Announcement

penisesunite · 03-10-2013, 05:59 AM

Welcome to PE. Stick to your routine, be patient, talk to the guys, have a good time, and you will certainly see some gains.

On a side note, never worry about your girl, man. Of course you should care what your girl thinks but never let it bother you. She loves you and she's with you, not that stripper. She made a comment but you're a confident guy. It doesn't phase you and you couldn't care less what other guys are packing. What you care about is giving your best sex to your girl.

tonysop · 03-10-2013, 06:37 AM

Thank you penisesunite, I hear you, but when you hear comments like "I had to struggle not to touch it" you have to wonder...

eiffel · 03-10-2013, 07:30 AM

Consider adding weight to your kegels. I too have been kegeling for quite some time now, but I only recently started adding weight, and my erections have skyrocketed in hardness, speed, and frequency. I started off with 7 ounces, then 13, and now I've gotten up to 15. I do these while fully erect, with a toilet paper tube tied in a pipe cleaner that runs through a sock where I put the weight. Of course, add on weight very slowly and conservatively, risking an injury is not a good idea. Personally, I do 5x1, any range from 1-5 reps for 3-5 sets is what's been shown to be best for strength training.

This, in my opinion, is vital to supporting growth, since it'll increase the frequency and hardness of spontaneous daytime and nocturnal erections, increasing blood flow and essentially simulating puberty. Also, as your smooth muscle and tunica gains develop, you'll need have stronger erections to keep up with the growth and make full use of your new size.

I would also recommend taking the time to look into front and back reverse kegels, they'll help you get a better awareness of how to control your PC muscles.

Finally, if you're going to do PE, just do it for your own pleasure. Do it because you like the exercises, because you want to see sexual improvement, or because you want to have a big dick to enjoy looking at all on your own. Your girlfriend, on the other hand, may fantasize about what a big dick must feel like inside a woman, only to realize that the sensation of having something stabbing into her intestines is not so fun after all.

Prioritize your own health and aesthetics first, and if your girlfriend enjoys the results, then all the better.

tonysop · 03-10-2013, 08:04 AM

Thank you eiffel for responding and advise. You're right about that part about her fantasy, even though even with actual size, in some positions she gets hurt and often says "it has a bottom you know".
Anyway thanks, I have got to do it for me and if she likes it then good for her.

ThinkBigThoughts · 03-10-2013, 08:06 AM

Welcome to the gym tonysop. I've been in your situation and it sucks, I think a lot of guys here have. You've come to the right place brother! I'm sure you love your girl and all but that was a pretty insensitive comment for her to make. What's with the double standard anyway? How many women would want their man to go on and on about how great it must feel to get their hands on some massive boobs?

tonysop · 03-10-2013, 08:17 AM

Originally posted by ThinkBigThoughts View Post

Welcome to the gym tonysop. I've been in your situation and it sucks, I think a lot of guys here have. You've come to the right place brother! I'm sure you love your girl and all but that was a pretty insensitive comment for her to make. What's with the double standard anyway? How many women would want their man to go on and on about how great it must feel to get their hands on some massive boobs?

Exactly my friend, I don't think she meant to harm me or anything, she was talking about it as if it was an unusual thing...
The worst part is that during sex she use to tell me things like "get your big thing in me" but I don't hear it as often as I use to, it's like she's admitting that she found out that it wasn't that big after all....

eiffel · 03-10-2013, 08:56 AM

I think most women just cannot possibly conceive of how big of a deal this is to us. I have succumbed to severe depression, panic attacks, and self-mutilation (thankfully not on my penis, but I was close to it at times) because of this. At one point my partner told me that if I didn't agree to see a therapist, she'd break up with me. It's totally not worth all that stress, but at times it still feels impossible to convince myself of that, and penis size (the most arbitrary thing in the world, really) seems to hold all the importance in the universe. It's literally crazy.

Demeaning a guy for his penis size is like calling an anorexic woman fat, or a flat-chested girl boyish, except worse because most guys don't even think there is any way to change their penis size. It feels completely hopeless. It's totally rude, cruel, and unacceptable, but since penises are far more hidden than body fat percentage or cup size, the standard social norms for what you are and are not supposed to say about a guy's penis isn't as clearly defined.

Looking4more · 03-10-2013, 09:22 AM

Welcome to the Gym tonysop.
No man ever wants to hear something like that. We all want to hear we are the biggest and the best but reality is there is always someone bigger out there. I myself am following behind an ex who was bigger but it doesn't bother me because even with the bigger size he NEVER gave her an orgasm while I have given her multiples almost from day one. Size isn't everything my friend. To a good woman, the man is a package deal and you must be a good one if she has been with you for 7 years.
While the comments she made were very insensitive, it is most likely she wasn't aware how bad it would affect you. If you are a confident person and she sees that, she won't think that you would be offended. My wife had absolutely no idea how insecure men were about their size until she joined the Gym. Even with that said, the "holding myself back from touching it" comment is going a little far in my opinion but still could just be her ignorance or she was just being silly and didn't mean it at all. My wife has said things like "I would be touching him like that too" when looking at a nice photo of a couple but I know she is just horseing around. We have been married a very long time and are secure with each other. It takes time.
I'm sure she realizes that a penis that big may just hurt her and that may be all the comment was about. If it really bothers you, I would just calmly talk to her about it. If it is never mentioned and she isn't aware, it will most likely happen again and you wll be going through this whole flood of emotions all over again, If you think about it and feel it's no big deal, then let it go. Like what was mentioned before, she is with you, not the other guy.
As far as not saying you are big any more, depending on your reaction when she mentioned it, she may already realize she made a mistake and doesn't want to even get into mentioning size at all. I know of another guy who went through something similar and now his girl is going overboard with saying he is huge and all that garbage and that bugs him even more. I'm sure you don't want that. Another thing to consider is that it is all in your head because you are dwelling on it and making yourself crazy. Only way out is to talk to her about it or drop it. If you want to PE then definitely do so but also consider what added size will do to certain positions, her comfort, etc.
Good luck.

