My Cure for Premature Ejaculation:

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

The cause of my sudden premature ejaculation was masturbating very fast to hot porn, doing too many regular kegels the whole time, sitting on a hard chair(putting pressure on the prostate), without using lubrication and not having sex with a girl for a whole year. NEVER masturbate to porn. Stop watching porn all together. Do some edging and ballooning. Give regular kegels a rest and do only reverse kegels as an exercise and during sex. Get really good at doing reverse kegels. Use a light reverse kegel during sex the whole time to keep the pelvic area relaxed. Use hard reverse kegels at the PONR/time of ejaculation. I can stop ejaculation with a hard reverse kegel any time I want. And most importantly, get a caring, helpful woman that will have sex with you VERY often. You need to take it slow and then try thrusting harder and faster bit by bit. You need to practice with the real thing. If not.... what is the point? Good luck guys. The PEGym rocks!!!!

[hawkua Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hawkua]

Glad to see you cured yourself and yes I agree with you just get the real thing a real woman. I find that different partners present different challenges ideas ways of making sex is not always the same, physical appearance, perceptions some like fun others golden silence others dirty talk etc. etc.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

Yes.... you are right. Thats why its important to find someone that will work with you slowly/gradually. I went from masturbating/having sex and ejaculating in 2-4 minutes to lasting in bed now for about 25-45 minutes. Please find my log/journal if any of you are interested in my journey and tips and secrets.

[MuadDib Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MuadDib]

Use a light reverse kegel during sex the whole time to keep the pelvic area relaxed. Use hard reverse kegels at the PONR/time of ejaculation. I can stop ejaculation with a hard reverse kegel any time I want.

PLease explain "a light reverse kegel" and "a hard reverse kegel", how you do them? Thanks

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

PLease explain "a light reverse kegel" and "a hard reverse kegel", how you do them? Thanks

Look for instructions on this website or anywhere on the Internet on how to do reverse kegels.

[Sharpshooter Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sharpshooter]

Congratulations man, nice to hear a success story.

When you say you can stop ejaculation with a reverse kegel, does this mean you can carry on without losing your erection? Is that a dry orgasm, or do you not have an orgasm when doing this? Has anyone else been able to achieve this with reverse kegels? It sounds like a winner!

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

Congratulations man, nice to hear a success story.

When you say you can stop ejaculation with a reverse kegel, does this mean you can carry on without losing your erection? Is that a dry orgasm, or do you not have an orgasm when doing this? Has anyone else been able to achieve this with reverse kegels? It sounds like a winner!

I don't know if it's a DO.... all I can tell you is that when I get super close I do a hard one, it feels real good, then I'm still hard and I can keep going almost instantly. The PONRs then come more often, and I keep fighting them.... But that is around minute 30 or so.... Having sex more than once really helps cuz I last longer the second and 3rd time.... BUT.... I've started to last longer the first time so I'm happy about that. Last 1st time was about 30 min. ;0)

[star99 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close star99]

i masturbated to porn in the past 4,5 years and it lead me to bad P.e. Ive learned how to stop porn and masturbation lately with buying a fleshlight in the past 2 weeks, even though my maximum is 3 weeks but this time im ready for a whole life. I have a lot of sensitivity and cant last 10 secs in my fleshlight but i stop and go. I need to practice and hopefully one day cure from this but i did do lots of damages

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

i masturbated to porn in the past 4,5 years and it lead me to bad P.e. Ive learned how to stop porn and masturbation lately with buying a fleshlight in the past 2 weeks, even though my maximum is 3 weeks but this time im ready for a whole life. I have a lot of sensitivity and cant last 10 secs in my fleshlight but i stop and go. I need to practice and hopefully one day cure from this but i did do lots of damages

I suggest ballooning and also watching porn daily without masturbating... never masturbate to porn. First try ByggD's routine for lessening arousal.

[cologro Member Find all posts View Profile Close cologro]

I see all the time. "Stop watching porn" but I like porn so much What is the correlation between pre e and porn? I figured watching porn would have the opposite effect.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

I see all the time. "Stop watching porn" but I like porn so much What is the correlation between pre e and porn? I figured watching porn would have the opposite effect.

That's what most of us thought. It is different for some people but for most it is bad news in many ways. You should NEVER masturbate to porn. It trains your body to get too excited too quick. It floods your brain and body with exciting images and during sex you loose your control. Some people are now training to not get excited during porn and sex by watching porn without masturbation and arousal. Look for posts on this matter. They should be in the first or second page. porn also has caused guys to only be able to getan erection to porn and not their girlfriends. Too much of anything is a bad thing. Btw.... I got Prem ejac because of masturbating to porn, without lube, without sex for a year and because I was doing too many regular kegels and no reverse kegels, especially during porn masturbation. A BIG NO NO!!! I do the exact opposite of everything I mentioned above and went from 2 minutes to 30 minutes or hard, fast thrusting during sex.

[cologro Member Find all posts View Profile Close cologro]

So you no longer watch porn at all or just dont masturbate to porn? I always use porn to edge, is this any different because im not having an orgasm?

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

I definitely dont masturbate to it anymore. Sometimes I'll watch it without masturbation as an arousal control technique/training method. Infact, I don't masturbate, edge or balloon anymore. I have enough sex with my gf and that is the best practice. It helps a lot to practice with the real thing, but that's just my opinion. Drummer19 and I pretty much do the same things and have seen great results.

[Stamina Man Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stamina Man]

So reverse Kegels are the missing piece, right? I also think that RK are the best way to stop yourself from ejaculation. Then why doing normal Kegels? I guess, to strengthen the muscles.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

So reverse Kegels are the missing piece, right? I also think that RK are the best way to stop yourself from ejaculation. Then why doing normal Kegels? I guess, to strengthen the muscles.

I really am starting to think that curing Prem Ejac is a good mixture of things. I believe that if you train the body the right way and get it used to a certain routine, with time, it adjusts to that new way of life. It has happened with me. I went from 2 minutes to sometimes over an hour. Too many reg kegels, no rev kegels, masturbating hard and fast to hot porn sitting on a hard chair for a whole year without a girfriend is what trained my body to Prem Ejac. If you do any of that, you are headed for disaster.
Learning proper/powerful reverse kegels(as exercises and during sex), stopping regular kegels for a long while, no porn at all, little to no mastirbation, if so, use lube and edge/balloon and only ejaculate once every 3-4 times, frequent slow, calm sex with a patient, caring, understanding woman(there is no better training than training with the real thing), having sex 2-3 times in one day cuz you last longer each time, slow calm sex and build it up very slowly into hard/fast thrusting, hold a light reverse kegel during sex to relax pelvic floor and use long hard ones to stop ejaculation and have a DO to be able to MMO a few times, enjoy what you are doing, don't try and think of something else and most importantly.... give it time. You will get better each time and the confidence will change you into a new man. If you can do most or all of these things..... you are on your way. Please read my log/journal. Thanx and good luck.