Arousal spread

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

I have heard a lot about this technique which is supposed to shift the arousal away from your penis thus spreading it all over the body and eventually helping you last longer.

I would like to further deepen this topic and ask you guys if you know about it, if you can put it into practice and if you can give me some tips.

I'm pretty sure it has more to do with the mental part rather than the physical one.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

What's the technique? From my routine and work I started to get the feeling spread through the pelvic floor and the legs more and more, but since starting my bodybuilding workout where I'm doing more leg work it hasn't been so apparent.

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

What's the technique? From my routine and work I started to get the feeling spread through the pelvic floor and the legs more and more, but since starting my bodybuilding workout where I'm doing more leg work it hasn't been so apparent.

I don't know exactly if there's a technique and that's the reason why I opened the thread. I'm pretty sure that something has to be done in order to spread the arousal in the other part of the body. How did you shift your arousal to the legs/pelvic floor?

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

It just started spreading as the weeks progressed, I think mainly from rk and k, and it was more noticable when I upped the kegels to 2:1 rk:k so thinking kegels are more the cause but still overall balance is needed. It's still there, at times my legs go wobbly, but not as much since working out the legs. Haven't been able to spread it anywhere else, am hoping to achieve full body orgasm.

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

Yeah, I think the main goal is to shift the arousal away from your penis and then when you get good at it you can spread it all over your body thus achieving a full orgasm (?). Maybe Minuteman and other members who have good arousal control could help us bring clarity to this topic.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Shk said on his log that he had a fbo, i'm hoping he can shed some light aswel.

[popol5169 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close popol5169]

I'd love to have more informations on how to work on full body orgasm. It's probably a very personal and intimate feeling but if those who achieved it could help I'd listen carefully!

[shk Member Find all posts View Profile Close shk]

Well, hopefully I am not misleading you, but I kind of force it, my eyes were closed and I was moving my body like a wave synchronizing the trusts of my hand. When I think of my orgasm, during masturbation, they were always been this way, but now when I concentrate I can feel them going to my spine and reaching the back of my neck. I can feel it it the knees and in my arms it is some kind of electricity starting around your pelvic floor and spreading to your upper and lower body parts, but as I said I've been preparing it with wavy moves very open mind and it just starts to spreads as if it is using the momentum of the waves. After the ejaculation I am making very few finishing trusts and the leave it alone and relax enjoying the spasms, where the IK are kicking. I think this can go much more deeper and could last more, but my mind is kind of broken when it is up to sex.

P.S. Regardin RK, when I try to do them I need to push, otherwise my RK is my relaxed state of my PC muscle, is this enough and is the pushing bad? During masturbation I have non IK, and when I am touching the glance I feel there is a need to IK, but it is either very minor to none, so I guess I should have some kind of balance down there?

P.S.2 You guys can try using a pain relief gels like Voltaren (CLICK). You can spread the gel on your Pelvic floor in the mornings and evenings and it would relax very much your muscles there and if that is your problem you will fill immediate positive effect during intercourse.

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

I am the one that usually posts about arousal spread and have described it in a few posts as well but it doesn't hurt to do it again.

By the way the shk's explanation is not far of,in fact is is very accurate and close to my experience and it is a matter of perception (not to mention that the wave like way of seeing arousal is a good way to proceed to soft/hard wave orgasms), since it boils down to concentration, awareness and perception.

Full body orgasm is a direct consequence of a proper arousal spread, since in a way all of your body reaches the climax at the point of climax. So if you had a full body orgasm you where able to have spread the arousal. The reason sex can feel so much better than masturbation (other than the plethora of new sensations) is that your whole body is active in it rather than just your hand(s) and your pelvic floor, which is why the transfer from edging to sex can be so poor, learning how to spread the arousal can at least lessen the gap somewhat (but the gap will always be there).

The best way to spread the arousal over your body is to edge till you are near PONR and then slow down as much as you can (or maybe better even balloon). Now try to imagine a sort of electricity going up from your pelvic floor trough the spine to your shoulders and head, and reverse. Also try to shift attention from your pelvic floor to, for example your left or right leg. You will start to notice after some time that the arosual (when it is high enough) will follow your attention on your body so you can use this to move it.

