Tips to stop myself from cumming and control arousal

[tobe5minman Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tobe5minman]

Whenever i masturbate 1/4 of the time, i get too excited because it feels so good and I allow myself to keep stroking harder, rapidly until I cum. It just feels too good.

Do you have any tips to be able to overcome this?

I need to get to a point, there this urning doesn't overcome me so I can condition my dick/body to last longer.
I feel like every time I let the urning take over me, it's a step backwards.

The things I've tried that only work sometimes are:

1. Slow your stroke, then keep slowing it until I stop. Then take my hands off
2. Stop. Take my hand off, then hold 10 second hard kegals until I get softer.

[VirgilD5to6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VirgilD5to6]

You need to drop the excitement down (golden rule is level 7). Think of "enjoying" rather than "finish too quickly" and ruin your edging session. If you have a good and strong PF, you can try to attempt dry orgasm (as step 2 you described, when you do a kegel keep stroking but very slowly and allow yourself to feel the pleasure without letting go).

[tobe5minman Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tobe5minman]

Thanks that's helpful.

I happened again last night. I started masturbating and it felt so good, once, i started to get to the PONR, i couldn't control myself. I got into a sort of a craze, started gripping harder, and pumping quicker, and justified it by imagining Riley Reid, pumping my dick, asking me to give her a hot load all over her face.

I was ashamed that this happened again and reflected back on the experience. Seems I'm justifying cumming by fantasizing a hot girl asking me to cum. I need to realize that that's just a fantasy and is harming my training.

Reality is that there is no girl, there is no hand job from her, it's just me doing it myself. If I'm to enjoy sex with girls, I need to keep my mind focused in reality, so that I can train my pelvic floor and emotions in order to last longer.

Also, even if it as a real girl, most of the time, rather than them begging me to cum, rather, they are disappointed when i cum so soon. I need to keep this in mind, so i don't go into my harmful fantasy, so that I can focus on controlling excitement.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

Reframe your perspective and think of your dick as something for her to enjoy. It's for her pleasure before it's for yours. Right now you see your erection as a means to your own orgasm. It isn't - it's a means to hers. You have to practice this mentality with discipline while edging.

[tobe5minman Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tobe5minman]

I needed to hear that. Thanks Johnny D.

At least until i can get my ejaculation under control, I need to rid myself of the pleasure of ejaculation. Then after, I'll start enjoying it more.

The way I'm enjoying orgasm right now is unhealthy.

Ok, thanks for the motivation. I'm going to take the training more seriously, and do my best to stay in the mentality of "control" over "crazed pleasure".

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

Exactly. And try to keep from becoming frustrated - rewiring your brain like this takes a while. Be patient and disciplined and give yourself credit for trying, even when it feels like you're failing. You're not - you're learning.

One other thing... I wouldn't characterize it as not allowing your orgasm to be pleasurable. It's going to be and it should be but perhaps think of it as a reward for having given her pleasure first. While edging, rather than focusing on how good it makes you feel, visualize how good you're making her feel, knowing that your reward for maintaining control will come later.

[VirgilD5to6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VirgilD5to6]

Exactly. And try to keep from becoming frustrated - rewiring your brain like this takes a while. Be patient and disciplined and give yourself credit for trying, even when it feels like you're failing. You're not - you're learning.

One other thing... I wouldn't characterize it as not allowing your orgasm to be pleasurable. It's going to be and it should be but perhaps think of it as a reward for having given her pleasure first. While edging, rather than focusing on how good it makes you feel, visualize how good you're making her feel, knowing that your reward for maintaining control will come later.

I thought the whole point of edging is pleasuring yourself without cumming? Rewiring your brain that cumming is your reward it's kind of an impossible task. Been going on for more than a year, and still haven't even improved with my preE.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

I thought the whole point of edging is pleasuring yourself without cumming? Rewiring your brain that cumming is your reward it's kind of an impossible task. Been going on for more than a year, and still haven't even improved with my preE.

An impossible task? I haven't found that to be so. A long, challenging, frustrating task? 100%!

[lmspey Member Find all posts View Profile Close lmspey]

I got really good at semi edging while having sex. You need to know when that time is near, or when you are ABOUT to cum. Then stop and pinch your dick right at the base. If done at the right time, you will not cum and a few minutes later you can stroke or start sex again. I could do this for however long I wanted or until the girl I was with would cum. Then I would frickn explode. It just takes practice and will power.