Everyone's pre e input

[2pc Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 2pc]

Okay my two cents.

I didn't want to quote your entire post because it is lengthy, but I just want to say I love this post. This is how I've been trying to get myself to think about the situation. It is something that can cause a lot of anxiety and constant thought about the subject but it's true, that isn't going to help anyone! It may be hard to find a partner that will put up with the journey you're taking right now but in the end, what do you have to lose. You can either accept it, deal with it, and work to change it...or give up and let it consume your life (making you a miserable person I'd assume).

I know it's definitely easier said than done, but I think everyone should take a look at this post and work toward that mind state.

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

Okay my two cents.

Yes I agree everyone wants to be in that mindset. That's what trying to cure the problem is about. It's how to do that, that's what people on here are trying to learn. How to get into that mindset. That's why it's helpful to listen to people who have overcome it.

Personally I have always had the issue whether I have been worried about it or not, but I can certainly say it has been better when I wasn't worried about it, but it has always been there. Interestingly, when I really admitted to myself it was a problem and I needed to sort it out for my partner and I, it got a lot worse for a long time.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Okay my two cents. What exactly is pre-e? Well according to the definition it is ejaculating before the partner is satisfied. So a guy will cum in a minute or two. I say so what! You see when I was younger that happened to me quite often. I never gave it much thought. Okay I came but it didn't mean the night was over. To me it meant I had to do something else to get her off. Okay didn't mind that at all. Why did I cum so fast? Simple; I was younger and very horny! It just didn't bother me.


As I got older,since I really put no pressure on myself to "perform" I just started lasting longer and longer. Funny but whenever I screw I never think about cumming until that very minute. I just think how great it is to fuck ( can I say that here?) and I gt a beautiful woman to do it to.

I have been reading these post for years and I hear things like;frustrated, struggle, disappointment, no confidence, avoid sex because of it, suffer ( that one is used a lot) and on and on and I wonder how any one or any condition could ever possibly be fixed when there is so much stress and anxiety associated with it. Yes I know there is a physical side to it but to me the mental side just so out weighs the physical.
Being older than most of you guys there are times, but thankfully few, when my best friend doesn't want to screw. Oh I do but he doesn't. Now if that happens to most guys on here they will be here the next morning saying they have ed. I never think that at all. Hey I had an off night. Women have off nights as well.

I think many of us would be much better off if we stopped putting pressure on ourselves, stop thinking they are going to leave us if we don't perform,and just go and have fun. No it won't work for all of us and it may take time but maybe if we stop stressing out over it and just enjoy it, well just maybe we'll get better at it.

I agree that beating yourself up and having a defeated attitude can contribute to the problem, but for me that wasn't the case. I found a girl who i'm as comfortable and relaxed with than anybody else. There wasn't anxiety or nerves ( in the begginning of the relationship maybe a bit). And even after i would cum early on a certain night i woukdn't worry because i would then go into round 2. But for me even round 2 wasn't satisfying, i would last at max 10-15 mind longer and it would still be an effort on my part to do so. My lasting time with masturbation or edging was always the same aswel, so although you are right, for me it's mostly physical ptobably 90%.

I know you said the definition of pre e is ejaculating before the desired time of the partner but for me and i think a lot of others its ejaculating before our own desired time aswel. Now i'm experiencing the plateau phase without the aid of meds i'm in awe of what i've been missing out on.

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

Now i'm experiencing the plateau phase without the aid of meds i'm in awe of what i've been missing out on.

Can I ask how you managed to get into plateau? I've finding it quite hard at the moment. It can take a lot of edging for me to get there, but as soon as it starts feeling pleasurable I start to IK.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

I started a reverse kegel routine, which on it's own showed progress, then included stretches and deep squats. Without these you can still pogress with edging it will just take time, but maybe they could be something that help, if ik's occur a lot early on try an rk routine see what that does, stretches are good in general not just for pre e so might aswel do them.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Just like too much porn can whack you out and give some some ed issues, do you think that once you have programmed your brain that you will cum too quickly that it is very hard indeed to un program it?

