a orgasm orally or by hand but I still had feelings that I was not satisfied with my performance even tho the girl would say it was great...

As the relationships advanced further and sex was on a decline once and day or then every other day my ejaculation time was decreased 1/2 mins tho I could recover fast and last longer the next time 3/4 mins I was still dissatisfied. It was the whole cumming thing that left me with negative feelings also condoms where a pain in the arse having to flush them and start again...

Now I recently ended my relationship not due to my PE it was a two year relationship it just was not working out...

Since I have started to See another girl... Things are great its all nights out on the town nights in bottles of wine so I am impressing her no end and I feel good about myself...

Well we had sober sex last week And it must of been my nerves But I failed to last 60 secs And I was gutted to the point I could not get it back up...

I never told the girl my history as its early days I just put It down to being tired and hungover she bought the story theeeeewwwww...

Anyway after this I thought I cant go on any longer I went to my Gp.....

Now in the past I have taken many street drugs which I have found to improve my sex live from cannabis to speed,coke and Viagra.. The Viagra never increased my ejaculation time but it never went down so rock on tommy..

Now I dont advice taking none prescription drugs and have not done myself for a while working in mental health I know the risks and Its not appropriate to be off your face when having sex with a girl that you care about deeply and the health implications can be bad...

Any way back to My Gp.....

I went and told the guy my story and And that It distressed me the whole pre and post sober sex thing and that in my past relationship I could even be avoid ant as it was such a let down..

And believe me my sex drive is high...

I also dont crack one off every day on line or had any issues as a child I am just stuck with this PE.

My Doctor was very understanding And gave me a script for some SSRI estosalpram and some gel which I deffo dont want to use as I feel it will kill the moment...

And before People suggest exercises and diet,stop start methods I have been there And tried it all with the loving support from my ex partner it never worked for me at all...

So now I have this SSRI one months dose 5mg very small dose But have yet to commence taking them as I am wary of side effects and wish to hear feed back from others who have tried SSRI medication...

My Current Girlfriend Is away for a few weeks shortly And I plan to start taking them then and if I have any side effects I will suffer them alone and hopefully they will pass by the time she is back...

Now thats my little story... I am no further on really tho I know alcohol helps me for now I just want more with out the drunkenness and to be spontaneous in my love making...

Just feed back If you have tried SSRi medication cause I have tried to be natural and it was a wash out....

Also Anyone used those pomegranate pills any good??? I might also give them a bash....

please dont send me links for exspensive books and American on line rubbish.. I want cold hard facts from real people.. This really impacts on my life and holds me back...

Thanks in advance steve....

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

No thanks Steve, I already have enough stress thank you. Do you think you may be a tad stressed?You have had women that you have satisfied and it's YOU that thinks that if you don't go all night like a racehorse than your not "good in bed".So what if you came in 2 minutes? Still enjoy the time together, cuddle, fool around, take the pressure of yourself.The more you relax and not worry about it the longer you'll go. But remember more than likely the girl is not hanging out with you for your dick. She's with you because of what you are.Relax and the more you relax and have fun the longer you'll go.But remember after a while most women will be thinking about what they need from the supermarket. They enjoy us, but to a point. Life isn't a porno movie!

[Stumpy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stumpy]

Mate, I can't offer anything positive for you at all other than to say: stop looking for the answer in a bottle ... pills or booze.

Relax, be yourself, and let your partners fall in love (or not) with the real you ... not some pale, medicated version.

Sincerely ... good luck with it.

[Gone in 60 secs Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gone in 60 secs]

I toatally here what your saying but its the way I feel about sex I cant relax... I dont want to go for 20 plus mins, 8/10 would be good even a regular 5/6 I can cut the mustard with the rest and please them. I just want my own feel good factor.. I would like to orgasam with my partner and stimulating them and then jumping on for two mins just leaves me feeling I have failed even tho they are satisfied I am unhappy with myself..

Know I know I am a funny, intelligent guy with lots to offer and sex Is not eveything in a relationship but it makes me feel such A let down. In the past I have have been more upset than my partners and the feed back has not been bad I just get stressed about myself and Its not a good feeling.. I am really upbeat apart from the sex thing I just dont want to even discuss it with my new partner I just want to move on and be happy with my preformance.

I have delt with this from 16,12 years on I want to draw a line on it.. My problems are phycological Its really got to me lately..

I was in a 2 year relationship and before that 4 years both where understanding girls and previously and inbetween what sex I have had was great as I was either drunk or I was taking unprescribed meds..

