complication!

[ravenous101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close ravenous101]

hi everyone, this is my first post ever on this forum so i'll start with a little introduction.

i am 21 and i have an average size penis (6 by 5). i would like to do some penis enlargement and gain at least 1" of length and 1" of
girth but that's not the problem right now.
my girlfirend and i are together for 2 years now and although we have sex every now and then but neither of us enjoys it. there are
some complications!

first of all, i am a minute man but on the other hand it takes my girlfriend more than 20 mins to orgasm. fortunately i can keep my erection after i ejaculate and i can keep going for 45 min on the second round but that doesnt help at all because when i ejaculate the first time and while i am preparing to go for the second, she wents dry and loses interest very quickly so we have to stop. to solve this problem i tried to master mmo and i did to some extend, i practiced for 3 months and i really could have an orgasm without ejaculating but i noticed after a while that the semen i kept inside using pc contraction, kept coming out slooowwwlyyy! and because i didnt wanna get my girlfiend pregnant i had to be carefull not to let even a drop of semen go inside her, so i thought of condoms. as much as hate condoms, it seemed like a goof solution so i bought some for the next time only to find out a few days later that she was allergic to condoms! so they were useless! i tried perfecting my mmo skills to make this work somehow but no change, it was still the same. i tried delay sprays but that didnt work either.

now after two years of having a wonderful relationship we are forced by life to seperate from each other. we only have a few more months to be together and then it'll be over.i love her , and i love her so much and i tried my best during these 2 years to make her happy but i couldnt. although she is too kind to say anything about it but i know that it hurts her as well as it hurts me to look to the past and see there was never a good, satisfying, passionate night in our relationship, and it's killing me.sex was(is) important to both of us and if i have to let her go against my will , i want to atleast give her more good memories of myself.

i have begun my training again trying to solve this problem and enjoy the last few months of being with her without this feeling of guilt and to make up for the lost time. i bought the "ejaculation trianer" manual and i am doing my best with it.i've been working out to build stamina but i know it takes time to see permanant resaults and time is the one thing i dont have.
so guys iam asking for your help. any comments, sudjestions or treatments that any of you might have that could help me with my problem (both sort term and long term) i am willing to hear about it.
thank you all
and i am sorry if i bored you out and sorry if my english is not good enough.

[Waylander Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Waylander]

Welcome Ravenous, thats an interesting story for sure! Pegasus and Pirate know a lot about MMO's and such, so I'll send out a message for you.
You say she's allergic to condom's?

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

So why after two years is she not on birth control pills???? Can't she help out at all with this problem? I am wondering if you have been talking with her about it, or are trying to solve it all on your own. Kudos to you for trying so hard, but her attitude may be key here. Please fill us in on what you've talked about with her, and how you thing she feels about all this.

And welcome to the Gym!

[blink2000 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blink2000]

Lasting long enough in bed so your partner doesn't have to worry about being pleased is surely a worthwhile goal. I think knowing you can go the distance will probably increase your confidence and give you some peace of mind. Good luck figuring things out.

And Welcome

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Actually, you can get low allergy condoms made of different material. However I would like to agree with Bw also.
If you wish to become mmo, you should join our mmo social group.

[ravenous101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close ravenous101]

thank you Waylander, batwoman,blink and pegasus for your kind replies.

to Waylander : yes she is allergic to condoms, whenever i use one she gets blisters and her skin in the pubic region turns red, i dont know what it is , i've never heard of anybody being allergic to condoms before!
and thanks for the message

to batwoman: she used to use birth control pills, LD i guess and after 2months she lost a lot of hair and also these pills messed with her PMS and she went through a lot of pain so i told her to stop using them.
she doesnt talk about it at all and whenever i try to bring it up, she shuts me up( in a very kind and sweet way!!!) and says it's okay and that she doesnt care about it and that all she cares about is my personallity and not my skills in bed but i know she says that to avoid hurting my feelings and i know that deep down she is not satisfied , i know it because i see the look on her face everytime she talks about her best friend's sex life and thats the look on a 4 year old kid's face when he sees another kid eating a big candy and shomehow he knows he can't have one .
(and about that best friend,she and her boyfriend have sex almost everyday and eachtime for atleast 2 hours! that's what she says though!)

to blink: when i first started practicing mmo i was 100% sure that i could do it, that i could take care of my PE once and for all and that it wasnt a big deal but when i failed i was disappointed . now i have hope again and i am motivated twice as much as i were before, i know i must find a way no matter what.