eiffel · 03-10-2013, 09:41 AM

I've decided that the sanest way to deal with this, is to treat the psychological insecurities as a separate issue, and use PE just for the intention of increasing sexual health, hardness, stamina, etc.

If you treat PE as a solution to your insecurities, then the gradualness and potential nonexistence of your gains will drive you even crazier, and when/if you do get the gains you're looking for, you still might feel unsatisfied and depressed if the underlying insecurities are still there. If you treat it as a routine health practice, like taking a shower, working out, or brushing your teeth, then you'll be pleasantly rewarded, and whatever length and girth gains might follow will be a nice side effect.

I seriously have to wonder why PE isn't taught in sex ed. Why doesn't everyone know about this? Like, hey, did you know that you can rip your Viagra prescription to shreds and instead just squeeze your PC muscles and tug on your dick and become really good in bed for free?

Looking4more · 03-10-2013, 09:56 AM

Unfortunately eiffel, PE won't ever become mainstream because it requires too much dedication and time. It doesn't fit in with our "instant gratification" society. So only the select few of us who have the determination and dedication will reap the rewards. Besides, we don't want to take away any of the outrageous bonuses given to the drug companies CEO's do we, LOL!

P.S.

You are spot on about treating the PE and insecurities separately. I meant to mention that in my last post but forgot to. Thanks. Awesome post.

Kfdarling · 03-10-2013, 10:00 AM

Great information about how to add weight while kegaling. I need to try this. Any pics of your contraption?

Btw I have been there too with being compared to another cock. I messed around with a girl who got around and she said "at least you are easy to deep throat" sucked. At least I was not her smallest. She had been with a dude the size of a summer sausage before though.

eiffel · 03-10-2013, 11:06 AM

I don't have any pictures right now, but it's pretty simple. I just put a pipe cleaner straight through the top of a long sock (into one side and out the other), and then tied it around a toilet paper tube in a basic twist-tie. I disassemble and reassemble it whenever I want to add more weight, and so far I've just been using food jars and cans from my kitchen.

Again, I do think it helps to perform front and back reverse kegels afterwards to relieve tension and increase control over your pelvic muscles. I do 3 x 10 seconds.

I remember when I was a kid, a friend of mine told me about a porno he watched where in the intro, the dude was lifting a paint can with his dick for reps.

I will. Get there.

Maybe someday I'll even do this.

donjelqer76 · 03-10-2013, 12:08 PM

Originally posted by Looking4more View Post

Welcome to the Gym tonysop.
No man ever wants to hear something like that. We all want to hear we are the biggest and the best but reality is there is always someone bigger out there. I myself am following behind an ex who was bigger but it doesn't bother me because even with the bigger size he NEVER gave her an orgasm while I have given her multiples almost from day one. Size isn't everything my friend. To a good woman, the man is a package deal and you must be a good one if she has been with you for 7 years.
While the comments she made were very insensitive, it is most likely she wasn't aware how bad it would affect you. If you are a confident person and she sees that, she won't think that you would be offended. My wife had absolutely no idea how insecure men were about their size until she joined the Gym. Even with that said, the "holding myself back from touching it" comment is going a little far in my opinion but still could just be her ignorance or she was just being silly and didn't mean it at all. My wife has said things like "I would be touching him like that too" when looking at a nice photo of a couple but I know she is just horseing around. We have been married a very long time and are secure with each other. It takes time.
I'm sure she realizes that a penis that big may just hurt her and that may be all the comment was about. If it really bothers you, I would just calmly talk to her about it. If it is never mentioned and she isn't aware, it will most likely happen again and you wll be going through this whole flood of emotions all over again, If you think about it and feel it's no big deal, then let it go. Like what was mentioned before, she is with you, not the other guy.
As far as not saying you are big any more, depending on your reaction when she mentioned it, she may already realize she made a mistake and doesn't want to even get into mentioning size at all. I know of another guy who went through something similar and now his girl is going overboard with saying he is huge and all that garbage and that bugs him even more. I'm sure you don't want that. Another thing to consider is that it is all in your head because you are dwelling on it and making yourself crazy. Only way out is to talk to her about it or drop it. If you want to PE then definitely do so but also consider what added size will do to certain positions, her comfort, etc.
Good luck.

+100000
L4M it's right on. Listen to this man!

donjelqer76 · 03-10-2013, 12:08 PM

oh, and welcome to the gym!

Announcement

This is why I'm here

This is why I'm here

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment