Pre-E Panic

[black_thor Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close black_thor]

So I've been following along for a few months, I've been RK everyday and edging to my imagination can reach 30 mins easily.15-30 when I edge to erotica. So I know it's just down to my arousal I cannot control when it comes to sex as BJs are fine. Now when it comes to sex I cannot last at all. RKs do not work and slow breathing. I reach PONR straight away. Getting to the point where I might go docs and get SRSS as it's effecting my daily life and my relationship. My pre-e has actually gotten worse.

I've read the stickies so I know where to look. Just want reassurance and advice really.

[ThrowAway99 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThrowAway99]

Well, try to separate out what makes BJs and sex different?

Position
Activity level (you're thrusting)
Visual and audio stimulation
Anxiety level (need to perform)

Anything else?

If not, start working at each of these factors individually, to increase your threshold for performance. IE, position - is your endurance longer simply when you're lying down or at the edge of a bed, vs when you're standing up or kneeling? Perhaps this has to do with your flexibility; spend some extended time kneeling (read a book or watch a movie etc).

Activity level - is your breathing staying steady while you're thrusting? Are you feeling tension at each end of the thrust? If so, again, gotta loosen up.

Visual and audio stimulation - Doesn't seem like this is your issue, since you get 15-30 to erotica, but it's another thing to look at.

Anxiety level - Communicate that you want to get better, help involve her in your practice, and also eat her out more/better (look up Nina Hartley's tutorial vid for example)

Keep going with the RK+K routines -- these alone will help make a lot of progress for you. But now that you're on your journey, these additional things can help you in your particular case. Good luck.

[Dangler Senior Administrator☼ Wizard ☼ White Tiger Award 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Dangler]

Your edging partner (your hand) is not the same as you 'other' partner.

So, you get your partner to work with you (what a unique idea) to help you edge together !

[black_thor Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close black_thor]

I haven't been doing regular Kegaling will that affect my balance?