cant cum during sex

[want2BIG Member Find all posts View Profile Close want2BIG]

crap i think ive given myself delayed ejaculation from edging with a hard grip also. Before pe i was a 20 minute man now i can last like an hour or more. Can i fix this by just lightening my grip while edging/masturbating ?

[zuljino1 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close zuljino1]

ya but if i dont masterbate then i cant even make it through 1 pe workout without having a huge problem with my erection level(it being way to high to do anything). also i only see my girl now like once every month if that.

[Flanker6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Flanker6]

All of these posts are right on the money. If I'm properly lubed up i can just rub with my fingers underneath the head and come from that.
Also one thing that helped me was to jelq slowly with a light grip, that brought more blood into my penis and with it more sensitivity. I had the same problem for a while and the majority of it is too much masturbation and porn watching.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

it's not just the physical part. it's also the mental.

if you get used to having an orgasm by yourself or if you're not used to people paying attention to your needs you grow accustomed to not having things touching you or your area. When that happens, you end up with anything that distracts you can push your further away from your orgasm. you really have to have an understanding woman and be up front about your situation with her. Communication is key, because women WILL take it personally if you don't cum.

the orgasm is all mental as is your erection. any time you have something disrupt your concentration you'll lose yourself and your orgasm will be harder to attain.

I envy the guys who have the ability to cum in 1 minute LOL! That's probably the most fascinating ability to me

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

crap i think ive given myself delayed ejaculation from edging with a hard grip also. Before pe i was a 20 minute man now i can last like an hour or more. Can i fix this by just lightening my grip while edging/masturbating ?

im planning to start edging with a hard grip.... i want my ejaculation time to be more delayed... but a question though....how does a hard grip cause delayed ejaculation?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Hard grip is an issue so is anxiety and other mental issues . It took some time but I have got over DE so can you guys.

[indianajones Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close indianajones]

Light grip and try to stop watching porn. If its to hard, maybe you can look at pictures or a soft porn. I have also suffered from DE and still have some minor issues, but its gotten better when i stopped with porn and started using a lighter grip. It will take some time, but just hang in there!

good luck!

[want2BIG Member Find all posts View Profile Close want2BIG]

well for me i think its made sex not feel as good. like sex doesn't feel tight enough

im planning to start edging with a hard grip.... i want my ejaculation time to be more delayed... but a question though....how does a hard grip cause delayed ejaculation?

[HotRod Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HotRod]

Too much porn/masturbation can cause this. Probably a good idea to reboot.

Bullshit. Pure bullshit.

[HotRod Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HotRod]

zuljino1,

Don't listen to any of the advice here about masturbation or pornography being your problem. I'm very serious about this. There's a lot of anti-porn and anti-masturbation propaganda in our world of late. It's virtually a throwback to the 19th century and it's sources are the same. It's a bunch of religious superstition dressed up as pseudo-scientific mumbo jumbo.

If you're serious about overcoming your very real problem, you'll listen to what I'm saying. It looks like other guys on this thread have already identified it as delayed ejaculation? Whatever you call it, it stems from similar problems as premature ejaculation.

Do some research on this AWAY from this forum. I can't emphasize this enough. Go find some valid medical and psychological information on your condition, hopeful from some sex therapy source. You're going to have to do some work on this.

I have suffered from the same thing with several sex partners throughout my life. No matter what, I will not have an orgasm. I don't care if the sex goes on for hours. It sucks. And it's not cool. It's not to be envied.

Usually for me, after about the 3rd or 4th time I'm with a woman I start to loosen up and things start flowing more naturally. Otherwise, yes, I'm forced to relieve myself privately with masturbation.

I can't solve your problem and I doubt anyone else here can either...especially this popular hysteria over masturbation and porn. Imagine that: guys on a penis enlargement site who are neurotic over porn and masturbation. Go figure.

My advice again is to research away from this forum and get some perspective on what it is that's going on with you emotionally. Try to relax deeply and not pressure yourself one way or the other when you're with a girl. Be patient with yourself. Seriously try to find some sort of sex therapist. Use Google. Go find somebody who works with male sex health issues like this and ask them about your situation.

[SuperDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperDude]

Bullshit. Pure bullshit.

Great post.

Im sure the delayed ejaculation has absolutely nothing to do with masturbating 10-30 times everyday.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

well for me i think its made sex not feel as good. like sex doesn't feel tight enough

i realy dont see how being able to fuck for a long time can not feel good and not feel tight.... i love being able to fuck for a long time.

[zuljino1 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close zuljino1]

also im hopeing the problem is also related to the fact that i have to use a condomn cause my gf isnt on the pill. she just got it and next time we see each other we arent useing one so hopefully itll be alot different

[sketch12345 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sketch12345]

I wish I had this problem. Everytime I had sex with my girlfriend I would try and last as long as i could which would usually be 5 minutes. After that I couldn't go a 2nd round and I was done. Longest I've lasted for was 20 and I can assure you I still hadn't satisfied my girlfriend.

sigh.

[sketch12345 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sketch12345]

This also strained my sexual abilities because I would have her in positions in which I could control and wouldn't be pounding her as hard as I wanted for fear that I would p.e. It really does suck, enjoy that gift while you can because I know I wish I had it.