How do you convince yourself that you don't need to cum to be satisfied?

[tobe5minman Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tobe5minman]

When i edge, and get close to the point of no return (PONR) it feels so good that a lot of the times i end up keep pumping and cumming. It feels so good that i end up justifying in my head the it'll be worth it to cum.
When I can control myself, i tell myself:
"you need to stop, as you're going to stunt your progress. Girls will want you to last longer and you need to train to not cum"
"you don't want to ruin a future relationship"
"sex isn't for your pleasure but it's for theirs"
"you've enjoyed masturbating and the sensation of getting close to the PONR. You don't need to cum to be satisfied"
A lot of times, none of this helps.

Do you have any other justifications or ideas to break the mentality of justifying cumming when getting to the PONR?
If i can truly justify being satisfied with masturbating/having sedx without cumming, I'm sure the urge to cum would greatly be reduced. Any ideas of how to convince myself?

Trying to overcome this mental hurdle.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

Don't let your urges be in control of you. Have the strength to control your own decisions and actions.

[tobe5minman Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tobe5minman]

To dive deeper into controlling my urges I did a good search and going to implement this method called "DEADS" for urge control:


D = Deny / Delay (Don’t give in to the urge) — Remind yourself, repeatedly if necessary, this urge will pass. Refuse to give into it — no matter what!

E = Escape the trigger — If you know what is causing the urge, leave immediately.

A = Avoid the trigger

D = Distract yourself with an activity — Do something: go for a walk, read a book, or watch TV. If you’re putting your mind on something else, then it can’t focus on the urge.

S = Substitute for addictive thinking — Send in healthy substitute thoughts to squeeze out the urge.