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My quest to find a true premature ejaculation treatment has just started
Hello everybody! I’m new in the forum and I would like to present myself. I’m from Lisbon, Portugal, I’m in my 40s and I suffer from premature ejaculation (PE) since I can remember, which means since I was a teenager. I never had sex so far, not just because of my PE problem but also because I suffer from extreme shyness, social anxiety and even panic attacks and agoraphobia in the past. I’ve never tried a PE treatment of any kind because I’ve always thought that the premature ejaculation thing was due to my shyness and anxiety problem and since this was sufficiently serious to keep me from having a normal life and socialize I’ve always let things run on their own and kind of accepted this condition (like my chronic anxiety) as something untreatable.
It was only when my psychological problems got worse (to the point of having to be hospitalized in a psychiatric clinic for two days) and have been compelled to take an anxiolytic and an antidepressant) that I accidentally discovered that the medication had the side effect of delaying ejaculation, which later I confirmed by doing some research on the internet.
Now that I know firsthand (along with some research I did on the internet, especially after reading some serious research papers in the sexual medicine field) that premature ejaculation is a neurobiological condition, regardless of one’s willpower or commitment to psycho-babble techniques like the stop-and-go, the squeeze technique and other similar cognitive-behaviorist approaches, which only work (at the best) with men who did not have previously the condition and develop it at a certain point in their lives; and it is not a result of my anxiety or my shyness or my lack of experience, but something correlated with these and probably with the same genetic roots, I have paradoxically gained hope that some drug (present or future) can or will handle this problem safely and efficiently, until a permanent fix is available, most certainly through gene therapy and/or nanotechnology applied to the biomedical sciences. So I started searching the internet for experiences that others might have already made and that have resulted well enough with them. That’s how I found this forum.
As I said I don’t believe in any treatment that appeals to one’s willpower, commitment or conscious effort (like the stop and go or the squeeze techniques above mentioned) as I think this is not a matter of training, concentration or willpower but something neurobiological as are the anxiety problems that I suffer from. You may be thinking: «aren’t you already taking an antidepressant»? Yeah, sure, but it only took effect in the first two years or so (I’m now in the seventh year of daily clomipramine). Over time the “delaying effect” slowly decreased until I barely reach five minutes (or less) nowadays – and I’m just talking about masturbation alone! I’m sure that in the event of sexual intercourse would be even worse! As I said I never had sex so far as my fear of failure (or feeling humiliated before a woman) and my anxiety makes me further postpone my début on this domain. Nevertheless, I’m planning to search this forum for your personal experiences (or should I say, «experiments») as well as share my own in the next months. I’m presently taking 500 mg of L-arginine daily, together with the 50 mg of clomipramine that I’ve been taking in the last seven years, hopping to reach an “augmentation effect”, but I haven’t seen any increase in the time to ejaculation. The next step will be doubling the daily dose of L-arginine after finishing the first bottle of capsules.
It was only when my psychological problems got worse (to the point of having to be hospitalized in a psychiatric clinic for two days) and have been compelled to take an anxiolytic and an antidepressant) that I accidentally discovered that the medication had the side effect of delaying ejaculation, which later I confirmed by doing some research on the internet.
Now that I know firsthand (along with some research I did on the internet, especially after reading some serious research papers in the sexual medicine field) that premature ejaculation is a neurobiological condition, regardless of one’s willpower or commitment to psycho-babble techniques like the stop-and-go, the squeeze technique and other similar cognitive-behaviorist approaches, which only work (at the best) with men who did not have previously the condition and develop it at a certain point in their lives; and it is not a result of my anxiety or my shyness or my lack of experience, but something correlated with these and probably with the same genetic roots, I have paradoxically gained hope that some drug (present or future) can or will handle this problem safely and efficiently, until a permanent fix is available, most certainly through gene therapy and/or nanotechnology applied to the biomedical sciences. So I started searching the internet for experiences that others might have already made and that have resulted well enough with them. That’s how I found this forum.
As I said I don’t believe in any treatment that appeals to one’s willpower, commitment or conscious effort (like the stop and go or the squeeze techniques above mentioned) as I think this is not a matter of training, concentration or willpower but something neurobiological as are the anxiety problems that I suffer from. You may be thinking: «aren’t you already taking an antidepressant»? Yeah, sure, but it only took effect in the first two years or so (I’m now in the seventh year of daily clomipramine). Over time the “delaying effect” slowly decreased until I barely reach five minutes (or less) nowadays – and I’m just talking about masturbation alone! I’m sure that in the event of sexual intercourse would be even worse! As I said I never had sex so far as my fear of failure (or feeling humiliated before a woman) and my anxiety makes me further postpone my début on this domain. Nevertheless, I’m planning to search this forum for your personal experiences (or should I say, «experiments») as well as share my own in the next months. I’m presently taking 500 mg of L-arginine daily, together with the 50 mg of clomipramine that I’ve been taking in the last seven years, hopping to reach an “augmentation effect”, but I haven’t seen any increase in the time to ejaculation. The next step will be doubling the daily dose of L-arginine after finishing the first bottle of capsules.
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