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Ei guys,
I overcame PE a couple of years ago and have helped some guys with their problems, too. To clarify the severity of my problem: I came in my pants at least 5 times just from grinding and came almost always 3 or 4 strokes after starting to fuck. I only had 2 times where weirdly enough I lasted a good amount of time, so I knew it was possible. I wanted to learn how to recreate these situations every time and understand why those happened.
After trying IKs and stretching and seeing no improvement for me personally (during actual sex) I decided to buy a fleshlight and tackle the problem by myself forming an hypothesis about my PE, looking for a possible solution, testing it and acting on feedback.
I documented every test, every theory and every idea I had on excel, a piece of paper or my phone. To make things short here, I found out what works FOR ME after more than 2 years experimenting almost every single day.
Since I have been lurking on the forum again and Iīm seeing that now itīs all about muscle imbalances I wanted to post what works for me, since I donīt buy the idea that muscle imbalances are the only reason for PE.
Donīt get me wrong, for some guys this may be the biggest reason but Iīm 100% confident there are people with imbalances tensions and bad posture who donīt have PE and there are fit healthy people with perfect posture who suffer from PE. I myself donīt have perfect posture, suffer from scoliosis, am not as active as I should be (shame on me) and Iīm definitely not flexible at all. Yet I overcame PE without hours of hitting the gym, stretching or meditating.
Again those things are definitely not going to hurt you and will improve your life overall but I donīt think they guarantee a PE-free life. Nor will my method I assume, but maybe itīs helpful for some of you.
So here is what I did to overcame PE (I donīt need to do it anymore since itīs like my dick developed a memory or something and the effects I got from doing this seem to be permanent…):
Whenever I started having sex or edging, after the first couple of strokes (way before PONR) I did the following:
Inhale normally (not too little not too much)
> hold that inhale for 10 to 20 seconds (again donīt be begging for air but feel like you want to start breathing again) > Exhale fast… not forced and not all the air just a normal exhale but a bit faster (like when making a shhh sound for example
> Hold that exhale WHILE stretching your spine… ok I will try to explain this: imagine there is a string attached to the back of your neck that pulls upwards (if you are standing) stretching your upper body and lifting your ribcage
> While holding this stretched position let yourself inhale (you will be needing air quite desperately from holding your exhale up until this point). During this inhale make sure your ribcage expands so donīt breath only into your belly.
> After that start breathing normally and let your stretched self slowly move back into your normal position. Thatīs it. You can repeat the whole thing for more effect.
Again do not do all this in an overly exaggerated manner since in my experience it loses its effect. In fact if you are actually having sex try for her not to notice you are doing any of this shit and if you are edging imagine you want to hide what you are doing to an imaginary girl. This will prevent you from doing it in an overly exaggerated way.
At first you can try this breathing + stretching sequence while you stop edging and then start edging after again to see if you notice any difference and to make sure you are doing it correctly. But the point of this is to be able to do it while fucking/edging. To practice you should do it a couple of times during each session especially if you feel no effect at all. Try little adjustments (not holding inhale for so long, stretching in a slightly different direction, etc.) to see if something works better.
I am not sure why this worked for me, although I have my theories.
If you are doing it correctly (and you are like me) after doing this sequence you should feel the following:
Your pelvic floor will feel more relaxed although there might be a spot which remains tensed up but you donīt feel it affects your arousal. Even if you try to contract your PC it will not contract completely… itīs like something is blocking it. Your dick might feel less sensitive and your glands might dry out a bit.
The cool thing is that now you donīt have to worry about doing anything else… you can fuck/edge away and feel in control. If you feel you are closer to cuming you can slow down the pace and the urge will disappear like with a ‘normal’ person I suppose (when I had PE slowing down didnīt help… once I started pounding again I was right back where I left off… about to cum).
Like I said I donīt do this anymore… itīs like my cock got used to the stimulation and if I perform a couple of those sequences now I wouldnīt be able to cum.
Like I said, try this out if you are curious and let me know if you feel any effect.
Also I wanted to know how those who overcame PE are feeling during sex… do you need to be conscious of your pelvic floor? Do you perform an RK or a kegel hold to stop yourselves from ejaculating? I am curious how you guys feel during sex and what kind of sensations/informations you analize and are aware of.
