All gains dissapear during sex!

[dbn Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbn]

Hi all. Ive been lurking around here for about 3 months now and have had quite an improvement. When I first came to the forum, in edging I would reach PONR in about 2 minutes and had a really tight PC muscle. I would actually hold a kegel all the time while erect. I started an RK routine and mainly gained awareness of my PC muscle and now during edging can go nonstop for atleast 10 minutes staying away from PONR. This was unthinkable for me a while ago. My main problem is during sex. Each thrust during sex causes me to IK and as much as I try I cant seem to keep them away... this causes me to cum within a minute of penetration on my first round. Second round I can go for a lot longer, but I still want to be able to control my first round like I control edging. I don't need to last for 20+ minutes and frankly, I would be incredibly happy if I could consistently last between 5 to 10 minutes.´Do you guys have any advice for me? Ive thought about edging with lube and rubbing my glans directly (I have foreskin and masturbate without pulling it back). This would probably resemble sex more and make me more used to the feeling so that I can attempt to control IK´s... what do you think?

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

You need to practice more, take your time, advance your edging technique, balance your pelvic floor, gain more awareness about your responses and how to control them, maybe the following threads would help.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...asm-guide.html

Minuteman's PremE FAQ

Arousal Techniques

ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response

What we know so far about PE, its causes and its treatment


Edging 101

Edging For Premature Ejaculation

Edging - penis exercise For Size and Hardness

Edging Toward MMO



Kegels: Only One Piece of the Equation to Strengthen the Pelvic Floor

Yoga Poses for Pelvic Floor Stretching - relax your muscles

Confusion with Reverse Kegels

Pelvic Floor Balance


You may also want to read on other stuff you can do in bed and how to become a better lover by reading through the following sub-forums.

Relationship Forum

A Woman's Perspective

Premature Ejaculation Forum

For invaluable tips, information and advice, I highly recommend you to visit
http://www.thepassionatewife.com

[Jake Woods Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jake Woods]

Keep practising man, I've read loads of stories on how men cure premature ejaculation. In some cases it is physiological, you think you're gonna cum early and you do. Anxiety can cause premature ejaculation too, put it this way, if you were having sex in the wild like our ancestors did, if you see a lion coming up behind you during sex, you would ejaculate much quicker because of the adrenaline and to also ensure that you pass on your genes lol.

Use the information MrBB provided above me and that will sure help, good luck to you

[dobby Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dobby]

Get a fleshlight...or a fk buddy.

You aren't maximizing the amount of stimulation your body can handle so when you get that stimulation, plus all the extra arousal that comes with sex, it's overwhelming.

Practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect!

[ammonite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ammonite]

When edging results aren't transferring to sex, I alway suggest there are two possible reasons.

The first is that you have some psychological problem with sex, maybe performance anxiety, or you are just focused too much on performing well. Instead, as others have suggested, you just need to have more sex, and try and relax and enjoy it.

The other option is that you are not edging as well as you can. Essentially, if you don't make edging intense enough, you will not be able to transfer your results to sex. For this, read through the link in my signature "Edging for premature ejaculation" if you haven't already. This thread suggests how you can edge best specifically for premature ejaculation, and you may find you are making some common mistakes.

[dbn Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbn]

THx guys, I´ll reread your post ammonite and keep working on it.

[pmcguyver Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pmcguyver]

THx guys, I´ll reread your post ammonite and keep working on it.

I also have been lurking around here for months trying different things as well.
Everything i have tried worked somewhat but not good enough for me.
I am 58 years old with 6 by passes to the heart, Between that and the meds nothing seemed to work good
enough to last as long as i wanted.
I did tons of reading on this forum and other places. I will continue to work on this problem.
Anyway Last sunday night I tried Promescent. two sprays and wow that did the trick for me. I lasted so long i had to stop a few times just to get my
breath back. I know this isnt an all out cure but while i am trying to fix my problem that stuff helped me big time.

[minute_man Member Find all posts View Profile Close minute_man]

Get a fleshlight...or a fk buddy.

You aren't maximizing the amount of stimulation your body can handle so when you get that stimulation, plus all the extra arousal that comes with sex, it's overwhelming.

Practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect!

Spot on. I can't stress your points enough. In my experience, I managed to increase my masturbation times from between 2-5 minutes to 30+ minutes through wet masturbation with my hand and edging. I thought I was finally getting over my PE..

But as soon as I bought a fleshlight and used it for the firs time, BAM, 5 thrusts later and I jizzed. I'm now exclusively using the fleshlight for masturbation (no more hand wanking) and I'm seeing fantastic results so far. I'm actually thinking of posting a separate thread to describe my experiences in more detail.

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

Sometimes it just oversensitive sexual nerve endings where edging may help or over-heightened arousal state. Time will tell.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

Hi all. Ive been lurking around here for about 3 months now and have had quite an improvement. When I first came to the forum, in edging I would reach PONR in about 2 minutes and had a really tight PC muscle. I would actually hold a kegel all the time while erect. I started an RK routine and mainly gained awareness of my PC muscle and now during edging can go nonstop for atleast 10 minutes staying away from PONR. This was unthinkable for me a while ago. My main problem is during sex. Each thrust during sex causes me to IK and as much as I try I cant seem to keep them away... this causes me to cum within a minute of penetration on my first round. Second round I can go for a lot longer, but I still want to be able to control my first round like I control edging. I don't need to last for 20+ minutes and frankly, I would be incredibly happy if I could consistently last between 5 to 10 minutes.´Do you guys have any advice for me? Ive thought about edging with lube and rubbing my glans directly (I have foreskin and masturbate without pulling it back). This would probably resemble sex more and make me more used to the feeling so that I can attempt to control IK´s... what do you think?

I suggest u do pull back and rub all sensitive parts and also tighten grip a little. Now u have to start getting used to real sex and get used to lasting a little longer and longer at THAT. It's part of the cure, but without a patient and constant sex partner, it will be hard to do. It's a catch 22 thing.