Fleshlight instead of death grip?

[Omies13 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Omies13]

Been on here for a long time and always come and go. Have never cured my PE yet, im a 1 minute man if im lucky. Wanting to get serious and fix this so my wife will want to have sex again. 10 years of marriage and we have an amazing relationship except in the bedroom. Which is non existent right now no sex a year....due to a baby and then loosing the baby when she was three months old....but since the sex was bad before that I don't blame my wife for not wanting any now....

I read this post https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/44391-death-grip.html and think James has an good theory. Do you think a fleshlight can replace death grip or be even better? If you think about it a fleshlight is basically closely resembling a tight pussy.

Also I like the PreE90 sticky routine, not sure what to start with. I know my issue with PE is bad masterbation habits due to always rushing from porn abd a massive lack of confidence because I've never experienced intercourse for more than maybe 1 minute and have had such performance anxiety I cannot count the number of times the night has ended in a fight because my wife is pissed and unsatisfied because I came in 5 seconds. Guess I just don't know where to start. I did edging before and got up to 25 minutes but then got into real sex a came in 30 seconds again. Also had issues were after edging my foreskin would swell up and feel uncomfortable so I stopped edging. Ant suggestions are welcome. Should I just start with PreE90?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

The pre e 90 is a good routine give it a go. Make a log of your work.

[VirgilD5to6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VirgilD5to6]

PreE90 is very good. But you really need to define the real reason behind your preE. If it is arousal, you need to do the ByggD routine first. And I would go with fleshlight instead of death grip.
As for the sex, I preach that the man has more than one tool. There are endless options to make a woman satisfied. PIV is the most fun for majority of people (even for me), trying new positions etc. I suggest you get a sex course (Kenneth Play). I learned a lot from that, and never left a woman unhappy.

I am sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you and your wife are doing better, and wish you best!

[neobne Member Find all posts View Profile Close neobne]

Hey Omies13, sorry to hear about your loss and troubles with your condition and how it is affecting your relationship intimately.

My I just re-iterate what VirgilD5to6 has suggested.

I second everything he mentioned (though I am not familiar with Kenneth play). However, "a man has more than one tool" really sums it up. Most women I have been with experience climax twice before I even try intercourse, which of course I fail miserably, hence why I am here, however, they've all been satisfied, is the important point here.

So, equip yourself with the know-how of delivering in other ways, and restore the intimacy between your wife and yourself while you prepare and treat your condition. When your intimacy is restored and you're ready to try intercourse when you can go 5 or 10 minutes, it's going to be so much fulfilling for the both of you than if you don't repair the intimacy and claim you can "go for 5 minutes, let's try it". If that makes sense.

Wish you the best and good luck!

[Spoonman84 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Spoonman84]

I have had success with “death grip” and used a flesh light.

For “death grip “ that term is actually from a syndrome and not a technique originally. I hate that term , as it implies gripping it to death and that’s going to cause people issues . Just using a slightly tighter grip during edging than you currently use can really help without causing the major issues. I absolutely swear by it and wish it was part of every standard PE protocol. But the other side you can already be gripping really tight and still have pre E depending on the cause of it . If you are using a very loose grip, just make it a little tighter.

And I recommended flesh lights if they can work for your lifestyle . They are kinda expensive, time consuming to get ready , needs proper maintenance, lube , cleanup, privacy ect. That’s not a knock on the product. They do work and feel great , but they aren’t the most practical tool for a lot of family men.

[madshepherd Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close madshepherd]

I started death grip masturbation method. At first I thought I should use it against the skin and caused a lot of pain. Accidently I tried it by moving the skin. As soon as I started death grip I felt a slight numbness immediately. I think this is related to penis dorsal nerves. Did you experience similar to this?

I have had success with “death grip” and used a flesh light.

For “death grip “ that term is actually from a syndrome and not a technique originally. I hate that term , as it implies gripping it to death and that’s going to cause people issues . Just using a slightly tighter grip during edging than you currently use can really help without causing the major issues. I absolutely swear by it and wish it was part of every standard PE protocol. But the other side you can already be gripping really tight and still have pre E depending on the cause of it . If you are using a very loose grip, just make it a little tighter.

And I recommended flesh lights if they can work for your lifestyle . They are kinda expensive, time consuming to get ready , needs proper maintenance, lube , cleanup, privacy ect. That’s not a knock on the product. They do work and feel great , but they aren’t the most practical tool for a lot of family men.