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

I'm not sure on that one, i know that programming my dick to cum quickly through my bad masturbation habits was a cause, but i turned it around very quickly. For the brain idk, i haven't made any changes in that way, i never cut out porn and always try to keep myself at highest level of arousal when edging or having sex.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

I finished my edging not long ago and came across something which leads me to think it could be a bidmg factor in pf imbalance and pre e.
While i was edging i felt that area between balls and anus, and it was bulging. I don't often feel that part and i think last time i did was over a month ago. So i thougt the exercises i've been doing have caused it to bulge over time ( which probably triue also). So i got a mirror and had a look ( felt like a weirdo) and as i upped the pace and ik's kicked in it was getting firmer. I slowed the pace right down and then stopped and slowly it receeded ( a little bit) and wasn't as firm or tight.

From seeing this i think a lot of people could have imbalanced pf, or just overly strong kegels because there getting a constant workout. I started thinking it could be more related to normal workouts than i thought. If you constantly do short workouts lifting heavy weights you will build strength but no stamina, compared to the guy who does long workouts, more often more repetitions. You'll be able to lift more than him but you will hit the wall a lot sooner.
So with sex or masturbation in your earlier years, guys who go a min or 2 start kegelling strong and hard and there done. Over time building a lot of strength. Guys who go 10-20 mins with much lighter kegels over the course are building stamina.
With this and a life time of holding in farts, no.1 and no.2's but rarely actually pushing them out
I think it might be a big factor.

[Steve'sOnTheRoad Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Steve'sOnTheRoad]

Well said brother!

The journey could be long but if you stick at it.... with dedicated work....you WILL come out the other side !

Okay my two cents. What exactly is pre-e? Well according to the definition it is ejaculating before the partner is satisfied. So a guy will cum in a minute or two. I say so what! You see when I was younger that happened to me quite often. I never gave it much thought. Okay I came but it didn't mean the night was over. To me it meant I had to do something else to get her off. Okay didn't mind that at all. Why did I cum so fast? Simple; I was younger and very horny! It just didn't bother me.

As I got older,since I really put no pressure on myself to "perform" I just started lasting longer and longer. Funny but whenever I screw I never think about cumming until that very minute. I just think how great it is to fuck ( can I say that here?) and I gt a beautiful woman to do it to.

I have been reading these post for years and I hear things like;frustrated, struggle, disappointment, no confidence, avoid sex because of it, suffer ( that one is used a lot) and on and on and I wonder how any one or any condition could ever possibly be fixed when there is so much stress and anxiety associated with it. Yes I know there is a physical side to it but to me the mental side just so out weighs the physical.
Being older than most of you guys there are times, but thankfully few, when my best friend doesn't want to screw. Oh I do but he doesn't. Now if that happens to most guys on here they will be here the next morning saying they have ed. I never think that at all. Hey I had an off night. Women have off nights as well.

I think many of us would be much better off if we stopped putting pressure on ourselves, stop thinking they are going to leave us if we don't perform,and just go and have fun. No it won't work for all of us and it may take time but maybe if we stop stressing out over it and just enjoy it, well just maybe we'll get better at it.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

More non exercise/ edging etc related techniques for holding off that bit longer.
I mentioned before about pressing the lower abs, base of dick down firmly to hold off and gve better control, the perinium being pushed against is known aswel and so is pulling the balls away from the body. This one is doing all at the same time. Its lik a three pronged attacked, surrounding the enemy so theres nowhere to go. I used it earlier while edging, granted it will be tough to use while having sex, but its a good way of holding off but allowing to keep stimulation going where normally you wouldn't be able to. Test it.
Another one i found earlier by accident. When stimulating brush your thumb strongly against the head of your dick. I was coming to the end of my edging and blowing my load was approaching fast, i kept going and just wiped a bit of lube off the head with my thumb and it subsided, minimally albeit, but continued then and kept doing this every 30 secs. Again test it
May be especially useful for those who are highly sensitive, when ballooning.