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Severe and recent... help!
Ok so I'll try to give a brief overview.
I'm 30 years old, and only recently started having severe problems with PE. About 10 months ago, I read through the YBOP stuff and gave up porn completely. I was having ED problems, and delayed ejaculation... pretty severely. Getting off porn and stopping masturbation fixed this completely within about 6 months. Beyond that it gave me more confidence, normalized my dopamine levels (judging based on my emotions and drive), and put my sex drive back to where it was when I was 15. It made me a much happier person. I was with a girl at the time I wasn't really into... I could last an hour during sex, give her multiple orgasms, but didn't really enjoy it.
I broke up with her after being on NoPorn for about 1-2 months... after that I had a couple of girls and noticed the PE but didn't think too much of it since they were short term and not particularly good experiences either. I figured my body was still adjusting.
About 6 months ago I met someone new... someone I had excellent chemistry with. Literally drove me nuts with desire... she still does actually. Outside of that she is pretty high maintenance... easy to anger and probably somebody that won't work out over the long term. I love the sex with her; however, the important thing is that the Premature Ejaculation has been nuts.
Almost every time with her, I am there within 30 seconds or less. Most times one or two thrusts is enough... I orgasm and don't even enjoy it. They are so weak that it's barely notable. It pisses me off to no end... we have sex maybe once or twice a week, which doesn't help, and when we have had it more often (like on vacation) things were better though still quite weird.
It's not easy for me to go more than once per session with this girl either... she is a bit formal about things I must admit. However, sometimes when we go twice in a row, the second time is just as fast as the first. How is that even possible? I tried talking to her about it, and she notices it but claims its not a big deal. It is a big deal for me though because it ruins my favorite experience in the world.
Things I am trying:
Kegels... I don't follow the guides on here. Found it elsewhere and generally do 1-2 sessions per day of 15 8 second holds alternated with 15 8 second reverse holds. I know thats not perfect but I have been on it for a month with no benefit... how can it help when I am gone within 2 thrusts? There is no time to relax that muscle.
SSRI's... I tried Zoloft briefly on demand in low dose. It did nothing and the side effects sucked. Gave me severe diaherria. I could try it again if I'm desperate and do it for a longer term... but I'm wondering what the long term side effects will be
Viagra... I read this has a similar potency to Priligy (which I have not tried yet). I've only tried it once, but did nothing for the initial ejaculation. That being said, it did leave me with a hard on and let me keep going. Interesting and worth messing with, but not the answer.
Things I can still try:
Masturbation... I won't go back to porn. EVER! But I have been experimenting with masturbation again. I can work on practicing delaying there, but I wonder how much that will help if I'm once again gone within under 5 secons.
Really could use some help here... this is starting to depress me and I hate being depressed. I mean I don't have to go back to lasting hours, but 5-10 minutes would basically be perfect. HELP!
EDIT: I also have been regularly exercising for years...
I'm 30 years old, and only recently started having severe problems with PE. About 10 months ago, I read through the YBOP stuff and gave up porn completely. I was having ED problems, and delayed ejaculation... pretty severely. Getting off porn and stopping masturbation fixed this completely within about 6 months. Beyond that it gave me more confidence, normalized my dopamine levels (judging based on my emotions and drive), and put my sex drive back to where it was when I was 15. It made me a much happier person. I was with a girl at the time I wasn't really into... I could last an hour during sex, give her multiple orgasms, but didn't really enjoy it.
I broke up with her after being on NoPorn for about 1-2 months... after that I had a couple of girls and noticed the PE but didn't think too much of it since they were short term and not particularly good experiences either. I figured my body was still adjusting.
About 6 months ago I met someone new... someone I had excellent chemistry with. Literally drove me nuts with desire... she still does actually. Outside of that she is pretty high maintenance... easy to anger and probably somebody that won't work out over the long term. I love the sex with her; however, the important thing is that the Premature Ejaculation has been nuts.
Almost every time with her, I am there within 30 seconds or less. Most times one or two thrusts is enough... I orgasm and don't even enjoy it. They are so weak that it's barely notable. It pisses me off to no end... we have sex maybe once or twice a week, which doesn't help, and when we have had it more often (like on vacation) things were better though still quite weird.
It's not easy for me to go more than once per session with this girl either... she is a bit formal about things I must admit. However, sometimes when we go twice in a row, the second time is just as fast as the first. How is that even possible? I tried talking to her about it, and she notices it but claims its not a big deal. It is a big deal for me though because it ruins my favorite experience in the world.
Things I am trying:
Kegels... I don't follow the guides on here. Found it elsewhere and generally do 1-2 sessions per day of 15 8 second holds alternated with 15 8 second reverse holds. I know thats not perfect but I have been on it for a month with no benefit... how can it help when I am gone within 2 thrusts? There is no time to relax that muscle.
SSRI's... I tried Zoloft briefly on demand in low dose. It did nothing and the side effects sucked. Gave me severe diaherria. I could try it again if I'm desperate and do it for a longer term... but I'm wondering what the long term side effects will be
Viagra... I read this has a similar potency to Priligy (which I have not tried yet). I've only tried it once, but did nothing for the initial ejaculation. That being said, it did leave me with a hard on and let me keep going. Interesting and worth messing with, but not the answer.
Things I can still try:
Masturbation... I won't go back to porn. EVER! But I have been experimenting with masturbation again. I can work on practicing delaying there, but I wonder how much that will help if I'm once again gone within under 5 secons.
Really could use some help here... this is starting to depress me and I hate being depressed. I mean I don't have to go back to lasting hours, but 5-10 minutes would basically be perfect. HELP!
EDIT: I also have been regularly exercising for years...
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