Totally reamed by what girlfriend said to me

[oppo77 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close oppo77]

My (now ex) girlfriend and I were on really bad terms, so that may be one reason she said the following. However, I think she meant it in a physical sense too for the most part. Are you ready? This is a whopper!

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Disappointed in your desire to fuck when your cock is nonexistent; your perpetual desire for fornication when you have no tool to create said desire.


Your cock is actually the smallest penis I've seen in my life
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Hence the reason why I joined this forum today. lol

My penis is really small when flaccid. Maybe 2" long and 1" in diameter. That brings a lot of embarrassment to me in general. I avoid public showers at all costs, and I hold off on sex with any girl I date because I'm too worried about what will happen the first time she sees my dick.

HOWEVER, I'm a grower. My dick gets to 5" length and 1.3" diameter when hard. It's a HUGE difference (is this typical?). So I'm glad about that! I'm 43 yrs old, and my dick actually used to be bigger. Getting older sucks. To top it off, my erections are really soft these days and I often have a hard time getting it up at all (partly due to the nervousness I feel in terms of being inadequate). By the way my (ex) girlfriend also said, "I'm not fucking you again because I prefer men who can get hard and are good at fucking, and you aren't good at either". What a BITCH she was, for several reasons... Also, I've had girls tell me, "how did you get so good at that" after we've fucked. You can take this two ways -- A) you have a small dick but you use it very well, and B) you have a nice sized dick and you use it very well. I'm a very sensual person, good looking, give great oral, and I honestly think I'm one of the best fucks out there for my dick size. lol. However, due to my size, I often have a hard time cumming unless the girl's pussy is really tight because there's not enough friction (that sucks for the girl too, but there are sex positions you can use to help with that).

I've been jelquing for a couple weeks now and I definite notice my dick is a little fuller and a little more stiff when hard. I can feel it in my grip. I haven't measured it but it's maybe an eighth of an inch thicker, but mainly it feels "fuller". I'm optimistic.

I really don't care if I don't gain length (although I think I could gain an inch or more after reading some of these posts). My main concern is girth. Boy it would be great to get to 1.5" in diameter, but to be honest my goal is 6". I'm definitely below average girth wise, but no where near what my bitch ex-girlfriend said.

Can anyone give me hope and a timeframe for getting from 1.3" diameter to 1.5" diameter? Will it be possible to get to 2" diameter, and how long (assuming I'm diligent about it)?

Also, I worry that jelquing will soften my erections, can this happen? If I use a cock ring I can get my dick pretty hard, and it stays hard (I also have problems losing my erection during sex). So I hope the cock ring route will always be a solution.

Finally, I just bought a penis pump. I used one in the past and I remember my dick grew huge. It went up to nearly 7" and definitely gained girth but not as much as I wanted. I have potential. lol. I think a pump in combination with a cock ring will be a great way to start off sex. What I'm wondering is, what's the best way to use a pump to gain permanent girth? Is it safe to jelq after pumping, and if so what's the correct way to do it?

Thanks!

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Never believe what an "EX" girlfriend says.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

to the Gym oppo77!!


First of all, you're penis isn't small, as you said, she was probably trying to get at you, because she was mad at you for some reason, so don't take her words to heart, simply ignore what she said, you have nothing to worry about.

High EQ and good penile health can be achieved by PE exercises, and you can learn lots of helpful techniques and get great advice by following the links below, to become a really great lover and know how to use your penis for a great mutual experience.


Please READ THIS and pay attention to the safety section, before you pick a beginner's routine to follow for at least 90 days or until you stop gaining.

Most members here start with JP90, and gain fine from it, its an intense beginner's routine, so you may want to consider starting slow and increase workload gradually, I suggest you read all beginner's routines, and see which one suits you best, as you need to condition your penis first before you use devices.



Helpful jelqing Information (updated)

Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!