Thanks for your reply....

I just want to resolve this issuse one way or another and then I will be happy...

[4thewife Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4thewife]

Have you ever looked into technique? There's a great article in the "A Womans Perspective" section that I read and liked... Here's the link...

https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-...ter-lover.html

I satisfy my wife with great oral, it's one of the things she loves about me and I make her finish every time... As far as intercourse I've just been a "stick it in the hole and give it to her" type of guy, never realizing there's so much more you can do to please her and yourself... I have learned to pace myself though, and with that I get much more satisfaction and last much longer...

A lot of it clearly is in the mind, perhaps try to visualize the pleasure and take your time... PE can surely help though! I've only been doing this a few days and I've definately seen an improvement in the quality of my erections... I can't remember the last time they've been so "rock hard"...

Good luck!

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

I toatally here what your saying but its the way I feel about sex I cant relax... I dont want to go for 20 plus mins, 8/10 would be good even a regular 5/6 I can cut the mustard with the rest and please them. I just want my own feel good factor.. I would like to orgasam with my partner and stimulating them and then jumping on for two mins just leaves me feeling I have failed even tho they are satisfied I am unhappy with myself..

Know I know I am a funny, intelligent guy with lots to offer and sex Is not eveything in a relationship but it makes me feel such A let down. In the past I have have been more upset than my partners and the feed back has not been bad I just get stressed about myself and Its not a good feeling.. I am really upbeat apart from the sex thing I just dont want to even discuss it with my new partner I just want to move on and be happy with my preformance.

I have delt with this from 16,12 years on I want to draw a line on it.. My problems are phycological Its really got to me lately..

I was in a 2 year relationship and before that 4 years both where understanding girls and previously and inbetween what sex I have had was great as I was either drunk or I was taking unprescribed meds..

Thanks for your reply....

I just want to resolve this issuse one way or another and then I will be happy...

Stop messing around STD's are ever increasing. Find yourself a good woman to want to stay with for life. Drink green tea before sex it will calm anxieties. Do this 45 minutes before love making.

[Stumpy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stumpy]

and then I will be happy...

That part of your response worries me the most. The belief that happiness is contingent on some elusive thing ... I'll be happy when {insert thing here}. So many of us do it when we should be happy now.

But I'll step back and see if others can give you something.

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

That part of your response worries me the most. The belief that happiness is contingent on some elusive thing ... I'll be happy when {insert thing here}. So many of us do it when we should be happy now.

But I'll step back and see if others can give you something.

Stumpy makes an excellent point.
Happiness breeds and attracts happiness.
Find the happiness in yourself and feed it until it fills you.

[Gone in 60 secs Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gone in 60 secs]

Stumpy makes an excellent point.
Happiness breeds and attracts happiness.
Find the happiness in yourself and feed it until it fills you.

Thats The thing folks The way I feel about sex makes me feel unhappy.... I am very happy with evey aspect of my life I am independant,good job,nice car good family and friends no debt.. Like I say I am up beat folk think At work I am on a constant high.. This is my gripe In life it batteres my head clean in...

Happiness comes in different shapes and forms... Some folk would be happy winning ten pounds or a scratch card other would not blink A eye...

Some folk would be over the moon If there partner fell pregnant some would be running a million miles...

We are all different and have different goals,wants and what motivates us in life...

Now It would make me feel content, happy if you like with my sex life, not all frustrated and not even wanting to have sex...

I really appreciate peoples views and opinions so please keep them coming..

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

The minute we guys stop referring to sex as " a perfomance" we'll all be better off! Everytime I hear that I just think of a seal balancing a ball on his nose! Now that's a performance!

[Stumpy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stumpy]

The minute we guys stop referring to sex as " a perfomance" we'll all be better off! Everytime I hear that I just think of a seal balancing a ball on his nose! Now that's a performance!

What's your point Cusp??

My wife loves it when I balance a ball on my nose during sex!!



NOTE: Okay, joking over ... back to Steve's questions please!!

[Gone in 60 secs Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gone in 60 secs]

I do use the word preformance....

But think its fair word to sum it up...

My PE gets me down but I know some fellas are a lot worst off than myself..

I am starting The SSRIs the following monday and will feed back my findings... I just hope it works out for me and the side effects are minimal and pass quicky..

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

the minute we guys stop referring to sex as " a perfomance" we'll all be better off! Everytime i hear that i just think of a seal balancing a ball on his nose! Now that's a performance!

amen!!!!!!!!!!!!