New PE Diary - will fix this year...

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Something else I’m curious to learn - is there any correlation to being a ‘grower’ and PreE?

Has anyone found that a balanced pelvis has led to a larger flaccid state?

I feel at my most base level I am in a tighter state than I should be which lets less blood in.

‘When’ I’m fixed we will see...

Nowadays since my pelvic floor is much more relaxed I do notice I am a bit larger when flaccid and my balls hang normal. Before it was like my balls were always in firing position. Not sure if it relates tho

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Nowadays since my pelvic floor is much more relaxed I do notice I am a bit larger when flaccid and my balls hang normal. Before it was like my balls were always in firing position. Not sure if it relates tho

Interesting. I just looked up Sway back for the first time too, I’m almost certain this is my situation - when I pull my hips back I can feel a big difference in the release of pelvic floor tension.

I’m feeling very positive with the way things are moving, thanks for all your help.

Back to training...

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Interesting. I just looked up Sway back for the first time too, I’m almost certain this is my situation - when I pull my hips back I can feel a big difference in the release of pelvic floor tension.

I’m feeling very positive with the way things are moving, thanks for all your help.

Back to training...

Yup now that you know ur imbalances create a routine, post it here, and train hard. Look up pictures of “perfect posture” on google and try to consciously stand like that all day while you train! Very important and has made a world of difference for me. From the head all the way down to the legs, stand in perfect position.

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I started some Sway back fix training last night which has made new muscles ache and feels good. I’ll write the routine when I do it properly next.

I did a 20 minute edge today to see where I'm at - started with the train4love breath technique and holding my posture as best I could.

I felt more in control than normal for about 5 minutes before getting close to PONR.

I pushed an RK as the feeling hit and by holding it it went away. I was still feeling close to the edge though so I took it slow, fighting it with my own kegels.

I started breathing in to my chest as I kegeled, then exhaled as I released it. After doing this a few times I started again and found I was good to go.

I really hit that plateau then, great EQ and felt I could stop and not even finish if I wanted and be fine.

But it really showed me how even if I 100% mastered all these techniques I really need to fix the underlaying issues - to be able to enjoy building the pressure up rather than just managing it at the peak.

I’ll Log some exercises soon.

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Dont be discouraged if you don't see results for a bit. Building and changing muscles takes a long time. Dont worry about not ejaculating either. Just edge as normal for enjoyment. Obviously go for that 10-20 minute mark but don't be too set on not ejaculating to rewire your brain or something. I cum after every edging session and im fine. Stress can ruin progress too so don't be too discouraged.

Just have good breathing and focus on trying to naturally keep that pelvic floor relaxed.

And yes, please post that routine! Very crucial the routine is proper

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Life has got in the way the last couple of weeks so I haven’t started training properly, though I have been getting some cardio exercise in so my body feels healthier.

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I stupidly went back to looking at porn last night and was soon very aware I’ve not been doing nearly enough training.

But it was good that I didn’t like it and felt the push to improve again.

I re-read the PreE90. I’m going to try to do a version of that, using 90 days as a target for improvement.

I’ll be incorporating versions of these exercises to fix me -

Sway back fix -

https://youtu.be/nM19-xn6Vg0

focus on lower back pain/core -

https://youtu.be/gIhCuqtC0r0

Decompression breathing -

https://youtu.be/lbNI4-vJSHQ

Lajin -

https://youtu.be/mabd1-y3FHg

Awaken glutes -

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rsxKcJVTtUw

I’ll also be edging/ballooning/desensitising.

And NO PORN.

I won’t log daily, but will report back with what’s been working/not working for me.

90 days... here we go...

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Decompression breathing, Lajin stretches and glute training are all making noticeable differences to my posture. Things are moving the right way.

Edging is going well - I can RK in anticipation of IKs or just normal kegel before they hit - paying attention to keeping my breath in control with them.

Although i've still not had sex in a while, I think I still have a bit of work to do to confidently keep relaxed.

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Good shit! Glute training is huge man it has really made a difference for me too. Don't be so hard on yourself about watching porn either. I know it is looked down upon here, but in my opinion it's not a big deal to watch some porn for enjoyment.

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Does anyone have a clear explanation/link of what is physically happening when ‘switched’ to 9 on the arousal scale?

I want to pin-point exactly what it going on to try to reverse it. I know the importance of K, RK and breathing - I just want to visualise what is happening.

It is like there is a knot inside me. I know what I’m doing is helping but I still haven’t got to it.

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I’ve realised that if I tense my core/lower stomach muscles with my RK it is much more effective.

Maybe I was even RKing wrong before. I’m finding I can now really drop my arousal level successfully with a 10 second RK.

I know I’m close to unlocking this. Posture is improving, getting used to getting pleasure without cumming, more arousal control.

My hamstrings are still tight though, I feel once that is sorted I’m there...

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Been a while, I really dropped off training and kind of stopped focusing on my goals.

Then I had sex for the first time in a few months and it was a slap in the face for how much work I need to be doing.

I felt really close to the edge during foreplay, i just couldn’t get control over my arousal. I came after about 5 thrusts inside her, it complete overwhelmed me. With so little practice it was the worst I’ve been for years.

I’ve reprogrammed myself from old habits pretty well, porn is gone and don’t have the daily itch - but then as I’ve not been doing the training this means I’m just charged up more but still with weak control of the machine.

I’m now back on daily core/glute bridge and Lajin stretches, kegel, rk, with stretches too. I feel like I’m exercising the right parts and becoming increasingly familiar with what does what but there still feels like there is this knot inside my pelvic floor that just needs to relax and I’m there (if only so simple).

I have ‘over arousal’ for sure - but then it’s meant to be arousing, right? If I had muscle control then I can surely be aroused as I like.

Half-way through the year now but I still stand by it - I will fix this this year!

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I had a pretty positive sex experience.

I communicated with my partner I wanted to try going slow to get used to it, she was fine with this and seemed to enjoy it too.

In missionary I just moved very slowly, stopping if it felt too intense and just being inside her, I kept aware of my core and RKing when I remembered too.

This went on for at least 5 minutes until I let her control the speed with her hips - leading to a slow but intense build up to finishing.

it made me think I’ve always been trying to run before I could walk - always worried about the pressure (or masked it with drink/drugs). Just communicating makes it enjoyable ‘training’.

Feeling confident again that things are moving the right way. Adding communicating with partner to the core/posture/pf exercises.

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Congrats.