GF satisfied with oral, dissapointed in sex?

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

Many men can't cum twice in a row.. the refractory period kicks in.
So if you want to fuck your girlfriend don't cum during the blowjob... use the blowjob as foreplay to the sex... have her stop the sucking and switch to fucking when you can tell your dick is hard and ready...figure out the timing of things.
Its not about your size...its about the fact you were semi and your penis was still recovering from cumming.
Most women don't come from just cock stimulation... its also quite normal for women to come from oral doesn't mean its better then 'sex' it just means its different part of sex a different sensation..Most couples switch it up going from oral to sex to oral to different positions .. sex is the whole experience not just the thrusting of penis and the cumming.

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

Thanks to everyone for all the thoughtful responses. I mean everyone. I have always beat myself over the head with this issue and have denied myself some perhaps very good sexual encounters knowing that I am very small down there. This girl does like me and enjoys having sex with me like i said she did orgasm from sex with me and orgasms regularly from oral. I just wonder if regular orgams from oral and occasional ones from sex is "good enough" for a girl. Is that enough for her to be satisfied? I can just tell she gets frustrated during sex when I "pop" out or dont get it in deep enough. She doesnt voice it or make me feel bad about it but I can just tell.

[mistydawn Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mistydawn]

I just wonder if regular orgams from oral and occasional ones from sex is "good enough" for a girl. Is that enough for her to be satisfied?

I think it depends on the woman. Some might be perfectly happy. Your girlfriend would be best to get the answer from. Ask her.

[PiNkY Member Find all posts View Profile Close PiNkY]

Thanks to everyone for all the thoughtful responses. I mean everyone. I have always beat myself over the head with this issue and have denied myself some perhaps very good sexual encounters knowing that I am very small down there. This girl does like me and enjoys having sex with me like i said she did orgasm from sex with me and orgasms regularly from oral. I just wonder if regular orgams from oral and occasional ones from sex is "good enough" for a girl. Is that enough for her to be satisfied? I can just tell she gets frustrated during sex when I "pop" out or dont get it in deep enough. She doesnt voice it or make me feel bad about it but I can just tell.

Maybe she gets frustrated because when she is about to orgasm it "pops" out and it frustrates her. Don't give up on yourself. As long as your dedicated to make her happy I honestly think that's all that matters.

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

Pinky:

Well obviously that is what is frustrating her, and I realize that I am small down there so thats why it happens and THAT is whats getting me depressed. I get her really riled up with oral and Ive made her cum but alot of times when she gets really hot and bothered she says "now fuck me" and thats when my penis fails me. It goes in while shes on top and she sort of rocks back and forth but if she attempts to bounce on it, thats when it wont stay in.

[daxx4u2 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close daxx4u2]

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Thanks to everyone for all the thoughtful responses. I mean everyone. I have always beat myself over the head with this issue and have denied myself some perhaps very good sexual encounters knowing that I am very small down there. This girl does like me and enjoys having sex with me like i said she did orgasm from sex with me and orgasms regularly from oral. I just wonder if regular orgams from oral and occasional ones from sex is "good enough" for a girl. Is that enough for her to be satisfied? I can just tell she gets frustrated during sex when I "pop" out or dont get it in deep enough. She doesnt voice it or make me feel bad about it but I can just tell.

ok...from my experience confidence is half the battle...you have to believe your good in bed...perhaps some affirmations...get some viagra...take some and have great sex with your lady...give her multiple orgasms anyway you can...reduce the dose over time...get your confidence up...and most importantly make sure she orgasms before you do...she will appreciate this and it will be a turn on for you...

just my 2 cents

[PiNkY Member Find all posts View Profile Close PiNkY]

Pinky:

Well obviously that is what is frustrating her, and I realize that I am small down there so thats why it happens and THAT is whats getting me depressed. I get her really riled up with oral and Ive made her cum but alot of times when she gets really hot and bothered she says "now fuck me" and thats when my penis fails me. It goes in while shes on top and she sort of rocks back and forth but if she attempts to bounce on it, thats when it wont stay in.

She also needs to know her limits. She is trying to ride you like if you have a 10 inch cock. Try teasing her with your cock. Get her on missionary and rub her clit with your penis, then stick the head in and continue to to rub her clit with your penis until she can't take the tease anymore and she tells you to stick your cock in her. Teasin her a lot will get her to have some pretty intense orgasms.

I aint got a big unit but trust me I've done this and it has done wonders for me and my girl.

If you want some tips of what you can do don't be afraid to ask. We are all here to help.

