Hey guys, just a bit of background for you.
I'm 25 and have been single all my life, I never really care about chasing girls like many of my friends did, and never cared much for going out to parties and things like this, so I never met any girls.
At 21 I went backpacking and lost my virginity to a prostitute in Asia in which I came within about 1 minute.
After that I traveled and met another girl, who you could say was the first girl I ever did anything sexual with in my life except for the one off 1 minute missionary style sex prior.
With this girl I really struggled to get hard, I had no idea how to have sex and even when we tried I would never be hard enough to enter her, and the one time I did after spending 4 or 5 nights together, I came instantly and it was so late at night that we were both half asleep.
I think I was just so nervous and so scared it ejaculating fast that I couldn't even maintain an erection for penetration although I could get hard for oral and using hands etc.
Either way it was still a very good experience and although we didn't have sex really, I gained some sexual experience in oral sex, playing and just becoming more familiar with the female body.
Anyway after that I traveled for another few years and met many girls but never did anything sexual, although I did go on several dates and kissed one or two other girls, nothing sexual happened.
Fast forward to now, I'm living in China and met a girl out here who has been my girlfriend since mid November and premature ejaculation is a real problem.
The first night we stayed together we couldn't have sex as she had to see the gyno the following morning for a routine check and was forbidden to have sex, but we still played with each other and touched, fingered etc and I ended up ejaculating without even having sex, I think she literally only played with it a little bit and I busted.
This happened on a few separate occasions but I managed to hide it several times from her, but after a few weeks this was no longer a problem.
However sex was the new issue and again in the beginning I couldn't get hard enough to have sex with her and when I did I remember just having absolutely no feeling what so ever, my penis literally felt numb.
I knew it was just due to nerves and bought some viagra from the pharmacy which allowed us to have sex, I used it a few times and then bought some natural supplements as I didn't want to rely on viagra.
Anyway, after several weeks and getting more confident with the whole concept I no longer needed viagra and now I could ejaculate although way too fast than I would have liked.
Honestly speaking I can't remember exactly how long I lasted the first time I entered her with full feeling, but I'm pretty sure it was over almost instantly.
We started having sex more and more often and getting erect was no longer an issue, the new and still ongoing issue is the duration of which we can have sex before I ejaculate.
I began researching a lot on PremE around December time I suppose and I did a lot of research.
I began edging, ballooning, doing kegals (before I knew about reverse kegals) and also read several books on becoming multi orgasmic and lasting longer and I incorporated these techniques in to my routine and the edging became very good.
I was able to control my arousal levels, incorporate some taoist methods such as pushing the golden point, bringing sexual energy up through the spine etc and it was all going well.
I built myself up to 30 minutes with my hand using lube and that was in varying positions, thrusting and using lube, however sex was still hit and miss.
At times I would cum within seconds or minutes and on the very rare occasion I would last 5-10 minutes but I can count how many times that has happened on 1 hand.
I incorporated reverse kegals about 3 months ago and still having issues.
I decided about 2 months ago to buy a STU which the first time I used I lasted about 20 minutes with but could have gone longer.
After that my time got worse and worse and everything which was going well started to feel like I was going backwards.
I could no longer edge for 30 minutes with my hand, with the STU my time became less and less and would occasionally ejaculate within a few minutes.
Annoyingly I've also not been able to have sex with my girlfriend for the past 6 weeks or so as she wanted to restore the flora in her vagina as she was having some issues with it and now she has another issue with it so we still haven't had sex, so I'm out of practice.
I took a break fro kegals as I felt they may have been making things worse as I had read that this is the case sometimes and as I had started to incorporate a lot more kegals in to my routine I figured this may have also been an issue.
Also doing hindu squats and have been back at the gym for about 4 months doing wright training, including squats.
Sorry for the long post guys, I've been really racking my brains about what's going on and what to do.
Any advice greatly appreciated.
Will post my PremE diary later on here as have been recording the data from that for the last few months.
Thankyou so much.
TL: DR
*extreme premature ejaculation from being extremely un sexually active and bad masturbation habits.
*ejaculated multiple times from just touching and before even 'putting it in'
*usually last about 1 minute or even just a few thrusts at times.
*occasionally I can go for a few minutes and once or twice I managed around 5-10 minutes.
*have been doing kegals(currently taking a break from them ) , RK's, hindu squats and recently incorporated tennis ball massage, cobra pose and child pose stretches as well as dry death grip edging, ballooning and using STU.