The way I perceive arousal is like high hot steam pressure, when you keep it locked in your pelvic floor it rises too fast and every action you do increases the pressure even more. But if you relax the pelvic floor and try to spread the arousal trough your body it will equalize the pressure all over your body so that the increase and decrease of arousal will not have so hard of an impact. In order to spread the arousal try to feel your body as much as you can, try to feel how good your chest and your whole body feels when you are near PONR and not just how your penis and pelvic area feel.

The other certain way to spread the arousal all over your body is to simply engage all of your body, try breathing faster and deeper, try to strain then relax your body the same time your involuntary kegels start acting up near PONR.

You cannot have a full body orgasm is your body is not fully engaged in the process. I never had a full body orgasm that didn't have me out of breath and sweating as I was nearing it. Your body temperature simply and pulse simply need to raise for you to experience it.

The good thing that once one learns to do it consistently it can be used on other things is life (eating tasty food, one can learn to play with sensations and spread them, same goes for example, for the good feeling one gets from a stretch etc).

A full body orgasm is both a benchmark of your progress and a proof to your self that you can in fact last longer and feel more pleasure. The perception of pleasure changes as you start realizing just how pretty much to nothing you have been feeling up to now. It is the same as when a new member says that he has a pretty strong pelvic floor then does some pelvic floor routine for some time and after seeing the progress he notices just how weak his pelvic floor actually was.

But the greatest gift of a full body orgasm is the very deep understanding of your own body and a reforged closeness to is as one begins to love his body again because of the pleasure one felt, and that initiates a positive cycle that can pretty much fix premature ejaculation on its own.

Not to mention that a soft/hard wave orgasms are in a way but a step further from full body orgasms, and one can imagine just how much insight and development can that provide. Soft wave orgasms are the reason why I advanced very fast (and chose pleasure as my absolute requirement rather than performance) and why my perception and insight have became much beneficial both to me and other members here even though is am still a virgin.

I hope that this post helped to clear some confusion about arousal spread and full body orgasm, and its benefits.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Ok, I have been focussing less on performance, lasting longer, and more on pleasure, but overall I think i still prioritise lasting. I'll start letting go of the need to last long completely and take a break from all exercises. I'm not going to try achieve fbo in the way I was, I'll just go with it.
I think from what you've said, one would have to really empty there mind and submit fully to the moment tor this to work and thats not something I have been doing.

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

Emptying the mind is probably the biggest factor to achieve great sex but it's also the hardest thing to carry out. Focusing more on pleasure seems like a good idea but you also have to be able to disassociate from the idea that pleasure equals orgasm and this is another difficult step.

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

I am the one that usually posts about arousal spread and have described it in a few posts as well but it doesn't hurt to do it again.

By the way the shk's explanation is not far of,in fact is is very accurate and close to my experience and it is a matter of perception (not to mention that the wave like way of seeing arousal is a good way to proceed to soft/hard wave orgasms), since it boils down to concentration, awareness and perception.

Full body orgasm is a direct consequence of a proper arousal spread, since in a way all of your body reaches the climax at the point of climax. So if you had a full body orgasm you where able to have spread the arousal. The reason sex can feel so much better than masturbation (other than the plethora of new sensations) is that your whole body is active in it rather than just your hand(s) and your pelvic floor, which is why the transfer from edging to sex can be so poor, learning how to spread the arousal can at least lessen the gap somewhat (but the gap will always be there).

The best way to spread the arousal over your body is to edge till you are near PONR and then slow down as much as you can (or maybe better even balloon). Now try to imagine a sort of electricity going up from your pelvic floor trough the spine to your shoulders and head, and reverse. Also try to shift attention from your pelvic floor to, for example your left or right leg. You will start to notice after some time that the arosual (when it is high enough) will follow your attention on your body so you can use this to move it.

