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Hello im Lemon and i have ED! I am 26. I have been having ED problems most of this year. I had it slightly with my ex and ive had it too many times with my new gf. Started dating my new gf in july. The first few times with sex was great but then i started having ED problems. And ever since it happens 9/10 times with sex. I took 2 months off from even trying to have sex with her. I just recently had a great sex expierence with her about 2 weeks ago. But the last few times trying i had ED again. Id give her good oral and make her orgasm. But my dick is sleeping. Im so sick of it. Its depressing it's embarrassing it sucks big time. I think one of the main causes for me was over masturbation. I have watched and looked at porn sice i was like 8yrs old. Didnt really start masturbating til i was about 22(2010). But after i started it was at least once every night before bed. Some times 2 and sometimes 3 times. I would almost always masturbate to porn. My method of masturbation was unlike most. I was weirded out about touching it with my hand so i had used my comforter from my bed to masturbate. Id cum right into the comfortor. Sometimes id use a Tshirt, towel. And eventually i got to the point where my dick was pretty raw from using the blankets. But did that stop me? Nope. But i have been researching causes of ED for 2 months now. I stopped masturbating (11/7/14) almost a month. Eating healthy, stopped tobacco (2 weeks now), going to gym, i took Extenze (white box) started around 10/25/14, my extenze ran out last week. I went to store to get more and i saw Libido Max 3 stage pills. Been takin those for about a week. Was nervous about the recommendation of 4 a day. So i started with 2 (didnt work) then tried 2 in morning, 2 at night, not working. U must add i do get erections sometimes in the mornings and even sometimes when cuddling with my gf. But when its time to lay down the pipe and have sex i lose my erection. I do use condoms with her so sometimes when i have a half of an erection the time it takes putting the condom on i lose it. I tried to give as much info as possible i really want this fixed asap as im starting to go crazy. I love my gf and am extremely attracted to her. Any help any advice is welcome.
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The pills are a waste; a trip to the doctor to rule out other issues would be great, and I would bet you the issue is in your head.The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy! -
I have heard that before, how do i go about fixin my brain you would think when it worked 2 weeks ago my brain would be fixed but it only made it worse since i was nervous that since it worked it should work again. How do i fix my head with out therapy.Comment
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Nervous? Now why would you use that word? Oh because you are! Well let's see it took you years to get this way due to too much porn and bad habits and you think you'll get cured in 2 weeks? Look try this before I end up killing all you young guys under 30. Stop thinking; go out and have fun and enjoy life because before you know it you'll be old. Stop the worrying and fretting. Baring any underlying medical condition the only reason why a young guys dick doesn't work is his brain. So if you don't dwell on it, stop thinking if you get into a romantic situation your dick won't work, you'll be fine. Instead of thinking about your dick when you're having sex try thinking how great it is to be with a woman in such an intimate way. I'm telling you you young guys certainly know how to mess up your lives for no reason.The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!Comment
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I have suffered from ED do to circulation problems. I have since improved this problem but it took me a while to realize it. When things were improving I was getting good morning wood but when it came to sex I couldn't stay erect. Even Viagra didn't help do to the anxiety and fear that I couldn't stay hard. I had to address the fact that it was now psychological ED. Once my confidence was back things have been great.
So if you if you are not getting good morning wood it might be something physical, if you are then it is most likely psychological.
You are doing good things to improve the physical end of it but I can see that you have a lot anxiety and worry about being able to perform. If you are getting good nocturnal erections then you are capable of good erections during sex. You need to convince yourself of that and start building your confidence back. That's what I had to do. If you think it's a physical thing then you need to go see a Dr. to find out the source of the problem.To totally satisfy a woman sexually is not about having a large penis, it's about being a good lover.Comment
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Okay cavalier great post. I will now make you into a superstar. By the way why did you name yourself after an old Chevy?The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!Comment
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No not a Chevy. our dogs are Cavalier King Charles spaniels.To totally satisfy a woman sexually is not about having a large penis, it's about being a good lover.Comment
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Hiya Lemon and welcome to the forums!
If you do discover that the issue is psychological ED, you may want to take a look at any negative beliefs you may have about sex and reframe them. You may also want to give the following threads a read:
Sexual Anxiety
Good Article Regarding Sexual Anxiety
Free ebook - How to overcome sexual anxiety
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Hello Lemon!
Welcome, and glad to have you here. Thanks for taking a moment to introduce yourself, and share your story with us. And congratulations on your positive changes, good for you!
Aside from what has been mentioned above, there is also the "flatline" to consider. This is a period, during a porn or masturbation overuse reboot, in which someone experiences reduced libido or ED. It's basically a healing period where the brain sort of rewires itself back to it's original method. The time it lasts varies from one person to another, but it does pass with time.
The great news is this; whatever the cause for the ED, there is hope. Check with a doctor to rule out any physical issues, follow the advice and links on anxiety, and give yourself some time and patience.
Wishing you the best Lemon!
Going an inch and 1/2 deeper than beforeComment
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Is it possible that the pills could've actually worked against me and caused me more dick problems? Cause ive gone a day without them and today ive had 2 boners alreadyComment
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Hey lemon im 24 and went through this problem when i was 19. some people in my school found out and started calling me limp biscuit (kinda clever). i am however solved the problem now. i tried Viagra and african black ant a cheaper version of viagra. what worked for me was JELQUING. it is actually in 1 of the sections of the website. jelqing will worked miracles for me. i still do it sometimes b4 sex to make me look bigger and go more rounds.
i hope you see my post because it saved my life i feel like i have an advantage over other guys now. also jerking off alot was also my problem. i think my dick and brain got used to being jump started by my hand that it forgot it had to do it by itself some times. so what i did was when i would watch porno i would let my dick get naturally hard just by watching with out touching it physically.
after i passed ED i ended up getting premature ejaculation which i just conquered last month looool but thats a different story.Comment
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Hi Lemon, good luck on your journey, we have a lot of experienced and knowledgeable members on here in relation to ED, so you came to the right place.Comment
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