General Thread - Dealing with Life

[smallpackageRay Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close smallpackageRay]

Group post for stories about what it was like growing up and today dealing with penis challenges. Whether they are embarrassing stories or not it's okay. We are amongst friends. Hopefully we can motivate each other for better days.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Ever go to the urinal and have trouble pulling your dick out of your Jockey shorts and than have to hold on tight just to keep from peeing on yourself while the guy next to you whips out 5 inches and lets it hang there pissing while he reads a news paper with both hands?

[smallpackageRay Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close smallpackageRay]

I agree. I don't know how many times I've used an urinal and then while zipping up find out the fly got in the way and is all wet.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I found the following old post on the other PE forum by a member reflecting on his 1.5" growth from 5.5" EL and thought it pretty much summarized many of my fears:
"I started a thread a while back called insecurities of a small penis and went through some of my fears I had. They were showers, doctors, skinny dipping, peeing, shrinkage after sex, and even the morgue (for fear of laughing at it while I was dead). I believe it had some affect on my mental health because I obsessed so much about it. But, if I didn't obsess I would be free from that "curse" now"

I was wondering how many of us in this Group had/have these and other fears, especially because we are under 5". I got a laugh out of his fear of the morgue because I have often had this same thoufgt while attending a wake. In fact, I was recently reminded of this old fear while attending the wake of a close friend who passed at the age of 67, 6 months younger than I. It made me more determined to pursue PE knowing that my time may not be that far away.

Any others delayed having sex until later in life for fear of revealing their size to a girl friend? Never considered a "ho" for the same reason.

[aXeHaNdLeR Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close aXeHaNdLeR]

Yeah n2b, I have/had some of those fears, too. The whole experience with being under-endowed for me has been at the very least embarrassing. And since I've gotten older and have experienced some health changes (ED among the others), I'm taking it seriously and am working to change it all but the key factor/situation that has to be addressed first is the excessive weight.

Because of the extra weight, an already small penis is rendered practically invisible in almost every position I can put my body in. I see no practical way (for the time being) to even do a modified version of PE. I simply do not have enough to work with until more of this weight can be taken off.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Don't let it get you down aX. I don't have a serious weight problem, but I do have a short dick, I am going to be 69, and I also have ED. I have been working on PE for 18 months and have gained perhaps 1/2 inch EL which is enough to encourage me to continue on. I found that pumping provided me a lot of incentive, because the temporary growth (after a pumping session, I am now up over 1/2" EL and up to 3/4" in EG) lets me know what it is like to have and put to use an average sized dick, albeit for only an hour or two. It may be something you want to look into.

If you can find a way to loose weight, you may be able to achieve significant NBPEL without having to suffer through 9 months of extender use in combination with pumping and other PE techniques, which I had to undergo to gain 1/2 inch. In the meantime, start doing one handed jelqs like smallpackageray and I do to start conditioning and preparing your dick for other PE techniques.

You will need a positive attitude and not an overly ambitious goal (perhaps just improving dicks health and your ED) to begin with.

Feel free to ask questions.

[closeed258 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closeed258]

i have many of the same fears, and my insecurities have lead me to be suicidal have depression and social phobia,( mainly because my cock is so small and looking like a dick head when i avoid sex with fit girls, so people wont find out how small i am but then instead they think im gay) , at my lowest point i didnt leave the house for nearly a year and attempted suicide and still recovering from depression and anxiety now, but since i started reading this site and reading about what other people have gained ive got a whole new buzz about me, and thats before ive even gained anything just the knowing its possible gets me excited and if i could get to be 6x5.5 or even 5.75x5 just any where close to being mr average im sure it will completely turn my life around, and i could just get on with life

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Since joining the forum, I started dreaming and imagining about being 6 x 5 (Mr. Average), but since I have lived with a 4.5 x 4.25 for so many years and because 18 months of dedicated PE has generated only a 1/2 inch gain in EL, I decided to set my sights on 5.5 x 5, which I now believe is an attainable goal, perhaps within the next 12 months. If you set your goal too high, your are setting yourself up for further dissappointment. Before joining PEG, being 5.5 would have been beyond my wildest dreams.

As I mentioned in my previous post, pumping has done wonders to improve my self confidence and has markedly improved my sex life. I have been married for 40 years (as of yesterday) and my wife has not once commented on my size. I have ED, but with a Viagra and a constriction band around my unit, I can get a good 9+ EQ erection. In fact, this morning, I had my wife moaning. As long as you can get it up, don't let your size stop you from approaching a caring partner. When the lights go out and emotions are rising, size goes out the window and neither really cares as long as you are offering kind and caring love.