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

Thanks Pinky and daxx

Both very good pieces of advice. I do try to mix it up and she enjoys it often. I go down on her and get her really worked up until shes pulling my hair out of the follicles then put her legs up and put the tip in and out real slow and then take it out eat her some more and then go at it full on after wards. she seems to enjoy it ( i can tell from her face). I can tell she is enjoying and is turned on by what we do, but its just the things that she "tries" to do but CANT that upsets me and gets me down. like how she tries to bounce on it or asks me to hit her from the back but i cant get it in too deep so she says "ok lets switch again". But like I said she does get turned on by alot of what we do. Just cant do some other things, like go in deep or make long strokes or have her ride me that upsets me.

[PiNkY Member Find all posts View Profile Close PiNkY]

Thanks Pinky and daxx

Both very good pieces of advice. I do try to mix it up and she enjoys it often. I go down on her and get her really worked up until shes pulling my hair out of the follicles then put her legs up and put the tip in and out real slow and then take it out eat her some more and then go at it full on after wards. she seems to enjoy it ( i can tell from her face). I can tell she is enjoying and is turned on by what we do, but its just the things that she "tries" to do but CANT that upsets me and gets me down. like how she tries to bounce on it or asks me to hit her from the back but i cant get it in too deep so she says "ok lets switch again". But like I said she does get turned on by alot of what we do. Just cant do some other things, like go in deep or make long strokes or have her ride me that upsets me.

Well then it seems like you need to pick up a routine and work on make your unit bigger but before you do that throw all that stuff that lowers your confidence aside. Like they say " to succeed you must believe." So what I suggest is taking a break from sex and work on foreplay. Do this while you try to boost your confidence by trying to increase the size of your penis. Don't give up fit. I'm sure if you commit yourself to yourself your sex life and your life will get better

[DryJelq Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DryJelq]

Listen bud, I'm 4 inches NBPEL but I go into every fuck sesh thinking, I'm going to fuck her til she's bowlegged. She's going to be the wettest she's ever been and she's going to orgasm tonight, no matter what. I don't wish for this to happen, I make it happen. I might not have a big penis but that's not going to stop me from fucking as if I do! In my head, my dick is almost too big for her and it's reaching places in her vagina that's never been reached before. That's the mentality I have when I fuck a girl. And guess what, they love it. I've given a girl 4 orgasms in one night before. Second dates are inevitable. And thirds and fourths and fifths, etc. They start booty calling me instead of the other way around and before you know it, she's the one wondering if she's satisfying you!

I'm not trying to brag here. I just want you to know that even with a small penis, you can pleasure a girl like a bigger guy can or even better. As long as you're knowledgable about the female body, as long as you're confident, as long as you turn her on sufficiently before sex, and you know what you're doing in bed, she's probably going to enjoy it.

Fuck her like a man! Not a boy who's unsure of himself and constantly feeling inadequate. Women can sense the difference and it's that difference that makes good sex, not the extra inch or two.

Having said that, get that extra inch or two if it'll boost your confidence even more. I'm working on mine too.

Thinking back to my past experiences with women. I would always do my best when I took this approach. Last spring I met a girl and she told me she didn't cum very easily. The first time we had sex, she came.

Then the third time we had sex I was determined to make her cum really hard. The first round I could see her getting close and so I fucked her really hard trying to make her cum. But I lost it before she got there. We hung out for a few minutes and started again. I let her get on top cause she liked to get started that way. This time I was more patient, but still determined. She got really close to cumming and so I fucked her really hard again, but this time I waited until she was a lot closer. After about a minute, she finally came. I remember her ready to stop after cumming and I remember telling no fucking way we're stopping, you're gonna cum again. And so I fucked her even harder and she came about 20-30 second later and jumped off my dick saying "Holy Shit". I put her back on top of me as quick as I could and fucked her really hard again. She ended up cumming a third time dripping cum all over my stomach. She was shaking so hard and gasping I couldn't get her to hop back on again. I knew I could have made her cum a lot more, but she took too long getting back on and lost her orgasm, so I gave her a break.

When we continued sex, she was so wet I could hear a watery smacking sound every time I thrusted. She had probably 2-3 more orgasms while I was on top. After that I don't think I was hard enough to continue to make her cum. But we continued fucking for quite a while after that until I finally came my second time. That was the hottest sex I've ever had in my life. It wouldn't have happened if I didn't have the grit and determination to make her cum.

[DOA Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DOA]

^ It's all about getting your game face on. You get pumped before a big game/fight. You try to relax before an important exam. You do some pushups before hitting the beach/pool haha. It's all about mental preparation.

[sweetie52 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sweetie52]

Sometimes my pfl and I play games like who can hold out the longest. It kind of jump starts the sessions again and everyone is hard and ready-try it-you'll like it!!