The way I perceive arousal is like high hot steam pressure, when you keep it locked in your pelvic floor it rises too fast and every action you do increases the pressure even more. But if you relax the pelvic floor and try to spread the arousal trough your body it will equalize the pressure all over your body so that the increase and decrease of arousal will not have so hard of an impact. In order to spread the arousal try to feel your body as much as you can, try to feel how good your chest and your whole body feels when you are near PONR and not just how your penis and pelvic area feel.

The other certain way to spread the arousal all over your body is to simply engage all of your body, try breathing faster and deeper, try to strain then relax your body the same time your involuntary kegels start acting up near PONR.

You cannot have a full body orgasm is your body is not fully engaged in the process. I never had a full body orgasm that didn't have me out of breath and sweating as I was nearing it. Your body temperature simply and pulse simply need to raise for you to experience it.

The good thing that once one learns to do it consistently it can be used on other things is life (eating tasty food, one can learn to play with sensations and spread them, same goes for example, for the good feeling one gets from a stretch etc).

A full body orgasm is both a benchmark of your progress and a proof to your self that you can in fact last longer and feel more pleasure. The perception of pleasure changes as you start realizing just how pretty much to nothing you have been feeling up to now. It is the same as when a new member says that he has a pretty strong pelvic floor then does some pelvic floor routine for some time and after seeing the progress he notices just how weak his pelvic floor actually was.

But the greatest gift of a full body orgasm is the very deep understanding of your own body and a reforged closeness to is as one begins to love his body again because of the pleasure one felt, and that initiates a positive cycle that can pretty much fix premature ejaculation on its own.

Not to mention that a soft/hard wave orgasms are in a way but a step further from full body orgasms, and one can imagine just how much insight and development can that provide. Soft wave orgasms are the reason why I advanced very fast (and chose pleasure as my absolute requirement rather than performance) and why my perception and insight have became much beneficial both to me and other members here even though is am still a virgin.

I hope that this post helped to clear some confusion about arousal spread and full body orgasm, and its benefits.

Wow Minuteman! Your post is awesome. I can't wait to try the technique you've just posted. The idea of being in control of your own arousal sounds incredible!

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

Ok, I have been focussing less on performance, lasting longer, and more on pleasure, but overall I think i still prioritise lasting. I'll start letting go of the need to last long completely and take a break from all exercises. I'm not going to try achieve fbo in the way I was, I'll just go with it.
I think from what you've said, one would have to really empty there mind and submit fully to the moment tor this to work and thats not something I have been doing.

The middle road is definitely a good idea almost always and focusing on only one thing to an extreme is not a good idea, trough I do focus most solely on pleasure there are sessions that I focus on lasting longer but, again, only because it pleasures me to do so, so rather than being a chore it becomes a challenge, at least that is how I view it.

Sex is a primal thing which was there way before our fully functioning thought/mind and while using the mind can certainly help in some situations more of then the not the mind should be an observer and the feeler rather than the actor, or as you have said, empty.

However, my mind is rarely empty in those situations, rather than that it is focused on sensations fully, focused on experiencing the pleasure, but I guess it is a different way to look at the 'empty mind' phrase.

The problem with the mind is when it inhibits the actions of the body and the way I have been releasing those inhibitions is by doing something that I would otherwise have not. For example moaning has been a quite odd (and embarrassing) thing for me before to do, my masturbation as well was pretty static.

Now I, if I feel the desire to do so, twitch, moan, curl and allow my body to do as it will. I basically allow the sensations to overflow me, I allow my body the freedom of expression in the intimate moment. While this might be taking it to far it has helped me to feel more at peace with my own body than before.

Emptying the mind is probably the biggest factor to achieve great sex but it's also the hardest thing to carry out. Focusing more on pleasure seems like a good idea but you also have to be able to disassociate from the idea that pleasure equals orgasm and this is another difficult step.

Not that the pleasure equals orgasm, but that the pleasure equals ejaculation. You can have orgasmic feelings without ejaculation, and when you learn to spread the arousal and have full body orgasms with and without ejaculation you will see it more clearly. Also it is about reintroducing ejaculation back in a more fulfilling manner rather than just as an minute pleasure and an end to fun, but rather as a powerful climax of the session.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Arousal spread, sounds like a brand of orgasmic butter.