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ED helped end my relationship :-(
Hi folks.
43 year old male here.
I have been suffering from ED for over a year now - not as hard, erection not lasting as long.
I didn't address it and have been in a rut for a long time for other reasons - just got really down on life, complained about everything, was very sensitive and irritable.
My girlfriend of 7 years brought it up around a year ago, tried to breakup, but I talked her out of it and she stayed. She later said it was just a moment of insanity and to forget it. I thought things were good, but felt her getting distant over the last month and then she left. She said it was because of the lack of intimacy and that I had no plan for the future (I've been complaining about my job too and threatening to leave it). I love her. I am devastated. I want her back.
While she has some valid points, I think we could work things out. But it's a wake-up call - a HUGE one -and I need to address my issues.
I should have done it a long time ago but I didn't. I fell into a rut and stayed there and yes she should have said something in the year between the breakup conversations, I should not have sat on my ass and thought everything was OK when it was clear that I was not taking care of her in bed.
I tried one of the ED drugs and it worked but my insurance doesn't cover it so I didn't use them after the free ones.
I also became addicted to porn and masturbation - I was self-conscious abut the ED, reluctant to try with her, masturbation feels good and is easier, and I fell into that trap. Very bad.
Yes, I am a total idiot. I knew there was a problem but didn't address it. Ran and hid instead. Good job, me!
So, here I am. I am going to the urologist again tomorrow, got The Hardness Factor and a bunch of supplements in the mail, started losing weight, doing Kegels, and visiting this board.
That's me - always a day late and a dollar short, as pa used to say (God rest him).
Thanks.
M
43 year old male here.
I have been suffering from ED for over a year now - not as hard, erection not lasting as long.
I didn't address it and have been in a rut for a long time for other reasons - just got really down on life, complained about everything, was very sensitive and irritable.
My girlfriend of 7 years brought it up around a year ago, tried to breakup, but I talked her out of it and she stayed. She later said it was just a moment of insanity and to forget it. I thought things were good, but felt her getting distant over the last month and then she left. She said it was because of the lack of intimacy and that I had no plan for the future (I've been complaining about my job too and threatening to leave it). I love her. I am devastated. I want her back.
While she has some valid points, I think we could work things out. But it's a wake-up call - a HUGE one -and I need to address my issues.
I should have done it a long time ago but I didn't. I fell into a rut and stayed there and yes she should have said something in the year between the breakup conversations, I should not have sat on my ass and thought everything was OK when it was clear that I was not taking care of her in bed.
I tried one of the ED drugs and it worked but my insurance doesn't cover it so I didn't use them after the free ones.
I also became addicted to porn and masturbation - I was self-conscious abut the ED, reluctant to try with her, masturbation feels good and is easier, and I fell into that trap. Very bad.
Yes, I am a total idiot. I knew there was a problem but didn't address it. Ran and hid instead. Good job, me!
So, here I am. I am going to the urologist again tomorrow, got The Hardness Factor and a bunch of supplements in the mail, started losing weight, doing Kegels, and visiting this board.
That's me - always a day late and a dollar short, as pa used to say (God rest him).
Thanks.
M
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