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So my girlfriend of a few years and i broke up recently. I've always had a PE issue, ever since my teenage years, but with her it was by far the worst. I attributed it to the fact that sex with her was by far the best. Hot as hell, tight as hell, never used a condom, she made it ALL about pleasing me... Foreplay was so hot that sometimes i would come after literally one or two thrusts. I think my average was maybe 30 seconds to a minute (hence the username). I joined this forum like six months ago and started doing anything and everything i could to help it, it gave me a much deeper awareness but with only slight gains and no major breakthrough.
We broke up right around new years, and since then i have been SO freaking busy with school and work that i've almost completely let any kind of routine slip. I should also mention i've been too busy to even masturbate, haven't used the fleshlight in weeks and i haven't watched porn probably since december.
Fast forward a few weeks and i just started sleeping with a different girl. ALSO hot as hell (my friends say hotter), ALSO tight as hell, ALSO don't use condoms... And i've been a fucking stallion in bed. Sex has been virtually as long as i want it to be, anywhere between like 10 and 30 minutes, I come when i'm ready to come. WTF?!
The first time i attributed it to the fact that i was drunk and had taken a Xanax pill (anti-anxiety, intensifies alcohol). The morning after i attributed it to the fact that i was still drunk (xanax is a relatively fast acting benzo, and its effects wear off after around 4-6 hours). But the truth is, with my ex i definitely lasted longer drunk, but this was a whole different realm. And hungover morning sex was usually maybe a minute or two longer, but not like this. We had several more drunk or at least tipsy hook ups since that first weekend, all as successful as the first.
Today was the first time we had sex when i was stone cold sober, and i was nervous it was going to be back to my old self. But nope, complete control. It definitely felt better, more intense, but i lasted until i was ready. The most noticeable and confidence-inspiring thing was not escalating straight to PONR upon first insertion. Getting through that first minute made me believe i could go all day... It was the first time i felt like i could control my arousal. I played around with kegeling and reverse kegeling during sex just for fun. Before, it was an all out scramble to reverse kegel to keep PONR away, and regular kegeling even once would literally make me bust. Now i would get up to PONR, i would just slow down or switch positions. That advice is offered to people with pre-e all the time but i know from experience it doesn't really help for shit; i would still come even if she just the sheet touched my dick. But now it DOES work, it would be like i went from a 9 to a 7 within a few seconds, instead of from a 9.999 to a 9.998.
I have no clue where this came from, and no idea if it will stay. I hope i'm not back here in a week complaining about the opposite situation. Has it been a halo effect from the first couple successful times? Has it been not watching porn for several months? Is it that i feel guilty and weird sleeping with this new girl, when i'm still in love with my ex? Have i internalized so much of what i've learned here that i'm not thinking about it as much? No idea... but don't look a gift horse in the mouth right? I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts.
We broke up right around new years, and since then i have been SO freaking busy with school and work that i've almost completely let any kind of routine slip. I should also mention i've been too busy to even masturbate, haven't used the fleshlight in weeks and i haven't watched porn probably since december.
Fast forward a few weeks and i just started sleeping with a different girl. ALSO hot as hell (my friends say hotter), ALSO tight as hell, ALSO don't use condoms... And i've been a fucking stallion in bed. Sex has been virtually as long as i want it to be, anywhere between like 10 and 30 minutes, I come when i'm ready to come. WTF?!
The first time i attributed it to the fact that i was drunk and had taken a Xanax pill (anti-anxiety, intensifies alcohol). The morning after i attributed it to the fact that i was still drunk (xanax is a relatively fast acting benzo, and its effects wear off after around 4-6 hours). But the truth is, with my ex i definitely lasted longer drunk, but this was a whole different realm. And hungover morning sex was usually maybe a minute or two longer, but not like this. We had several more drunk or at least tipsy hook ups since that first weekend, all as successful as the first.
Today was the first time we had sex when i was stone cold sober, and i was nervous it was going to be back to my old self. But nope, complete control. It definitely felt better, more intense, but i lasted until i was ready. The most noticeable and confidence-inspiring thing was not escalating straight to PONR upon first insertion. Getting through that first minute made me believe i could go all day... It was the first time i felt like i could control my arousal. I played around with kegeling and reverse kegeling during sex just for fun. Before, it was an all out scramble to reverse kegel to keep PONR away, and regular kegeling even once would literally make me bust. Now i would get up to PONR, i would just slow down or switch positions. That advice is offered to people with pre-e all the time but i know from experience it doesn't really help for shit; i would still come even if she just the sheet touched my dick. But now it DOES work, it would be like i went from a 9 to a 7 within a few seconds, instead of from a 9.999 to a 9.998.
I have no clue where this came from, and no idea if it will stay. I hope i'm not back here in a week complaining about the opposite situation. Has it been a halo effect from the first couple successful times? Has it been not watching porn for several months? Is it that i feel guilty and weird sleeping with this new girl, when i'm still in love with my ex? Have i internalized so much of what i've learned here that i'm not thinking about it as much? No idea... but don't look a gift horse in the mouth right? I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts.
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