Take care
I overcame PE a couple of years ago and have helped some guys with their problems, too. To clarify the severity of my problem: I came in my pants at least 5 times just from grinding and came almost always 3 or 4 strokes after starting to fuck. I only had 2 times where weirdly enough I lasted a good amount of time, so I knew it was possible. I wanted to learn how to recreate these situations every time and understand why those happened.
After trying IKs and stretching and seeing no improvement for me personally (during actual sex) I decided to buy a fleshlight and tackle the problem by myself forming an hypothesis about my PE, looking for a possible solution, testing it and acting on feedback.
I documented every test, every theory and every idea I had on excel, a piece of paper or my phone. To make things short here, I found out what works FOR ME after more than 2 years experimenting almost every single day.
Since I have been lurking on the forum again and Iīm seeing that now itīs all about muscle imbalances I wanted to post what works for me, since I donīt buy the idea that muscle imbalances are the only reason for PE.
Donīt get me wrong, for some guys this may be the biggest reason but Iīm 100% confident there are people with imbalances tensions and bad posture who donīt have PE and there are fit healthy people with perfect posture who suffer from PE. I myself donīt have perfect posture, suffer from scoliosis, am not as active as I should be (shame on me) and Iīm definitely not flexible at all. Yet I overcame PE without hours of hitting the gym, stretching or meditating.
Again those things are definitely not going to hurt you and will improve your life overall but I donīt think they guarantee a PE-free life. Nor will my method I assume, but maybe itīs helpful for some of you.
So here is what I did to overcame PE (I donīt need to do it anymore since itīs like my dick developed a memory or something and the effects I got from doing this seem to be permanent…):
Whenever I started having sex or edging, after the first couple of strokes (way before PONR) I did the following:
Inhale normally (not too little not too much)
> hold that inhale for 10 to 20 seconds (again donīt be begging for air but feel like you want to start breathing again) > Exhale fast… not forced and not all the air just a normal exhale but a bit faster (like when making a shhh sound for example
> Hold that exhale WHILE stretching your spine… ok I will try to explain this: imagine there is a string attached to the back of your neck that pulls upwards (if you are standing) stretching your upper body and lifting your ribcage
> While holding this stretched position let yourself inhale (you will be needing air quite desperately from holding your exhale up until this point). During this inhale make sure your ribcage expands so donīt breath only into your belly.
> After that start breathing normally and let your stretched self slowly move back into your normal position. Thatīs it. You can repeat the whole thing for more effect.
Again do not do all this in an overly exaggerated manner since in my experience it loses its effect. In fact if you are actually having sex try for her not to notice you are doing any of this shit and if you are edging imagine you want to hide what you are doing to an imaginary girl. This will prevent you from doing it in an overly exaggerated way.
At first you can try this breathing + stretching sequence while you stop edging and then start edging after again to see if you notice any difference and to make sure you are doing it correctly. But the point of this is to be able to do it while fucking/edging. To practice you should do it a couple of times during each session especially if you feel no effect at all. Try little adjustments (not holding inhale for so long, stretching in a slightly different direction, etc.) to see if something works better.
I am not sure why this worked for me, although I have my theories.
If you are doing it correctly (and you are like me) after doing this sequence you should feel the following:
Your pelvic floor will feel more relaxed although there might be a spot which remains tensed up but you donīt feel it affects your arousal. Even if you try to contract your PC it will not contract completely… itīs like something is blocking it. Your dick might feel less sensitive and your glands might dry out a bit.
The cool thing is that now you donīt have to worry about doing anything else… you can fuck/edge away and feel in control. If you feel you are closer to cuming you can slow down the pace and the urge will disappear like with a ‘normal’ person I suppose (when I had PE slowing down didnīt help… once I started pounding again I was right back where I left off… about to cum).
Like I said I donīt do this anymore… itīs like my cock got used to the stimulation and if I perform a couple of those sequences now I wouldnīt be able to cum.
Like I said, try this out if you are curious and let me know if you feel any effect.
Also I wanted to know how those who overcame PE are feeling during sex… do you need to be conscious of your pelvic floor? Do you perform an RK or a kegel hold to stop yourselves from ejaculating? I am curious how you guys feel during sex and what kind of sensations/informations you analize and are aware of.
Take care
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