PE & oral sex

[BigJ80 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BigJ80]

Hi everybody,

I've been reading this forum for some months and I must say thank to all the people who posted lots of extremely interesting argumentations and discussions here.
I've never really had severe PE, I could have sex for even 30m but .... I spent the whole time struggling not to cum and did never really enjoy sex as I guess my body was tense all the time.

RKs, correct breathing, edging sessions, better knowledge of the plateau phase and stretching made me extremely relaxed and confident and now I can really enjoy sex. Same duration as before, much more pleasure.

BUT

My real problem has always been oral sex... blowjobs. I decided to post here because I really did not find any other posts underlining "performance" differences between standard sex and oral sex. Actually, I read aboout many guys who can stand 10 mins blowjobs and then are desperate cause they can't stand 10secs of sex. That's the opposite for me. I just love oral sex but can't resist more than 30 seconds !!!! Even if I start with no erection at all, I just get in the excitement phase and then fast as hell directly to PONR with no plateau at all.
I can't really understand whats the point with me. I'm sure it's a psychological issue because I have no kegels at all and I can edge very intensily for 40 minutes stimulating glands frenulum etc. It's just the "real" situation that kills me.
I just love blowjobs and my mind can't stand them ??? This is very frustrating

So, has anyone had the same problem ??
I would really love to hear some opinions and tips ...
Thanks again for all the great stuff here, and forgive my English as it's not my first language.

S.

[Griff99 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Griff99]

Well I'm gonna look at it from a different perspective here for a second...

I had really bad PreE with everything oral, sex, even a handjob. I can now last pretty long with oral, still struggling with real sex a bit.

I would say for me personally, I feel that I used to have really sensitive glans and the tongue stimulation with oral directly on the head caused me to cum. I never used to stimulate the glans while masturbating but now I do and its made a huge difference for oral.

[Berba Member Find all posts View Profile Close Berba]

I think you probably already answered your own question when you said that your mind can't handle oral.

Apply the same principles to oral as you would sex... Relax, breath deep, get the girl to stop, back off and use her hand for a bit, take a break during etc... Usual stuff. If you can last long during sex and masturbation then it strongly hints towards a psychological issue, rather than physical.

[BigJ80 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BigJ80]

Thank you for the replies.

Apply the same principles to oral as you would sex... Relax, breath deep, get the girl to stop, back off and use her hand for a bit, take a break during etc... Usual stuff. If you can last long during sex and masturbation then it strongly hints towards a psychological issue, rather than physical.

You're right, I already had the hint that this is a psychological issue… my problem is I've already worked a lot on this and haven't seen any improvements sadly…. while I had a lot on the standard sex side…
I know i should practice "on the field" but I don't have a girlfriend, I have sex with different girls almost every time and I can't really tell them please stop, back off etc
I guess I will go on with the exercises and hope to improve in some way, but would be glad to hear that someone has had my same issue and solved it hopefully.

S.

[jakebrown Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jakebrown]

Never met a guy who didn't like oral sex. Personally, I love giving blow jobs but rarely allow a guy to go down on me. I'm like you, I just don't enjoy it at all. maybe girls are better at giving oral :P

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

If they had a choice I think women would love only having to give oral sex for 1 minute. Just for the hell of it try giving oral sex to a banana ( no I'm not kidding) and see how tired your jaw gets.

[Joint-Expansion Senior Member Member of the Month August 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Joint-Expansion]

Great head is like a gift from the gods.

Personally, I usually have a hard time cumming from just oral-only. For me it is something that really excites me and gets me stimulated to maximum capacity, erection-wise, but I enjoy climaxing inside of my woman's erogenous zones so much more that I rarely feel the urge to bust one off in her mouth first.

It feels incredible, for sure, but there is just something about that connection vaginally or anally that I am much more inclined to release my orgasmic juices into. lol

[vernus Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close vernus]

How are you my English is not good.
I suffered for a long time EP under 2 minutes of penetration I ejaculated. Today I no longer have this problem because I found the cause and follow a treatment.
But the interesting thing is that with oral sex (before treatment) I do not ejaculate fast my wife could be sucking my cock for about 20 minutes is not a big but much longer penetration. Today my wife may be sucking for a long time I did not ejaculate.
I think this happened for two reasons
. Oral sex I'm passive my wife in this command, she determines the rhythm
. I do not get so excited in oral sex as I get penetration

[BigJ80 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BigJ80]

Your opinions confirm that it differs a lot from person to person... reactions from oral sex may be very different from reactions during intercourse... as in my case

[vernus Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close vernus]

Your opinions confirm that it differs a lot from person to person... reactions from oral sex may be very different from reactions during intercourse... as in my case

Yes every man has a personal characteristic

[SeratoBeats Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SeratoBeats]

I last longer getting an amazing blowjob than getting a handjob, explain this one! Lol

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

If they had a choice I think women would love only having to give oral sex for 1 minute. Just for the hell of it try giving oral sex to a banana ( no I'm not kidding) and see how tired your jaw gets.

Cuspie deserves cookies here hahaha.

Yea dude your girl is probably happy that you're not lasting forever during head.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Hey y'all, whoever is giving you Pre-E during oral, sure knows what the eff she is doing. Be glad; it could be much worse lol sucky head is just that, sucky head!

[Florida636 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Florida636]

I last longer getting an amazing blowjob than getting a handjob, explain this one! Lol

Im the same but when a girl knows how to give a good blow job shes usually not just sucking shes jacking you off to, the girl im talking to now gives good blowjobs but she only does about 15-20 strokes to ever 3-4 minutes of sucking, if she did more strokes I would bust much faster

[Alec Phoenix Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Alec Phoenix]

I find it depends on how the woman gives the blowjob. Some put more pressure and use the tongue more, in which case it's harder to withstand the pleasure. I also find there is one thing that a woman can do with her tongue to the most sensitive spot on my glans, and I'm in trouble if the particular girl I'm with just happens to do that thing. I usually just wait and see if a new partner is going to be someone that does it, and if so I just ask her not to. If you're communicating with each other about what can help you last longer or not, then I think it's fine to find a way that you can still enjoy a BJ but without it sending you over the edge.