I have found out the damn secret! Please, if you have PE, this may help!

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

While irritating and for many probably soul crushing, having premE and trying to fix it made me a better, more understanding and overall more devoted person.

It though me to enjoy the journey as much as the end goal (if not even more).

It though me the benefits of hard work and discipline.

It though me to live with my shortcomings, overcome what I can make peace with what I cannot to the best of my ability.

It though me how to observe myself and others to a much greater degree.

It though me how to appreciate physical activity, strength, flexibility trough workout.

It though me how to be self-critical and understanding at the same time.

It though me patience.

It thought me that with proper mindset perceived shortcomings can be turned into benefits (turning my sensitivity into soft wave orgasms, turning my fast approaching PONRs into DOs).

It though that letting go, can rob the psychological part of the problem of power. When you stop being concerned about having premE but still work out it to improve it for the sake of working on it, you progress faster. If you work on exercises just for the sake of getting stronger or looking better you will not last as long as the person that like to do the exercises and enjoys them.

It though me to learn how to enjoy myself better.

It though me how to love and appreciate my body.

It thought me more about my body then I would have ever learn without this problem.

And probably so much more that I am not even aware.

Yes, it is irritating and even soulcrushing when you ejaculate for seemingly no reason, when you cannot pleasure your beloved to the fullest extent of your desire, when after a sudden breakthrough one single bad sessions threatens to undermine everything you have worked hard for, when you realise that you know nothing about how your body works.

But the feeling one gets, when a solid, steady progress is made, when instead of mere seconds, one can last minutes and even hours, when one experiences an overwhelming amounts of sensual pleasure just because one took the time to experiment and become better at a simple act of masturbation/edging. And finally, when one brings pleasure to the beloved as a result of all that work makes it worth every single second spent working to fix that problem or better said, improve upon a current situation (if it is even worthy to call it a problem anymore).

In my eyes it stopped being a curse a long time ago and became a blessing of sorts.

Though, I would tell a lie if I told that when a (very) bad session happens I am unmoved, but whereas before I would be frustrated and defeated for days, nowdays I get angry for a little while then just shrug it off, or sometimes even just shrug it off.

I hope that this has helped to motivate you in seeing this for a journey (and often times struggle) that it is and not just a bump in the road of your life.

This is one of the bests posts that I have seen at this forum so far. I can remember a big paragraph that you wrote me at my typical "desesperated" old day posts when my depresion was really hard and I think because my internal state, I didn't realize how helpy it was. Now, after re-reading it, it's of big help for when I'm having some bad days.

It's amazing the work that you, LLN, Pegasus, JamesMonroe in the past, and all other experienced users (apologize if I forget someone important here) have been doing and do for the users around here. Even after "overcoming" your sexual problems, you stay here helping and that is honorable, thanks, really.