I have a problem

[want2BIG Member Find all posts View Profile Close want2BIG]

Okay so I was a virgin and then i got a girlfriend and heres the times we had sex and the time i lasted
1. 10 mins- she finished
2. 10 mins- she finished
3. 15 mins- she finished
4. 1 min... WTF?! she didnt finish
5. 2 min no condom- she finished i didnt (ran out of time)
6. 4 mins- she finished but bearly...

I dont understand? i seem to be lasting for not as much time as the firrst time i had sex, shouldnt it be going up??
What could be causing this??
thanks

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

a few things can cause this but at the physical level here is my outlook on it. https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...c-balance.html

[Crazy Doc Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Crazy Doc]

Okay so I was a virgin and then i got a girlfriend and heres the times we had sex and the time i lasted
1. 10 mins- she finished
2. 10 mins- she finished
3. 15 mins- she finished
4. 1 min... WTF?! she didnt finish
5. 2 min no condom- she finished i didnt (ran out of time)
6. 4 mins- she finished but bearly...

I dont understand? i seem to be lasting for not as much time as the firrst time i had sex, shouldnt it be going up??
What could be causing this??
thanks

The first time I had sex, 21 years ago-I lasted for a long time...
Now I'm a very skilled lover... yet have trouble controlling myself at times.
It's also possible she's more comfortable with you now, and getting turned on more, which would lead to increased pleasure for you which could cause the sharp decrease in your "stamina". Kegels were mentioned and that is a good idea-you can certainly train yourself to last longer, check into that tantric stuff. I just stumbled on it recently and also thanks to PE sites like this, I'm doing kegels every other day-hopefully it improves my stamina.

But there's also psychology here-don't beat yourself up, focus on being a good lover while believing you can improve and I think you will. Don't psych yourself out worrying about lasting. If you're getting too close, you can change your rhythm, start doing something different-kiss her while you rub her clit... there are ways to practice lasting longer for sure. So consider it a skill and something that requires practice. I really doubt you have a problem, condition, etc. It all sounds quite normal to me.

[darinsixpack Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close darinsixpack]

I have lot and lots of sex, 95% of the time I can pick and choose when I cum. But every now and then, I loose control and cum before I'm ready. It just happens. Learn to recognize the point of no return and forcing yourself to stay far clear of it. I can now literally keep myself right on the edge of orgasm without actually having one for as long as I want. Having that type of control is awesome. It also allows me to be sure I'm fully hard and when my penis is fully hard, I can aim it anywhere. Control is a huge part of sex. Try edging over and over, fighting back those instinctual feelings that you must orgasm.

[Wazza Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wazza]

A little tip I recently discovered:

When you are ejaculating try to hold a reverse kegel (if you don't know what this is just search the forum and mix it in with a regular kegel routine). By doing this you forcibly relax your PC/BC muscles. The effect is that you cum harder and feel the muscle spasm more distinctly (because it isn't being clenced up). This also gives you more relief from your orgasm and leaves your muscles in a relaxed state. Over time, this will make sure that you aren't constricting your orgasm response with overclenched PC muscles and, thus, will be able to last longer during sex (theoretically) because your muscles becomes used to staying in a relaxed state even during orgasm.

[zone.zo786 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close zone.zo786]

awww sweetie... i'm so sorry ur going through that. although i wish i had ur ability to exercise daily, i'd never wanna feel uncomfortable w/my own body.

[want2BIG Member Find all posts View Profile Close want2BIG]

I fixed it! apparently i was getting was too exited and i was flexing my kegels to increase pleasure for myself while having sex, this made me finish a lot earlier, now i just relax, focus on her, and once shes finished i try to finish soon after,
thanks guys!