I held off until I was almost 29 before starting a serious relationship. Looking back on it now, after 40 years of experience, I realize what a jerk I was and how I wasted 10 years when I could have been enjoying sex just like all mt friends.

[closeed258 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closeed258]

not2big, its good to see that being small hasnt stopped you from holding down a long term relationship(congrats on 40 years,wow) i too would be happy if i managed 5.5''EL but i personally dont think i can even try to be in a relationship until im close to 5.5 or being 'mr average'. seems like you have a great wife, but finding someone who is understanding is not easy, and i feel if i tried to find somebody like that now it would take a lot of searching, dissapointment and massive blows to my confidence, i really dont think i can take anymore dissapointment just yet.
i really have got everything on PE, whether it succeeds or not that will determine how my future will be.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

1471988. Based on your signature, your girth puts you bigger than me. Don't let your size stop you from approaching women. You can let the relationship and feelings build over time. If there is indeed a spark between the two of you, your size should not deter the development of a true loving relationship. Just don't rush into anything until the spark is confirmed. The first time I spent the night with my wife, I couldn't even get it up, but she truly enjoyed the oral. Sex and love doesn't have to depend on deep penetration. I can pleasure my wife with just my glans in her vagina or just rubbing her clit with my head and hands. In fact, we both orgasmed without penetration several days ago. Trust me, size does not matter if the feelings between the two of you are true.

[closeed258 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closeed258]

i understand what your saying n2b, but because of my size thats completely shaped who i am now, five years ago i was one of the most confident out going people you would meet, but knock backs from my size has completely changed me, you would think i was a completely different person, i need to get more confident like befor and the only way i think i can do that is through making my penis bigger so im more comfortable being me, thats the only thing holding me back, in a couple of weeks im gonna buy a 'self help' book and cd on how to be more confident, its like a hypnosis thing, i think that along with some gains will make make a new man, hopefully anyway

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I guess you are the best judge of what it will take, However, don't expect PE to generate overnight gains. It took me over 15 months to gain about 1/2". It doesn't sound like much, but when you are starting at 4.5 it represents more than a 10% gain.

[closeed258 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closeed258]

one other thing that bothers me about my size is not being able to wear some types of jeans an trousers, they basically highlights the fact that i have pretty much nothing underneath and i hate it when i catch a girl either just noticing or checking out my package or even when a guy notices, im 100% straight but i notice guys packages just by accident and when i look down at mine to compare its almost like a barbie doll

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I am also not gay, but I find myself occasionally checking out the size of the guy's penis at the next urinal. I guess I am curious to see if there really are other guys as small as me or at least close to my size. I of course use two hands just to be sure nobody gets to see mine.

[stormstorm Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close stormstorm]

Hey guys. I'm so glad i found this group. Found out about PE over a year ago but not really started until two weeks ago. Apart of me got so angry reading post from guys that where 7+ inches in EL and still insecure about there size. I am about 4.7-5 in NBPEL and about 5 in EG. I too am going for that 6x5 average. My main consern or fear is public urinals. I just can't pee in public so it stops me having a good time if i am out. Only had one girlfriend who didn't mind about the size at all but i do think i messed up on so many others because i was to scared to make a move. What i wouldn't give just to be average. Busy getting fit at the moment. I am 12 stone can run 10k and i am ok looking and play guitar in a rock band but its the size of my penis that is at the base of my confidence. So no matter how much the other stuff builds it up that brings it back down again. People keep saying size dosn't matter and stuff but i don't know. Its like i keep flirting with my singer but she has a boyfriend but yes i would do the naughty. haha she is unbelievevly hot. But its that fear of getting half way and being smaller and embaressed. So many fears and all to do with the size. Public nudity of any kind would be my worse nightmare. I'm not sure what i am saying, just ranting and getting things of my chest. Will try and stay positive. PE has improved my flacid length. Used to stay between 1-3 inches but mainly 1. Currently its spending most of its time in the 2-3.5 area. Thats the most important gains to mean. Just so i've got something to pull out at a urinal. At least if i am with a girl i have other oppertunitys to take her mind of the size with romance and forplay. haha i could write for hours but will just be repeating what everybody else has said. But its finally nice to be in the same boat as someone else.
Storm