Big time confidence/no anxiety

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

The other night I was having sex with my girl I noticed I was entering the PONR. At that point I stopped penetration, did a strong reverse kegel to stop ejaculation and, then started up again. After a while, I reached the PONR again. Instead of doing a reverse kegel, I decided to do the "tongue on the roof of my mouth" trick, but this time it didn't work so well because I hadn't had sex for about 3 days so I was extra sensitive and a huge load wanted to burst out.
When I noticed that the trick didn't work I stopped stimulation again, did a hard reverse kegel to stop ejec and then kept going. Every time I did this my girl got closer and closer to orgasm and eventually she did. Usually her moans and excitement take me over the edge but at one point it was the satisfaction and confidence of hearing her moan and feel ecstasy with me that made me last longer. That super confidence and 0 anxiety is what made me last longer after that and I was able to make her orgasm a few more times. I noticed that as long as I'm worrying if I will make her orgasm or not or if I can last through the PONR or not, it's gonna make me tense and it's gonna make me ejac prematulry.
So now I am true believer that sex is mostly mental, but I can attest to the fact that it is physical as well.(you need to do the many exercises, use a tighter grip, stop watching porn, etc....
....But the point of my post here is that confidence and zero anxiety is a big part of lasting a long time in bed. That's why it's very important to have a very loving caring patient and cooperative lover in bed who gives you constant sex. I know this is hard to find, but unfortunately, it is the truth and the best way to get over prem ejac. So guys...... keep doing your exercises, etc.... but until you find that special girl, do not take all of this so seriously..... Concentrate more on school and work and bettering yourself as a man.....your transition into a sex God will come later with time when you find the right girl and you start edging sessions with her love muffin.

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...That super confidence and 0 anxiety is what made me last longer after that and I was able to make her orgasm a few more times. I noticed that as long as I'm worrying if I will make her orgasm or not or if I can last through the PONR or not, it's gonna make me tense and it's gonna make me ejac prematulry.
So now I am true believer that sex is mostly mental, but I can attest to the fact that it is physical as well.(you need to do the many exercises, use a tighter grip, stop watching porn, etc....
....But the point of my post here is that confidence and zero anxiety is a big part of lasting a long time in bed. That's why it's very important to have a very loving caring patient and cooperative lover in bed who gives you constant sex. I know this is hard to find, but unfortunately, it is the truth and the best way to get over prem ejac. So guys...... keep doing your exercises, etc.... but until you find that special girl, do not take all of this so seriously..... Concentrate more on school and work and bettering yourself as a man.....your transition into a sex God will come later with time when you find the right girl and you start edging sessions with her love muffin.

This is an EXCELLENT post! You've found that mental/emotional "sweet spot"

[Battleship Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Battleship]

The other night I was having sex with my girl I noticed I was entering the PONR. At that point I stopped penetration, did a strong reverse kegel to stop ejaculation and, then started up again. After a while, I reached the PONR again. Instead of doing a reverse kegel, I decided to do the "tongue on the roof of my mouth" trick, but this time it didn't work so well because I hadn't had sex for about 3 days so I was extra sensitive and a huge load wanted to burst out.
When I noticed that the trick didn't work I stopped stimulation again, did a hard reverse kegel to stop ejec and then kept going. Every time I did this my girl got closer and closer to orgasm and eventually she did. Usually her moans and excitement take me over the edge but at one point it was the satisfaction and confidence of hearing her moan and feel ecstasy with me that made me last longer. That super confidence and 0 anxiety is what made me last longer after that and I was able to make her orgasm a few more times. I noticed that as long as I'm worrying if I will make her orgasm or not or if I can last through the PONR or not, it's gonna make me tense and it's gonna make me ejac prematulry.
So now I am true believer that sex is mostly mental, but I can attest to the fact that it is physical as well.(you need to do the many exercises, use a tighter grip, stop watching porn, etc....
....But the point of my post here is that confidence and zero anxiety is a big part of lasting a long time in bed. That's why it's very important to have a very loving caring patient and cooperative lover in bed who gives you constant sex. I know this is hard to find, but unfortunately, it is the truth and the best way to get over prem ejac. So guys...... keep doing your exercises, etc.... but until you find that special girl, do not take all of this so seriously..... Concentrate more on school and work and bettering yourself as a man.....your transition into a sex God will come later with time when you find the right girl and you start edging sessions with her love muffin.

