Skeptical..

[Misanthrope Member Find all posts View Profile Close Misanthrope]

I'll start off by saying my penis is 4" erect, and around 4-4.5" in girth... I am actually around 90-100lbs overweight.. maybe less now because I've been losing weight after reading there is a fatpad on the pubic bone that covers the penis.. and I don't know if I am actually measuring my girth right. I use a string and cut it at the point where they meet and measure the inches with a regular ruler. Is this correct? Idk.
I'm hoping once I drop the weight I will recover at least 1 inch of length .. and to be even more hopeful.. 2 or even 3 (read 30-50lbs of fat loss = 1inch)
Every time I try to take a picture of my penis in an ATTEMPT to return the favor to my significant other I can't do it. And I feel terrible because she does a lot of this for me. (It's long distance.) She is crazy about me to put it lightly but I am afraid of when we actually meet how will our sex life be? She's a virgin and actually petite size.. I plan to see her within 6mon-1year as well.. Within that time I am on a weight loss journey but the only thing I care about more than my weight is my penis size.. I hear all these things about petite girls being really tight while in porn you see the same petite women taking in monster sizes.. Maybe I can make another threat after I've dropped the weight I need to.. but I just need to drop the weight I have now and see my real length, because I don't even think I can push the amount of fat there far enough to see a larger erection. The farthest I push reveals 5" which is probably my real length.. but my girth is pathetic.. I would be happy with 6 inches in length and 5 or more inches in girth... but I've read about this JP90 program which basically seems like jelqing, and I've read jelqing will just ruin your penis and make you limp long term. Sure it may increase in size or even girth but at the cost of a fully hard erection. And I thought wouldn't bloodflow help this problem? Lot's of cardio and whatnot to keep blood pumping strong? I am unsure.. but this is what I am skeptical about. Is this program actually safe? Because 6 inches erect and 5-5.5 in girth would be just fine for me if anything.. I just want to be able to please her with soley my penis. I don't want to resort to toys or extensions because that's simply humiliating. I definitely have no problem with burying my face into her parts either, but to be able to please her with my penis and get her to squirt / orgasm / cum with it would be the biggest confidence boost. Other than this issue we are pretty much perfect for each other I think.. She easily gets off to even the thought of me which might help in bed in the future right? Some real and non-sympathetic words would really help.. I'm not looking for sympathy I just want to know if this works and are my goals reasonable. and don't suggest extensions or anything like toys to use in the bedroom please.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Okay so what makes you think it doesn't work? I always wanted to ask the question so I picked on you!

[Misanthrope Member Find all posts View Profile Close Misanthrope]

Okay so what makes you think it doesn't work? I always wanted to ask the question so I picked on you!

I've heard of people saying they injure themselves and then can't get erections anymore.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

If you read the success threads you will read that it works. If you want to improve your penis start on the START HERE button on top and begin a beginners routine. You control how hard and how often so go slowly and condition slowly. Add slowly and be safe.
As far as satisfying your lady, bury your face in her parts, and do anything else she likes and I think you will satisfy her just fine. I have been doing jelqs for over 20 years and I have the best erections of my life. I think you should be open to anything you and your partner agree on even toys. We are not the ones to make that decision for you. Also your penis will be fine for her if you like each other, and even better if you love each other.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

to the Gym!


Don't miss this thread!!!

Mental PE - Creating The Right Mindset

Take a look at the Success Forum and Progress Forum, many positive reports from members that should get you motivated.


And if you haven't already done so, check the links on the navigation bar at the top of the page especially the START HERE Thread and focus on safety, you only have one penis, take good care of it.

Pick one of the manual beginner routines and follow it for at least 90 days to condition your penis, or until you stop gaining. Most members here choose JP90, it is an intense routine, start slow, and build up to the full routine over a few weeks time, jelq with an erection level between 45% and 65% using a moderate grip, just enough to move blood up the shaft and to the glans.



Pay attention to your PIs, your penis is trying to tell you if you are over working, or you are in the growth zone, aim for positive PIs, and steer away from the negative ones.

Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!


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Good luck on your PE journey, PE safely!

[Dangler Senior Administrator☼ Wizard ☼ White Tiger Award 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Dangler]

It does take time, and doing more, doing PE more vigorously, trying to get twice as much twice as soon are some of the ways to get injured. Be safe.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Welcome to the gym Misanthrope!

Yep, it works! If your worried about injury just take things easy - use light grip etc. I found the stretching part of JP90 to be more intense than the jelqing part.

It is possible to injure yourself, but by paying attention to PI's we can avoid or at least minimize the chances of this! At the first signs of over-training back off immediately!

As wishful says jelqing enhances EQ if you do it right! Gains will come in time!

Good luck, stay positive!

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

You have been given great advice; take it, learn, enjoy, and post.

[Misanthrope Member Find all posts View Profile Close Misanthrope]

Feels like i'm being answered by bots lol... i would prefer to see before/after pictures rather than words that could be made up..

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

If I could post photos I could Photoshop them also. There are pictures in the albums. The best proof you can give yourself is a little faith, trust, dedication and effort. Give it a try and then when you have learned you can apologize for calling me a bot.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Oh you are skeptical. Best way is to find out for yourself. Now I have been called many things here over the years and bot is probably the nicest. Heck last week I was ignorant. Lord knows what next week will bring for me but I betcha it won't be all that good. Hey do bots talk like me?

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

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Picture proof:

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[Closed035 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed035]

If you want to make her orgasm, get good with your tongue and don't obssess about penis size. Penis size is a guy thing. It'll make you feel loads better, but at best it will only have a slight effect on her compared to knowing what you're doing in bed and being good at foreplay. Dick size, as long as reasonable, isn't the answer if you're wanting her to orgasm (don't get upset if she doesn't squirt, most women don't know how to).

It's like solving a rubik's cube. No matter how big your cube is, you still have to be knowledgeable to complete the puzzle. Now sure a guy w/a giant rubik's cube might get more attention at first and even more if he's able to solve it (we all want this but there are somethings in life you have to learn to live with). However, regardless of size, I've never not been impressed by someone who can solve a rubik's cube. And the same will apply to your sex life.

Now for PE... yes many people have injured themselves, but if you're smart and patient you should be fine. Problem is, and this is why I wouldn't recommend PE for someone in your situation, many come on here with the mindset that it's almost do or die b/c their penis size complex is so flustering to them (many don't recognize it till it's too late). So at first they take things slowly and safely, but overtime, especially if they're not getting bigger, they become flustered and overreact by pushing themselves harder and farther than their penises' can handle, which is where most injuries occur. PE is not like weight lifting. Pushing yourself to the limit will only cost you in the end.

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

I you are smart and follow the guidelines here and avoid doing anything stupid, PE is very safe and quite effective. Jelqiing, when done properly actually leads to stronger erections, not going limp.

Congratulations, losing weight will be amazing for you in so many ways. The Median size, ie 50th Percentile, is 5.7x4.7". 4.5" Girth is not that far below average and around the 33rd Percentile.

Proof is in my pants. PE works.

Be safe, be conditioned, and be consistent.

Happy PEing!

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Welcome to the forums Misanthrope!

There is much more I can add at this time that the gentlemen haven't already stated so I just wanted to let you know that in addition to the many knowledgeable male members, there are also some helpful and supportive ladies available on the forum as well. We can often be located in the following forums:

A Woman's Perspective

Relationship Forum

The Gym