Not thick enough

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My story starts when I was 14. My first time was rough. Limp as could be. Caused from a bad case of performance anxiety but my girlfriend at the time was very supportive and before a few months were over I was rocking her world. I soon learned how to be good at cunnilingus which helped a lot. 16 hit and she left me to go be free and explore life etc. I was obviously devastated and performance anxiety sank in again (she to this day when I hear from her tells me I'm still the best she ever had). But after a few girls I got my mojo back and was in full swing. Girls loved me. I always ended up with short skinny girls. I could bottom out easily, and they were always a tight fit, always gripping me. I would last for as long as I wanted before coming. Hours sometimes. Time went on. I noticed for one my erection didn't seem as big or hard as it used to be. I also noticed I don't last as long now at 22. Maybe 15 minutes if I am lucky. But when 21 came. Girl after girl, I meet someone I fell for. She had had a kid before me about 2 years old. She was also taller and a bit heavier set than usual girls for me. I could tell my dick didn't fill her the same way it filled other girls. We started having sex but she never seemed very interested in it with me. We got serious but I always wondered why her sex drive was so low. A few months in she and I talked and she told me she had been with guys before that were big, her ex that she was with for 8 years was big. And apparently the guy she was seeing before I meet her was huge. She was the first girl that had ever faked an orgasm with me. I could tell because I didn't feel it or see it. She just pretended. I was obviously hurt by this. Not my pride but more hurt by the dishonesty in it. I could tell she got off with me going down on her but never during sex. I talked to her about her ow sex drive and she said she had always been like that but come to find out again later this wasn't the slightest bit true.

Then she bought a vibrator. Said it was for us but she just uses it while I'm at work (I am away 3 weeks on 3 weeks off). I used it with her one time and she got off. Finally confirming shed been faking it all along when I saw it. I confronted her about everything. Her exes, vibrator, faking, etc. She finally came clean (kinda). Telling me she loves me going down on her but she doesn't get off with sex with me but she had with other guys fine. We've been together a year (in 2 days).I finally got her to admit last week that she wishes my dick was wider. Apparently all the guys she had been with (most) were anywhere to slightly over average to humongous. I on the other hand stand at BPEL 6.25 and girth of 4.867. By her guess the guy before me was 9 inches and 6 inches in girth. and he got her off constantly. This hurt. A lot. Though I didn't let her see it. I want her continued honesty. She said I fuck better than anyone shes ever been with as well as go down. I learned early on how to hit the right spots and where the nerve endings were. But I wasn't thick. I wondered if maybe I lost size. Maybe shes just more loose. Maybe I wasn't lasting long enough. I can't let this continue I thought. and that lead me here. I am determined to gain as much girth as quickly as I can safely gain. If anyone has any tips or can point me in the right direction to gain girth (even 1/4 inch) quickly please share. I just want to be able to fill her like others could since it seems to be the only area in our relationship they did better.

[jackjohnson Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jackjohnson]

Some girls need a bigger dick. But maybe you can get your girth bigger to a point where she enjoys it.

Start with JP90 and also invest in a penis pump. With a penis pump you can at least get temporary girth if you pump it up right before sex.

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Beginning with the JP90 will give you great results, will condition your penis and will give you a base to design your own routine.

[5_in_model Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 5_in_model]

I think I am the only guy on the planet who is perfectly pleased and satisfied with being a 'skinny-dicked' dude........

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Your dick is normal, sounds like she could benefit from kegels.

You should consider another girl there are issues with this one. She is dishonest and I suspect other stuff.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Your dick is normal, sounds like she could benefit from kegels.

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1.8" dick is normal and her even saying that is really harmful, I honestly couldn't stay with my girlfriend if she said that to me (of course assuming you're telling us the story like it is). There is "could we use toys in the bedroom? PIV alone does not do it for me" and there is "my exes have all been hung and got me off like no other! Sorry pal, you're not doing it". It should make you worry how hurtful she was there more than anyhting.

I started out with 12-12.5cm girth myself by the way (+0.5cm right now, still relatively new) and it always did the job, my girlfriend and I have a great sex life, so you're certainly not too small in general. If you want to do PE go ahead, I do it myself, but please don't feel like you're doing it because otherwise you can't satisfy your girlfriend. I don't see that ending well...

