Question concerning pelvic floor and desensitizing

[Tow Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tow]

Short overview about my edging/pelvic floor routine:

I am edging on Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday. Wednesday and Sunday with ejaculation. While edging I am trying to hold a ligth rk, which is going good, since where I started doing medative rks on Monday, Wednesday and Friday (started with five minutes and am now at 14 minutes. I increased the time after the third session with 12 minutes to 14 minutes, but this increase seems to be too much now, because I am experiencing iks through the day again. So I am going back to 12 minutes again I guess, for some time). This medrks I started in August, my pelvic floor is much more relaxed, I didn't even have those regular iks through the day (changing position in bed, leaning forward etc.). Since I combine these with pulling out of the STU in the "breaks" and stimulating the sweetspots until the cumming sensation subsides and desensitizing sweetspots dry on rest days, edging has become much easier (40 minutes of whole session, sometimes 30 minutes in STU etc.).

Now I have two concerns I'd like to overcome:
1. As mentioned in my other thread by jockinthebox, I overdid it with advance squeezes and am resting now, so it might be from that, but my penis feels much more sensitive. Is this from "healing" or from overdoing the dry desensitizing rubbing? I think it might be a little bit of both, I am refraining from desensitizing for a while too, but that raises another question as I am typing: Is desensitzing reversed if I am not doing it anymore regularly?
2. When do I know that I have to add kegels and back-rks to my medrk-routine? Because sometimes if I really have to go number 1 or number 2 I experience really many iks like the balance is disturbed. Is this because the rk is still too weak, or is it getting stronger than for example the back-rk?

Any advice would be really appreciated since I am really making progress here, but this are of concern for me now to get even better.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Desensitisation isn't good, you don't want that. You wouldn't revert back from desensitisation unless you were desensitised first, which you're not, you would know if you were. You are developing a delayed response and more control over orgasm, much better than desensitisation. So take rest if you need it, don't worry about being more sensitive after taking a break, that's normal for everyone, if you do start back after a week, two weeks whatever, and think "ah shit back to square one" don't, just think if you can get back to where you are now ( 30 + mins which is excellent ) when you're at your most sensitive, aroused etc. then you can put this issue to bed.

[Tow Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tow]

Desensitisation isn't good, you don't want that. You wouldn't revert back from desensitisation unless you were desensitised first, which you're not, you would know if you were. You are developing a delayed response and more control over orgasm, much better than desensitisation. So take rest if you need it, don't worry about being more sensitive after taking a break, that's normal for everyone, if you do start back after a week, two weeks whatever, and think "ah shit back to square one" don't, just think if you can get back to where you are now ( 30 + mins which is excellent ) when you're at your most sensitive, aroused etc. then you can put this issue to bed.

Yeah, with desensitizing I mean rubbing my sweetspots to get them used to stronger stimuli which is helping, but I could have overdone it. In the past just not doing it repaired it and it was way better after that. You are right with the 30+ thing you say, I am just working towards plateau with it.

Thanks, for your response though. What would you say concerning my rk- routine? Should I add kegels and back-rks now or wait a few weeks/months?

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Add them if you think you need to. If you do just add a small set of kegels, and if you think you can add more do so, or if it's too much lessen the amount. Back rk's if you can isolate them then add them.

[Tow Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tow]

Add them if you think you need to. If you do just add a small set of kegels, and if you think you can add more do so, or if it's too much lessen the amount. Back rk's if you can isolate them then add them.

Ok, thanks. I will start with let's say 4 kegels and then see

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Start with 10-15

[MarcusHa Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MarcusHa]

I overdid it with advance squeezes and am resting now, so it might be from that, but my penis feels much more sensitive.

I think this means you are becoming more tense.

Dude, for real. IMO edging is completely USELESS if you are not able of performing good quality RKs. Are you?

If you arent, you should lay down, shut off the light, start breathing slowly and focus on your pelvic floor. Do it for as long as you can, but you gotta be able of feeling slight "movements" down there. DO NOT FORCE YOUR abs. Force your MIND on it.

Once you "learn" how to do it, then you will be on the golden path.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Marcus, it's the other way around. Regarding prem e, rk's are useless if you aren't edging properly and consistently.