Newbie rant

Women and Size

The Perils of Goal-Oriented Sex

Debunking A Popular Myth About the Female Orgasm



When done correctly, PE will greatly improve your penile health and increase your EQ, in addition to size gains, but you need to be consistent, patient and persistent, please do as much research as you can, ask questions, follow safety and exercise instructions carefully and remember that PE is a long term process, don't rush it up.



For invaluable tips, information and advice, I highly recommend you to visit
http://www.thepassionatewife.com

And read through the following sub-forums as well, especially the stickies.

Relationship Forum

A Woman's Perspective

Premature Ejaculation Forum

Erectile Dysfunction Forum



Stamina exercises, may contribute to gains and penile health, I suggest you read the following links and follow a balanced regular and reverse kegels routine for optimum pelvic floor health and conditioning, and practice edging for more stamina and control.

Kegels: Only One Piece of the Equation to Strengthen the Pelvic Floor

Yoga Poses for Pelvic Floor Stretching - relax your muscles

Confusion with Reverse Kegels

Pelvic Floor Balance


Minuteman's PremE FAQ

Arousal Techniques

ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response

What we know so far about PE, its causes and its treatment


Edging 101

Edging For Premature Ejaculation

Edging - penis exercise For Size and Hardness

Edging Toward MMO


Good Luck!

[PanBird Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close PanBird]

Well, as you said it, your relationship couldn't have been so good when she said that. Your penis is a little below average at 5 and 4.1, although you know that it doesn't matter to sex, as your previous has told you. I guess your exgf was angry at you and wanted to make you feel bad. At 7'' pumped you're big! If it gets so much bigger when pumped, you need to work on your erection. You also said it has decreased in size since you've gotten older.

Your erections are probobly the problem. Remember to take pictures and accurate measurment. Write down BPEL, EG, NPBEL, FL, FG and stretched bone press length. Write them down, wait for MrB8 to give you links to all great info threads and then start reading and PE-ing

Good luck. As I said, work on your erections. If you said your BPEL was 7 when pumped, you'll likely reach 6 inches with only EQ work.

Mael out!

Well, you didn't have to wait. You rock Mrb8!

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

Definitely don't believe what your ex-girlfriend says to you because they are most likely trying to shoot you down in anyway possible to make yourself miserable.

[bored Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bored]

A lot of times a guys penis size is considered good while in the relationship, then the break up happens and she gets bitter. The small penis comments come out then. She's just trying to hurt you and kill your confidence so you won't hook up with anyone else.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

A lot of times a guys penis size is considered good while in the relationship, then the break up happens and she gets bitter. The small penis comments come out then. She's just trying to hurt you and kill your confidence so you won't hook up with anyone else.

Hit the nail on the head with a sledgehammer!

[Ill-gotten-gains Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ill-gotten-gains]

Ok dude very simply she has got to you hence you are on here.
secondly anyone who give such a negative comment is not worth shit in life, she can go fuck her self!
thirdly I used to be much more of a grower my self.
i mean from 2 1/2 inch to 6.7 ish so I got a huge amount of stick from rugby players and mates who caught a look and automatically stated I have a small cock and told anyone in a social situation.
that coupled with refusing to sleep with an ugly friend who only loves massive willy and is a total size queen and she went and told everyone I had a tiny willy.
i was so drunk I was not even fully erect!
basic psychology girls who can't get boyfriends tend to be size queens, you see it gives them power over men in their perception, when in actual fact they feel inadequate.
anyway moving on I am now hanging flaccid much larger around 4 inches and my size is BPEL 7.5x5.5mseg I measure bigger but this is what my average is.
i laugh because after 6 1/2 months all my mates still claim I have a tiny willy!
how little do they know!
so you are a master of your own destiny and give your self 2 years of PE trial and error and you will have a considerable large member.
the fact you are 5inches with a low eq shows you will improve quickly.
also Get your ass down the gym increase your testosterone and feel good about your self.
on your death bed do you want to feel like you wish you had a better out look on life ?
its not all about cock size!
oh and if anyone asks you about sex with your ex tell them she never really turned you on, this should cover all the negative shit she will no doubt spread behind your back.
peace!

