Backwards steps

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Hi guys

Been a while since I’ve been here.

Always struggled with pre e all my life, was with the same girl 10 years and it was always an issue for me (she was really understanding) we broke up in October last year and I decided it was time for me to sort this out before I met someone else

I met someone else pretty quickly (through work) and we started sleeping together. Due to having to leave my home after my break up I moved back in with my parents which made meeting up with the new girl difficult

Sex from the start was a struggle. Pre E was still a big issue but I was determined to fix it. After a few months I thought I’d broken down some pretty big walls. I was edging regularly and doing hindi squats. I lasted longer and longer in bed, I was far from cured but I could see huge strides from where I was. I even got to the point where I could last as long as I wanted from blow jobs when previously I could barely last a minute. Then something changed, I was back to lasting barely seconds again both oral and sex. One thing I’ve noticed was when I was getting better, I felt less sensation. Now the sensations are huge and I know instantly I wont last at all. I had a couple of good months but now I’m back to having a couple of months of no success

I’m still edging and stretching but I feel like I’ve hit a massive downer on this learning curve and I can’t get back up.

Any thoughts or motivation would be appreciated!

[Anklepain Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anklepain]

Did you sit alot in couple of months of no success?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Do you have a progress thread?
Anxiety may be implicated.

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Hi guys

Been a while since I’ve been here.

Always struggled with pre e all my life, ... I had a couple of good months but now I’m back to having a couple of months of no success

I’m still edging and stretching but I feel like I’ve hit a massive downer on this learning curve and I can’t get back up.

Any thoughts or motivation would be appreciated!

I've been there. The struggle is real.
I'll say this, short term set backs help lead to long term progress.
Get back on the horse and keep trying.

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Did you sit alot in couple of months of no success?

Sit? I'm generally always sat down (work in an office) if thats what you mean haha

Do you have a progress thread?
Anxiety may be implicated.

I did start a progress thread but only posted 2/3 times I'd say - I've not been on the forum for a few months.

Basically I started with Hindi squats, RK'ing all day every day, taking Magnesium Chloride tablets. Things improved to the point where I could last in penetration 2-3 minutes and last as long as I wanted (almost) during hand and blowjobs. Then all of a sudden it was like a switch was flicked and I've gone back to the start of lasting 10-20 seconds and all my efforts now seem to have stopped having any effect.

I'm sure anxiety does have some effect, I've had this all my life! I am aware of it when I have sex - I know 'I'm not gonna last' although I don't get massively stressed/anxious about it, maybe its more subconscious but I don't know how else to approach it.

I've been there. The struggle is real.
I'll say this, short term set backs help lead to long term progress.
Get back on the horse and keep trying.

I know - I never expected to be 'cured' without the work, time, or so easily. What's annoyed me is that I was making progress - almost 2-3 minutes in penetration and as long as I wanted with hand and blowjobs and now I'm back to 10-20 seconds on both and no matter what I do, I can't get any improvement. It's shattered my confidence.


Also - as I briefly mentioned in my first post, my dick has always been so sensitive, whenever I'm edging, having sex, getting a hand/blow job my dick is so sensitive and I think this is what pushes me up to ejaculation. When I had my 'success' it still felt really good but the huge sensitivity had gone. It was an amazing feeling, the enjoyment without the huge uncontrollable sensitivity. Now the sensitivity is back and as soon as I have contact it feels so intense and I just get to the PONR

[ACPreE Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ACPreE]

How is your general fitness level? I noticed that my stamina started dropping as my fitness level did. Iv been at this for months now with little progress. I mean my PF is looser but still tightens during sex. Maybe you started clenching or not staying focused in your mind? I tried to add porn into my edging because i was getting pretty good at controlling myself. Added porn and it was like i just started real sex and hit PONR in seconds. Have you felt more attracted to your significant other? Maybe visually she is stimulating your arousal more?

Just throwing some things out there.