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i've been with my girlfriend for a month now and it's been the best relationship i've been in already. before i continue with this post, i want to stress the importance of the relationship between you and whoever you're engaging with. whether that be a long term commitment or a one night stand, both have different expectations and realities. i believe that being in a stable relationship with an understanding and passionate girl has made it a lot easier to discover my own problems but also uncover some confidence that i didn't know i had, in and out of bed.
anyways, on to specifics. i'm going to explain the first 4 times we had sex and the approach i took to the problems i faced each time.
1.
...this was an embarrassment because number 1 didn't even happen. i couldn't get hard. we had simply engaged in some minor foreplay and i was ready to go but as soon as i took the condom out i was limp as could
be. her first reaction was "this has never happened to me before" and i automatically was like fuck.. but i assured her that it wasn't her and that i was just nervous (and it was freezing cold)
2. after hearing about the 1st time, this might sound insane; but this time was absolutely incredible, even more for her. she started dry humping me and at first i was fine, but within a couple minutes i came because of the friction. i ignored it though because i still was so turned on and i was still hard so we proceeded to taking our clothes off. as she pulls out my dick she asked "did you already cum?" and i said nah, just precum and she believed me (hahaha). the little white lie never hurt because i then proceeded to have sex with her until she literally couldn't go anymore, and i still had a lot of stamina left (i didn't cum a 2nd time). this was the ultimate redemption and being able to go at it for 15 or so minutes without the urge to cum really helped me focus on the sensations and being aware of my pelvic floor tension.
3. 3rd time is a funny story, we were at a party and ventured into a room and started fooling around. i told her i didn't have any condoms but then she told me she was on birth control and wanted to fuck. i trust her enough so i was down, and this was my first time ever having raw sex with anyone. as soon as she got on top and put it in, i kegeled extremely hard due to the sensation that i had never felt before. at that moment i really learned to appreciate condoms because i knew this wasn't gonna end well haha. but we went for about a minute and just as i'm bout to blow someone walks into the room so immediately she rolled off and i somehow didn't have blue balls the next day.
4. all of the above, in one. haha we were just at home and we both agreed we wanted to fuck. i straight up told her i didn't have a condom and that i had never had raw sex before (besides example 3) so the sensation would most likely be too much at first so she should make me cum. she laughed at me and asked what felt so different about it and i made it very clear that it feels really good and that i wanted to get used to it. so she began to ride me and i lasted probably 2 minutes before cumming in her, but i remained hard so she kept going. after awhile the mini refractory period went away and i was pounding her deep and raw, not holding back at all.
so my question is:
is it practical to cum once and then continue? i realize not everyone has the privilege to birth control but will i eventually learn to not need to cum twice?
anyways, on to specifics. i'm going to explain the first 4 times we had sex and the approach i took to the problems i faced each time.
1.
...this was an embarrassment because number 1 didn't even happen. i couldn't get hard. we had simply engaged in some minor foreplay and i was ready to go but as soon as i took the condom out i was limp as could
be. her first reaction was "this has never happened to me before" and i automatically was like fuck.. but i assured her that it wasn't her and that i was just nervous (and it was freezing cold)
2. after hearing about the 1st time, this might sound insane; but this time was absolutely incredible, even more for her. she started dry humping me and at first i was fine, but within a couple minutes i came because of the friction. i ignored it though because i still was so turned on and i was still hard so we proceeded to taking our clothes off. as she pulls out my dick she asked "did you already cum?" and i said nah, just precum and she believed me (hahaha). the little white lie never hurt because i then proceeded to have sex with her until she literally couldn't go anymore, and i still had a lot of stamina left (i didn't cum a 2nd time). this was the ultimate redemption and being able to go at it for 15 or so minutes without the urge to cum really helped me focus on the sensations and being aware of my pelvic floor tension.
3. 3rd time is a funny story, we were at a party and ventured into a room and started fooling around. i told her i didn't have any condoms but then she told me she was on birth control and wanted to fuck. i trust her enough so i was down, and this was my first time ever having raw sex with anyone. as soon as she got on top and put it in, i kegeled extremely hard due to the sensation that i had never felt before. at that moment i really learned to appreciate condoms because i knew this wasn't gonna end well haha. but we went for about a minute and just as i'm bout to blow someone walks into the room so immediately she rolled off and i somehow didn't have blue balls the next day.
4. all of the above, in one. haha we were just at home and we both agreed we wanted to fuck. i straight up told her i didn't have a condom and that i had never had raw sex before (besides example 3) so the sensation would most likely be too much at first so she should make me cum. she laughed at me and asked what felt so different about it and i made it very clear that it feels really good and that i wanted to get used to it. so she began to ride me and i lasted probably 2 minutes before cumming in her, but i remained hard so she kept going. after awhile the mini refractory period went away and i was pounding her deep and raw, not holding back at all.
so my question is:
is it practical to cum once and then continue? i realize not everyone has the privilege to birth control but will i eventually learn to not need to cum twice?
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