[ChromaticMan Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ChromaticMan]

When a woman throws a blow about your penis she's intentionally trying to crumble your spirits in life. Unfortunately, it can happen. This shows how small of a person she is, and being apart from her is for the best; PERIOD!!! If she had an issue with your size, bringing it up as a break-up tactic is just small, small, small of her to do, and without a shred of integrity. If it bothered her it would have been mature and respectful to have kindly bowed out after your first intimate encounter. Any belittling after that is only showing what she is. DON'T GIVE IN TO THAT.

Regarding routines... I'm a fan of any pump that works in water (Bathmate, etc). However, I have an old air pump that works awesome in the tub (as good or better than my Bathmate), but comfort at the base can be a concern at times. However, I'm going to use it to get more ready for the Hydromax x40 (I should have got x30, but I was on the size cusp and made a call), which also gives me a freaky-fun loving tool for my woman. She watches me pump and supports my desire for greatness (LOL!). She (and other women) don't think I need it, but they get excited when I use it.

I've been "water" pumping for a short period of time, but have air-pumped off and on for over a decade and never fully thought air-pumping was worthy. If you're going to pump, I'd recommend using a pump that utilizes warm/hot water. You'll get a more even inflation and with far less time involved. Plus the results last longer and your erection doesn't feel exhausted like air-pumping will do.

Also, if you've pumped up to 7" then you definitely are a grower. Work it, but don't over-work it. AND...KEEP MOVING FORWARD!!!

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Nice first post ^ Welcome to the gym!

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Welcome to the gym oppo77!

Pay no attention to your ex, she is in your past now so don't carry her around in with you any-more, you have made a great choice to improve yourself! Everyone here is friendly and encouraging, and will help your on your way to your goal.

No-one can give you an exact time frame for gains since we are all different, concentrate on penis health like MrB8 says and gains will come on their own.

Always be sure to warm up/down, take rest days to recover/grow and listen to what your body is telling you (PI's - your key to gaining).

Lots of luck brother, stay positive!

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

First off, the penis does not shrink when you get older at all. I am 42. You may be getting the full erection but a healthy life-style will help with that. Secondly, when a woman insults your manhood down there, more than likely you did something to piss her off for her to say that and even spread that around.

Now, you can pump all you want but they are temporary cellular walls expansions.
You need to get back to the roots of PE; this is where a beginner's routine calls your name.

Be fully ware that actual gains take a lot of work and time and safety protocols which my friend you are not following which will lead you to dysfunctional penis down the road. So, here is the link to JP's 90 day which I advise you to read with full attention. Further more read, read, and read some more about PE and unsafe PE with it to education yourself. I would rather have your woman see your penis erect than plump limp and so would she.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...r-routine.html

[scaryperson27 Member Find all posts View Profile Close scaryperson27]

Well, this is just motivation to get on the ball with PE. Get on a plan and make things happen. If your EQ is bad, you will have pretty quick gains with that alone. No girlfriend just means more time to get bigger.

In order to figure out what some of your potential is you should see what your flaccid stretch is. Also, bone pressed measurements are more accurate than non bone pressed due to the fact that you could loose or gain a fat pad.

Lastly, keep a good eye on your PIs. Any negatives means your going too hard. It's worth it to have good PIs in that you will get better growth, and also you don't want all of your hard work just turtling into a shriveled nothing. You want it to hang out there like a trophy paying you for all your efforts.

Good luck with everything and I hope you accomplish what you want. Just keep in mind, it's important what you think about yourself not what others think about you.

[gonbbig Member Find all posts View Profile Close gonbbig]

Tell her its not small, she just has a big stretched out vagina.

Or as Andrew dice clay said "well if its so small you won't mind if I shove it in your ass"

Lol no, all kidding aside, you came to the right place sir. Stick with it and from here on out your penis will be nothing but a healthier tool. That is, as long as you do it safely! Welcome aboard! And screw her, she's your ex for a reason.

[mcpecker Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mcpecker]

Congrats on no longer being with her.