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Your dick is normal, sounds like she could benefit from kegels.

3You should consider another girl there are issues with this one. She is dishonest and I suspect other stuff.

While we've had dishonesty issues in the past as of late we have gotten better. Not to sound crazy but lately I've gone as far as voice activated recorders while I'm away, using Spyware on her phone, looking at her time carda from work through online access. After a couple months of finding nothing I feel safe again that she has been telling the truth. My ex was a pathologic liar and a cheater so I found I've become a good lie detector but thank you. Once I explained to her the damage of the lies and why I quit trusting her she seems to have quit. She's proven loyalty through another incident as well where she would have benefited greatly from lying or flat leavi ng me she didn't flinch. Our relationship is much stronger now but at the time we meet she had growing to do (parental issues).

Thank you all for the reccomendation I will get started on JP90 tonight. That many reps 5 days a week isn't too much for a beginner? I have watched the videos and I think I can do them properly but it seems like alot to start. But I am dedicated to this.

I feel 4.867 is a bit skinny either way and still want to improve. But I will reccomend the kegals to her. She was very (after the initial shock of it) receptive when I suggested she lose weight (yes I'm an asshole but she gained 15 pounds when she was already over my usual taste) and no goes to the gym with me every morning. I'm lucky that now that we've built a more open an honest relationship she is very willing to hear my thoughts without getting offended and work towards improvements. Is there a good source of info that anyone knows for female kegals?

Also ive heard of edging before but never tried it but I want to get my stamina back to how I used to be. Is edging the most effective route to that and how much success is there too it in a time frame of a couple wweeks? Months? Years? Any specific routines to follow? And is it safe to use alongside PE

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1.8" dick is normal and her even saying that is really harmful, I honestly couldn't stay with my girlfriend if she said that to me (of course assuming you're telling us the story like it is). There is "could we use toys in the bedroom? PIV alone does not do it for me" and there is "my exes have all been hung and got me off like no other! Sorry pal, you're not doing it". It should make you worry how hurtful she was there more than anyhting.

I started out with 12-12.5cm girth myself by the way (+0.5cm right now, still relatively new) and it always did the job, my girlfriend and I have a great sex life, so you're certainly not too small in general. If you want to do PE go ahead, I do it myself, but please don't feel like you're doing it because otherwise you can't satisfy your girlfriend. I don't see that ending well...

Thing is she didn't willingly tell me these things I forced her to tell me. She was very hesitant. And she said she enjoys the sex a lot (I should have added her drive has gotten better, she says it's because of her added weight she doesn't feel sexy.) But she's the first girl I couldn't get off from PIV alone. I've probably made her out to be a massive bitch haha. Not my intention though. I was keeping the already long story short. She denied my smaller dick being a problem for a long time until last week.

Something odd she told me today though is. I was texting her and said so I'm going to be working on making my dick a little bigger in time. She said cool. Like it didn't matter. I asked for clarification on cool and she said "like right on. That's sweet" I expected more excitement. And when she told me about my width she said "your dick could be like a little wider but it's not a big deal babe". Mind yu this was during a me telling her how I feel not being able to get her off during PIV alone and basically not taking its fine for an answer.

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I did try purchasing a cock ring that I will use this time home (tomorrow) to see if the increased size from it will make a difference. If it does it will confirm I just need a bit more width (or more kegels for her)

I fear I'm also suffering from a bit of EQ issues. My erections is not as hard as it used to be and as I said my dick looks smaller than I remember from when I was younger. Maybe lots of dry nasturbation during my work in the oil patch did it. For a time I w a chain smoking and an alcoholic. But I've fixed that. I'm in phenomenal shape. I've quit smoking. Quit wat ch ing porn and masturbating down to once or twice a week only when I'm at work and still hasn't been the same. She said that right before I cum (when I finally ge t what j remember my erections being like) feels amazing. Is there a way to get that hardness back (alo ng with the increased girth I get with it)?

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If you're jelqing correctly, you should see a very quick rise in erection quality.

I started doing it mainly for penile health, since I like you, had a couple of years during studying where I was partying too much, and it got to effect my erections. I usually just brushed it off as being a) drunk or b) hungover, as that was usually the times I got laid, but during the early stages with my now current girlfriend, I could tell something was amiss.

