Overcoming self-fulfilled PremE

[flguy86 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close flguy86]

The first 4 years of being sexually active I had no sexual problems. Then one faithful night after watching American Pie before sex I exploded upon penetration. Ever since then I haven't been able to go longer than about 5 minutes. I go into my sexual encounters worrying about my PremE and with no surprise it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I know there's nothing wrong with me physically but that one bad experience sent me into a negative downward spiral of self doubt. Has anyone been able to overcome this aspect and been able to go confidently into the bedroom without one thought of when you'll cum? I would hate for that one experience to ruin me forever.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Go right back in after you cum. Warm apple pie.....

Lol I'm sure someone will swing by with some links!

[ammonite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ammonite]

I think you might find the thread in my signature (Edging for premature ejaculation) of use. It is about how you can edge most effectively to tackle both the physical side (IK) and the psychological side (Being too focused on orgasm- this will be of interest to you).

You've realised it for yourself, but basically you can cause yourself to reach PONR just by thinking about orgasm. This can even be subconscious which can be even harder to deal with. The best way to shift your focus away from orgasm is to start with edging and then transfer it into sex. Learn to get into the plateau phase. An arousal control program such as Bygg D's might also be if help.

[SeratoBeats Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SeratoBeats]

The first 4 years of being sexually active I had no sexual problems. Then one faithful night after watching American Pie before sex I exploded upon penetration. Ever since then I haven't been able to go longer than about 5 minutes. I go into my sexual encounters worrying about my PremE and with no surprise it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I know there's nothing wrong with me physically but that one bad experience sent me into a negative downward spiral of self doubt. Has anyone been able to overcome this aspect and been able to go confidently into the bedroom without one thought of when you'll cum? I would hate for that one experience to ruitcforever.d

Yep, this is how it all started for me. Banged and banged and lasted forever feeling like a pornstar. One bad pe experience with my ex one night and it spiralled out of control ever since for the next 6 years of my life.

You will get through it. Read the stickies posted here and try to build the confidence back.

I will post back when I get more time


Keep your head up

[eworthi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eworthi]

Who knows what triggered PremE for me but I've suffered from it throughout most of my life (I'm 50). It never occurred to me that specific regular exercise, like what you will find at this site, could help me gain control of my orgasm response. I had always assumed that my PremE was involuntary and that my wife and I had to live with it. Due to this site I am convinced that not only is it possible to exercise my way into balanced penile health but that it is my responsibility to do so. Perhaps even EVERY MAN's responsibility! So don't look at what has happened to you as a loss of control, for you didn't really have control before, it was just that the involuntary reaction to sexual stimulus used to be in your favor, and now it isn't, but don't mistake that for control. Buckle down and read everything at this site and start a routine and be confident that you will gain control.