Musings which I hope help someone

[Pelvis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Pelvis]

Hi all, been on these threads a few years. Have had on and off success. Generally fit guy 43,some low back issues, enlarged prostate but hey I’m good.
I have had some more recent success with my pre e issues and I thought I’d share some ideas.

1) Was having some marital issues with wife. Thankfully have put these behind us. We wrote down some items each that was bothering us and we know go over the items every month to ensure we keep on track with fixing them.
Tip 1 - mentally it’s v important to say if you’re not happy to your partner and try resolve problem together. Sex and the mentality not being right is not good

2) lube is your friend - seriously use it . Less friction which helps if you’ve struggled with pre e.

3)Caffeine- I’ve stopped it for 1 week now and I’m on green tea and water. I’m much less jittery and I just seem to feel less anxious now. I really think it’s helped me last longer.

4) walking and strength / mobility work I’d very worthwhile. For me it’s helped during sex having glutes that I can use now and not be in pain

So how long am I lasting now? small while ago we had sex and it was around 10 minute mark in missionary position and i came as she asked me. Earlier this week 6 mins approx. Can I reproduce this ? I hope so. I believe lube and no caffeine is really helping.
Wish you all well

[Anklepain Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anklepain]

Thanks for sharing. Contractulation!!!

[Pelvis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Pelvis]

So a quick update from me.
Things are still going very well. I don’t focus on Pre-E anymore. Sex is going well - i don’t time it but my wife comes every time and asks me to come when she’s close . What a turnaround !!

Folks if I’m honest I couldn’t put my finger on one thing that helped me. I believe it’s an evolution of me as a person. Let me explain.
3 yrs back I represented my country in running(over 40’s). My life then - 3hr round trip commute daily for work, running 6 days a week ( 3 hard sessions), 3 young kids. Basically it was full on and I was a dopamine junky. Then my body broke. Erections were bad, Pre-E was shocking which caused more stress etc. I was living in pain daily and was trying to find a way out. I was told I had an enlarged prostate.
Fast forward to now. No 3 hr commute to work , no dopamine chasing, body finally seems to be healing (no pain for a month now). Kids a little older .
What’s helped ? Well the constant rushing I don’t do anymore. I do strength work , some weights 2-3 times a week. I walk the dog. Hindu squats and child pose most days. Prostate seems mostly good now and not taking medication. I’m generally a more relaxed person.

I think we need to look at ourselves when things aren’t working well. Forget about how many mins you last etc. Focus on enjoying your life, try decrease stress, don’t always be the dopamine junkey, do some strength and hindi squats/child pose etc if not flexible. If your body is in pain , give it time. Don’t rely on physios and quick fixes , it won’t work but in time small changes will.
Good luck all.