I started the JP90 routine, and my erections are rock-hard again like when I was younger.
Regarding reps and days, you'll have to get a feel for it. Build up to the suggested number of reps in the routine over a month or so. If you start straight off with 150 jelqs (two strokes=one rep) and 90 V-jelqs 5 days a week, it might be too much for you.

Pay attention to your PI's and it should be fine. You might even get some fast gains given the improved erection quality. My stamina has also increased since starting the routine.

EDIT: P.S Your size is more than fine. A recent study using 3d printed phallic shapes suggested the most desirable girth for a long-term boyfriend was 4.8 inches, and your size is well in the average+ segment.

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If you're jelqing correctly, you should see a very quick rise in erection quality.

I started doing it mainly for penile health, since I like you, had a couple of years during studying where I was partying too much, and it got to effect my erections. I usually just brushed it off as being a) drunk or b) hungover, as that was usually the times I got laid, but during the early stages with my now current girlfriend, I could tell something was amiss.

I started the JP90 routine, and my erections are rock-hard again like when I was younger.
Regarding reps and days, you'll have to get a feel for it. Build up to the suggested number of reps in the routine over a month or so. If you start straight off with 150 jelqs (two strokes=one rep) and 90 V-jelqs 5 days a week, it might be too much for you.

Pay attention to your PI's and it should be fine. You might even get some fast gains given the improved erection quality. My stamina has also increased since starting the routine.

EDIT: P.S Your size is more than fine. A recent study using 3d printed phallic shapes suggested the most desirable girth for a long-term boyfriend was 4.8 inches, and your size is well in the average+ segment.

Great info man thank you. PI's? Sorry still picking up on terminology. And do you happen to have a link for the study I'm very interested in the read. I'm starting to wonder if being with a larger guy for 7 years on top of having a child may be affecting her more than I've let myself believe ut at the worst I could still use some better EQ

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No probs,

I'd say that's a good point of view. I believe kegels are encourged after child birth anyway to strengthen the muscles, and sometimes to prevent leakage.

Better EQ is always good, if not only for her, but for yourself as well. It's very satisfying being at your best when you get down to business. Some kegels on her part, and better EQ from you might very well be a good start for better sex

As for the study - PLOS ONE: Women's Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection among 3D Models

I'd also advice to have a quick read through https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...-acronyms.html to give you some more comprehension of the lingo that's used on the site.

As for PIs, it stands for physiological indicators. There's a great article about what to watch out for here:
https://www.pegym.com/articles/physi...p-penis-growth

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Tbh, you're very well off reading the content in this thread, not just the ones I linked.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...ers-forum.html

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While we've had dishonesty issues in the past as of late we have gotten better. Not to sound crazy but lately I've gone as far as voice activated recorders while I'm away, using Spyware on her phone, looking at her time carda from work through online access. After a couple months of finding nothing I feel safe again that she has been telling the truth. My ex was a pathologic liar and a cheater so I found I've become a good lie detector but thank you. Once I explained to her the damage of the lies and why I quit trusting her she seems to have quit. She's proven loyalty through another incident as well where she would have benefited greatly from lying or flat leavi ng me she didn't flinch. Our relationship is much stronger now but at the time we meet she had growing to do (parental issues).

Thank you all for the reccomendation I will get started on JP90 tonight. That many reps 5 days a week isn't too much for a beginner? I have watched the videos and I think I can do them properly but it seems like alot to start. But I am dedicated to this.

I feel 4.867 is a bit skinny either way and still want to improve. But I will reccomend the kegals to her. She was very (after the initial shock of it) receptive when I suggested she lose weight (yes I'm an asshole but she gained 15 pounds when she was already over my usual taste) and no goes to the gym with me every morning. I'm lucky that now that we've built a more open an honest relationship she is very willing to hear my thoughts without getting offended and work towards improvements. Is there a good source of info that anyone knows for female kegals?

Also ive heard of edging before but never tried it but I want to get my stamina back to how I used to be. Is edging the most effective route to that and how much success is there too it in a time frame of a couple wweeks? Months? Years? Any specific routines to follow? And is it safe to use alongside PE

You deserve each other.