Originally posted by Floyd631
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So explain to her your premature ejaculation in terms she can relate to. For example premature ejaculation and ejaculation is like a sneeze, sometimes you can stop it but most of the time it just comes and comes so fast that you are unable to do anything but sneeze.
It is also a good idea to tell her that one of reasons you are ejaculating way too fast is because you are very aroused and find her very attractive and have a hard time controlling yourself. Tell her that you need to get used to her intimately (not just trough sex). Tell her that your desire to make sex as best as you can for her you are getting performance anxiety, because you care.
Here are some ideas how to improve in bed.
What you can do is devote some time for edging in order to better understand your premature ejaculation problems, open a log here in this forum and start with an edging routine lasting minimum 20 minutes. Here is a short insight in edging.
You also need to understand that she is not a part of the problem as much as she is going to be a part of the cure. The way your partner can help you overcome premature ejaculation makes other techniques simply pale in comparison.
Also avoid telling her that her reaction hurts you, it might be that it hurts her as much as it is hurting you since she knows even less about the problem than you and there are a lot of mixed emotions. Always try to focus on the positive reasons you have premature ejaculation. In essence you are scared and you are anxious because you care. While she cannot connect to you trough simple mechanics of your premature ejaculation she can more than well connect with your emotional state. Women perceive best trough emotion and even better trough positive emotions.
And above all you need to be honest with yourself and with her. Fixing premature ejaculation can and most of the time will be a long haul it is not something that will go away in a week or a month. She needs to understand this so that she can stop having high expectations.
I think that MrsLooking4More might be much better equipped to explain your partner about premature ejaculation from the woman's perspective so it might be a good idea to ask her to do that and then get your partner to read that response.
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