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Background:
I am 28yo, battling with PE on/off for a couple of years. Read all stickies a couple of times, been practicing proper edging, heavy RK/К routine with some hindi squats here and there. Also very good at rating my arousal.
I have been till recently in a stable and long relationship, for over 5 years. Girl was very supportive and didn't put pressure on me. We managed to have a decent sex life, but I wish it could be longer or without pauses sometimes.
We recently broke up and then I started switching partners. Meanwhile I have been doing only RK routine with a lot of hindi squats.
First I slept with one girl and sex only lasted 1-2 mins, all of a sudden I hit PONR. Couple of days after, we had sex once again, it was better, but with a lot of pauses.
Now I have a new girlfriend and we are going to have regular sex. First time we had sex, I lasted easily 30 mins. Nowhere near PONR, arousal was stable, I was breathing properly. Had one or 2 stops, but that was way before PONR, just in case. It was excellent. She was very satisfied.
5 days after that we had another sex and the problem came back
. Just as I entered I get this urge to cum. I do a light RK and I believe my PF is completely relaxed, but I get some pressure to finish. It was a lot of stops then, which killed mood for both of us and also later it was hard for me to mantain erection, first time this happening. I lost erection a couple of times, it then came back, but same problem. I managed to had 2x5 min penetration, but it was very hard and a lot of RK and pushing back.
This girl now is also very supportive and patient, we talked of my problem a little bit after the second time. So I was able to put some pressure of myself and also in the following time I feel with here I can defeat this thing once and for all!
My thoughts
Analyzing last two sessions I came to the conclusion that the only different thing I did was that first time I masturbated and ejaculated the day before. This puts pressure off my pelvic floor and brings arousal down. But second time I masturbated 2 days before, I can't believe 1 day can make such a huge difference. I also feel that second time my prostate was a bit enlarged and more sensitive, maybe this is making me problems. I will schedule an appointment this week to check with the doctor if everything is ok down there.
Later I tried to remember my best sex performances and I think that a lot of times I masturbated the day before sex!
Will have to look more into the connection between prostate pressure and PE. Since I believe I have strong and relaxed PF, without any IKs or spasms. Also mentally without any problems (Until recently, but I will manage that). So there must be something I am missing.
Also besides PE, don't have any other problem with erection, Pelvic floor, bladder and so. Just one more thing, if I don't ejaculate for a couple of days, I could get a wet dream. So that is also why I think there is a link between more ejaculations and PE.
Questions
1. Would you suggest me incorporating Kegels again into my routine to improve EQ? And how much %?
2. What would be your advice to bring this initial arousal down?
3. Has any of you having Pre Ej find any kind of connection to some prostate pressure or other issue besides balanced and relaxed PF?
4. Also, all comments, suggestions and ideas are welcome
Sorry if thread isn't well organized and a bit confusing, but I believe I gave my detailed background and some of my initial thoughts, so you guys could jump in and help. Can't thank enough for this forum and all information out there. When I completely finish with this, I will also contribute more to the forum.
Thanks in advance
I am 28yo, battling with PE on/off for a couple of years. Read all stickies a couple of times, been practicing proper edging, heavy RK/К routine with some hindi squats here and there. Also very good at rating my arousal.
I have been till recently in a stable and long relationship, for over 5 years. Girl was very supportive and didn't put pressure on me. We managed to have a decent sex life, but I wish it could be longer or without pauses sometimes.
We recently broke up and then I started switching partners. Meanwhile I have been doing only RK routine with a lot of hindi squats.
First I slept with one girl and sex only lasted 1-2 mins, all of a sudden I hit PONR. Couple of days after, we had sex once again, it was better, but with a lot of pauses.
Now I have a new girlfriend and we are going to have regular sex. First time we had sex, I lasted easily 30 mins. Nowhere near PONR, arousal was stable, I was breathing properly. Had one or 2 stops, but that was way before PONR, just in case. It was excellent. She was very satisfied.
5 days after that we had another sex and the problem came back
. Just as I entered I get this urge to cum. I do a light RK and I believe my PF is completely relaxed, but I get some pressure to finish. It was a lot of stops then, which killed mood for both of us and also later it was hard for me to mantain erection, first time this happening. I lost erection a couple of times, it then came back, but same problem. I managed to had 2x5 min penetration, but it was very hard and a lot of RK and pushing back.This girl now is also very supportive and patient, we talked of my problem a little bit after the second time. So I was able to put some pressure of myself and also in the following time I feel with here I can defeat this thing once and for all!
My thoughts
Analyzing last two sessions I came to the conclusion that the only different thing I did was that first time I masturbated and ejaculated the day before. This puts pressure off my pelvic floor and brings arousal down. But second time I masturbated 2 days before, I can't believe 1 day can make such a huge difference. I also feel that second time my prostate was a bit enlarged and more sensitive, maybe this is making me problems. I will schedule an appointment this week to check with the doctor if everything is ok down there.
Later I tried to remember my best sex performances and I think that a lot of times I masturbated the day before sex!
Will have to look more into the connection between prostate pressure and PE. Since I believe I have strong and relaxed PF, without any IKs or spasms. Also mentally without any problems (Until recently, but I will manage that). So there must be something I am missing.
Also besides PE, don't have any other problem with erection, Pelvic floor, bladder and so. Just one more thing, if I don't ejaculate for a couple of days, I could get a wet dream. So that is also why I think there is a link between more ejaculations and PE.
Questions
1. Would you suggest me incorporating Kegels again into my routine to improve EQ? And how much %?
2. What would be your advice to bring this initial arousal down?
3. Has any of you having Pre Ej find any kind of connection to some prostate pressure or other issue besides balanced and relaxed PF?
4. Also, all comments, suggestions and ideas are welcome
Sorry if thread isn't well organized and a bit confusing, but I believe I gave my detailed background and some of my initial thoughts, so you guys could jump in and help. Can't thank enough for this forum and all information out there. When I completely finish with this, I will also contribute more to the forum.
Thanks in advance
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