I'm 25 and have been single all my life, I never really care about chasing girls like many of my friends did, and never cared much for going out to parties and things like this, so I never met any girls.
At 21 I went backpacking and lost my virginity to a prostitute in Asia in which I came within about 1 minute.
After that I traveled and met another girl, who you could say was the first girl I ever did anything sexual with in my life except for the one off 1 minute missionary style sex prior.
With this girl I really struggled to get hard, I had no idea how to have sex and even when we tried I would never be hard enough to enter her, and the one time I did after spending 4 or 5 nights together, I came instantly and it was so late at night that we were both half asleep.
I think I was just so nervous and so scared it ejaculating fast that I couldn't even maintain an erection for penetration although I could get hard for oral and using hands etc.
Either way it was still a very good experience and although we didn't have sex really, I gained some sexual experience in oral sex, playing and just becoming more familiar with the female body.
Anyway after that I traveled for another few years and met many girls but never did anything sexual, although I did go on several dates and kissed one or two other girls, nothing sexual happened.
Fast forward to now, I'm living in China and met a girl out here who has been my girlfriend since mid November and premature ejaculation is a real problem.
The first night we stayed together we couldn't have sex as she had to see the gyno the following morning for a routine check and was forbidden to have sex, but we still played with each other and touched, fingered etc and I ended up ejaculating without even having sex, I think she literally only played with it a little bit and I busted.
This happened on a few separate occasions but I managed to hide it several times from her, but after a few weeks this was no longer a problem.
However sex was the new issue and again in the beginning I couldn't get hard enough to have sex with her and when I did I remember just having absolutely no feeling what so ever, my penis literally felt numb.
I knew it was just due to nerves and bought some viagra from the pharmacy which allowed us to have sex, I used it a few times and then bought some natural supplements as I didn't want to rely on viagra.
Anyway, after several weeks and getting more confident with the whole concept I no longer needed viagra and now I could ejaculate although way too fast than I would have liked.
Honestly speaking I can't remember exactly how long I lasted the first time I entered her with full feeling, but I'm pretty sure it was over almost instantly.
We started having sex more and more often and getting erect was no longer an issue, the new and still ongoing issue is the duration of which we can have sex before I ejaculate.
I began researching a lot on PremE around December time I suppose and I did a lot of research.
I began edging, ballooning, doing kegals (before I knew about reverse kegals) and also read several books on becoming multi orgasmic and lasting longer and I incorporated these techniques in to my routine and the edging became very good.
I was able to control my arousal levels, incorporate some taoist methods such as pushing the golden point, bringing sexual energy up through the spine etc and it was all going well.
I built myself up to 30 minutes with my hand using lube and that was in varying positions, thrusting and using lube, however sex was still hit and miss.
At times I would cum within seconds or minutes and on the very rare occasion I would last 5-10 minutes but I can count how many times that has happened on 1 hand.
I incorporated reverse kegals about 3 months ago and still having issues.
I decided about 2 months ago to buy a STU which the first time I used I lasted about 20 minutes with but could have gone longer.
After that my time got worse and worse and everything which was going well started to feel like I was going backwards.
I could no longer edge for 30 minutes with my hand, with the STU my time became less and less and would occasionally ejaculate within a few minutes.
Annoyingly I've also not been able to have sex with my girlfriend for the past 6 weeks or so as she wanted to restore the flora in her vagina as she was having some issues with it and now she has another issue with it so we still haven't had sex, so I'm out of practice.
I took a break fro kegals as I felt they may have been making things worse as I had read that this is the case sometimes and as I had started to incorporate a lot more kegals in to my routine I figured this may have also been an issue.
Also doing hindu squats and have been back at the gym for about 4 months doing wright training, including squats.
Sorry for the long post guys, I've been really racking my brains about what's going on and what to do.
Any advice greatly appreciated.
Will post my PremE diary later on here as have been recording the data from that for the last few months.
Thankyou so much.
TL: DR
*extreme premature ejaculation from being extremely un sexually active and bad masturbation habits.
*ejaculated multiple times from just touching and before even 'putting it in'
*usually last about 1 minute or even just a few thrusts at times.
*occasionally I can go for a few minutes and once or twice I managed around 5-10 minutes.
*have been doing kegals(currently taking a break from them ) , RK's, hindu squats and recently incorporated tennis ball massage, cobra pose and child pose stretches as well as dry death grip edging, ballooning and using STU.
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