Indeed thats true! Well done

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Actually I do not find this a positive post at all . The reason is this
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porn, etc....
....But the point of my post here is that confidence and zero anxiety is a big part of lasting a long time in bed. That's why it's very important to have a very loving caring patient and cooperative lover in bed who gives you constant sex
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Now you basic say you are wasting your time until you have one of these, I find that very negative . It is also untrue.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

Actually I do not find this a positive post at all . The reason is this
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porn, etc....
....But the point of my post here is that confidence and zero anxiety is a big part of lasting a long time in bed. That's why it's very important to have a very loving caring patient and cooperative lover in bed who gives you constant sex
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Now you basic say you are wasting your time until you have one of these, I find that very negative . It is also untrue.

I may be mistaken, but I said it was a huge part of the cure, not the ONLY part. That's why I say it is mostly mental. The fact is that edging, ballooning, death grip and stopping porm really did help, donindo encourage people to keep at the exercises.... but one time I was able to edge for 1 hour during masturbation but I was only able to last minutes during sex.....so that's why now I think the mental side is just as important or maybe more. Every time after my GF orgams, I feel so great about myself and it feels like I get a huge rush of testosterone through my body, my penis gets less sensitive and I'm able to keep pumping her deep and hard as she has more orgasms. Could it be that there is a chemical change in your body when you feel so confident and have zero anxiety??? I just don't want guys here to obsess over their prem ejac and concentrate on other parts of their lives untill they find a nice, constant sex partner to edge with because that will boost the confidence and lower the anxiety. I feel that it is a very huge part of the cure. We all feel too much pressure and anxirety and we worry when we sleep with a hot stranger or a girl who gets too crazy and wants it fast and hard all the time.
THAT is a big reason we can't last long enough..... yeah.... life is not fair.... but we can all hope for the best and do our exercises in the meantime.....

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

* The fact is that edging, ballooning, death grip and stopping porn really did help, so I do encourage people to keep at the exercises...

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

*a nice, patient, caring, supportive and loving sex partner who gives you constant sex and who you can do edging exercises with during sex.
(Yes.... this person is very hard to find, but it is THE best thing/cure for prem ejac, next to the many great exercises we do during masturbation/solo edging)

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

On the other hand....... there are some sexual positions where I feel very confident and very powerful, where I should feel zero anxiety and where my girl screams in extract, but they make me get to the PONR very quickly.
So.....the physical aspect is obviously just as important.
There might never be a cure for those super exciting and stimulating positions and I guess we just have to get used to them, so.....I guess we can say that we can only control sex physically and mentally to a certain extent.

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*where she screams in ecstasy.

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

Well, I have a loving, patient partner, but I still have PE

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

I agree mental part is important, and I do last longer when I am more relaxed, but there are times when I have zero anxiety and big confidence, and things are going well, I fuck her hard, but I still reach PONR after 30-40 seconds.I can manage to last longer, but I have to change my body position, depth of thrusting etc.So, I am convinced in my case its not mental, but I rather do believe its physical and maybe chemical.I am working again on death grip, until recently I couldnt edge properly because of a condition called Frenulum Breve, now after I am better, I am edging properly.

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*a nice, patient, caring, supportive and loving sex partner who gives you constant sex and who you can do edging exercises with during sex.
(Yes.... this person is very hard to find, but it is THE best thing/cure for prem ejac, next to the many great exercises we do during masturbation/solo edging)

Uh huh look many guys will live their whole lives without one of these and you must know that having been onsite as long as you have. Here you seem to suggest you are basic wasting your time without one.
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That's why it's very important to have a very loving caring patient and cooperative lover in bed who gives you constant sex. I know this is hard to find, but unfortunately, it is the truth and the best way to get over prem ejac. So guys...... keep doing your exercises, etc.... but until you find that special girl, do not take all of this so seriously..... Concentrate more on school and work and bettering yourself as a man.....your transition into a sex God will come later with time when you find the right girl and you start edging sessions with her love muffin.

[Drjohn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drjohn]

I would say the biggest reason to PE is the grip, sure anxiety and tense muscles but mainly grip

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

I would say the biggest reason to PE is the grip, sure anxiety and tense muscles but mainly grip

How do you know that?What is your condition and experience?

[Drjohn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drjohn]

Almost everyone with de here used firm grips, Those with loose grip have PE. Not 100% but if you ask me that is true.

I myself masturbated with just 4 fingers veeery loose and that is less tight than any pussy. I have PE.

I started Edging with a firm grip Every day to rewire My brain and i would say i see progress