to pegasus: i asked for the best brand of condoms in the drug store and the sales lady gave me a box of "good life ultra thin condoms with delay cream". when i went back after a week and told her about the allergies, she said these are the best i could get and that there was no better brand. also she said i was the first one to complain about them and that she had never heard of anybody being allergic to them.
and thanks, i would definately like to join the group.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Is that the only condom you have tried? Because she might be reacting to the "delay cream" (whatever that is).
There are LOTS of condoms and some are made specifically to be hypoallergenic. Go to a different store and look for different options. There is no such thins as "the best brand" since everyone is different!!!! It might be that different brand (stay away from those with creams or lubes in them) might work just fine for you!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Yeah what bw said.
I have actually tried to talk to Durex and Ansell (the largest makers) , about condoms and geting sense out of them, is like blood out of a stone.
But look why are we having to talk to you about basic contraception? Don't they teach this in school?
Women can't tell time in sex or size btw, except batwoman who has superpowers.

[ErictheGed Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ErictheGed]

So whats happening here seems to be you are in a loving relationship, but have a disasterous sex life? It appears that your attitude has become defeatist ravenous. You talk in terms of "disappointment" about "not having skills" and "only a month or so left". This attitude will rub off on your girl, and drive her further away. Its bad enough to look back on a relationship with regrets, but you're still in one! If it just dies off thats a shame.

Your girl is into sex, you know this. You say she takes 20 mins to cum? Have you tried creating a sexy atmosphere one night have a bath together or something and maybe give her oral for an hour. A huge part of her sexual enjoyment comes from how you are acting. She has to know her man is going to stand up and do what he has to save the situation. You have to be strong and take control, she'll find that a major turn-on. Keep doing your workouts and MMO training, but also change the mindset here, be confident you will rock her world, cos if you're too busy worrying then you won't be in the moment and the sex will suffer.

[ravenous101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close ravenous101]

to batwoman: "good life " is the only brand i ever used and apart from the cream it has some kind of lubricant on it. maybe you're right and that's what causing the allergic reactions. i'll try to find a different brand with no lubricant or anything else in it.

to pegasus: not only they don't teach it in schools around here but also they block our access to anything that might help us increase our knowledge of sex. our internet is blocked, no books with sexual contents is allowed to be published and etc.. the only thing they want us to know about sex is getting married and breeding.
actually me having a girlfriend is illigal and we could get in a lot of trouble if any of our families or worse any authority figure finds out about it.i had to bribe a police officer once to avoid that trouble.

to erictheged: our relationship is going to end not because of the sex but because she's going back to her home town and i have to stay here and then i'll move to U.S to get my masters degree. there is a 90% chance that i'll never see her again.
but you're right my attitude is'nt going to do any good. i'll do my best to make thing right.
about the sexy atmosphere i tried the bath, massages and porno and also we usually have an hour of foreplay. by the time we get to bed she's really aroused and wet! but as soon as i cum her mood changes and she doesnt(or can't) continue.
i tried giving her oral but she doesnt like it, she thinks it's gross! i managed to persuade her to let me do it 2 or 3 times and i think those were the only times i could give her orgasms,and it took about 20 minutes eachtime.

[ravenous101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close ravenous101]

hey guys
i am glad to tell you that last night i had the most wonderful sex of my life!!!!
those arousal control exercises really work! i've been training for 2weeks atmost and last night i could last for 5 minutes! it might not seem a lot to most of you but to me that 5 minutes seems like forever! and it is'nt just that! the good thing that happened besides being able to last longer in the first round is that after i ejaculted, my girl friend did'nt cool down like before! she wanted to continue and we did and the second round was amazing! we tried everything we ever wanted to do but we couldnt do before.
we kept going and going and i lost track of time, the feeling was so good, it was like nothing in the world mattered anymore.
i still cant believe it, that all this time , all i had to do was to get in control of my mind and i could have enjoyed every single second of being with her instead of being worried about cumming too soon.
i am happy, so happy that i just wanna lay here and think about last night for the rest of my life!!!

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

What an excellent story! Congratulations!

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

The mind can be your best friend or biggest enemy! Congrats!

[quickguy Member Find all posts View Profile Close quickguy]

Congrats! I can only wish to get where you are now.

[ravenous101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close ravenous101]

thank you all my friends.
i really wanted it to happen, and i am so glad that it did.
now i truly belive that if i put my mind to something and try my best, i can do it no matter what