Hey guys,
At a loss for finding anything insight or useful googling this kind of information, I thought I might reach out here and see if anyone shares my experiences or has any insight.
I'm currently 35 years old. I've had lifelong PE. At 35, I can honestly say it is no better than when I lost my virginity at age 20.
But saying I have PE isn't really the whole story. I can honestly last as long as I want – provided I go slow enough. Which isn't any fun for her. I can go very slowly, and occasionally might have to stop for a few seconds. So I have plenty of awareness and control – provided I stop when I'm close and go slowly – which has zero chance of getting her off, in my experience.
My only shot at picking up the pace is thinking of horrible things while having sex. I'm not talking baseball. I'm talking nightmarish, disgusting, horrific, traumatizing stuff. And that can't be healthy. But, hey, I've had 15 years to practice. And maybe that increases the pace from slow to medium slow,at best.
Another observation in my 15 years and 10 partners - alcohol helps. A lot. In fact, it cures it. I haven't been able to drink enough to lose my erection – ever. This includes being drunk enough to puke and black out. If I have 5-6 drinks, I can last as long as I want. In fact, sometimes it makes it impossible to finish, despite zero loss in EQ. Whatever the root cause of my condition, this has to be a clue. But of course, being hammered every time I have sex isn't healthy or even possible usually.
Another observation. Desensitizing sprays hardly help at all. I have used Promescent before sex once, and solo a couple times to experiment. I recall using about 5-6 sprays before sex and it helped somewhat...but nothing compared to alcohol.
Just now – which is in part what motivated me to write this, I used TEN SPRAYS of Promescent. I waited 10-15 minutes. It barely had any effect. Of course, when going solo I'm not thrusting while trying to ignore my partner and mental envisioning of being tortured and raped in a dungeon or whatever my imagination can conjure at the time. But my goal was to stimulate myself similar to real sex and see what happened. Almost no effect.
My take away from this is that the physical nerve sensitivity on my dick doesn't matter much. It all has to do with whatever ejaculation reflex is going on, and that mine must be more hyperactive than normal.
Does any of this sound familiar to anyone else?
Honestly, I'm very close to going to a doctor and see if I can get a Prozac prescription. I'm not depressed but if nothing else helps solve it I will be, so maybe it's just preemptive.
I'm sure some of you, if you reply, will recommend certain exercises to try. And I may try them – but you'll have to forgive me if I'm a bit skeptical. Once I've seen what alcohol can do, and the fact that a blowjob makes me cum almost instantaneously when sober (seriously like 5 seconds), it makes me very skeptical that anything other than a chemical/physiological treatment will be of much help at all.
Sorry for the super long first post.
At a loss for finding anything insight or useful googling this kind of information, I thought I might reach out here and see if anyone shares my experiences or has any insight.
I'm currently 35 years old. I've had lifelong PE. At 35, I can honestly say it is no better than when I lost my virginity at age 20.
But saying I have PE isn't really the whole story. I can honestly last as long as I want – provided I go slow enough. Which isn't any fun for her. I can go very slowly, and occasionally might have to stop for a few seconds. So I have plenty of awareness and control – provided I stop when I'm close and go slowly – which has zero chance of getting her off, in my experience.
My only shot at picking up the pace is thinking of horrible things while having sex. I'm not talking baseball. I'm talking nightmarish, disgusting, horrific, traumatizing stuff. And that can't be healthy. But, hey, I've had 15 years to practice. And maybe that increases the pace from slow to medium slow,at best.
Another observation in my 15 years and 10 partners - alcohol helps. A lot. In fact, it cures it. I haven't been able to drink enough to lose my erection – ever. This includes being drunk enough to puke and black out. If I have 5-6 drinks, I can last as long as I want. In fact, sometimes it makes it impossible to finish, despite zero loss in EQ. Whatever the root cause of my condition, this has to be a clue. But of course, being hammered every time I have sex isn't healthy or even possible usually.
Another observation. Desensitizing sprays hardly help at all. I have used Promescent before sex once, and solo a couple times to experiment. I recall using about 5-6 sprays before sex and it helped somewhat...but nothing compared to alcohol.
Just now – which is in part what motivated me to write this, I used TEN SPRAYS of Promescent. I waited 10-15 minutes. It barely had any effect. Of course, when going solo I'm not thrusting while trying to ignore my partner and mental envisioning of being tortured and raped in a dungeon or whatever my imagination can conjure at the time. But my goal was to stimulate myself similar to real sex and see what happened. Almost no effect.
My take away from this is that the physical nerve sensitivity on my dick doesn't matter much. It all has to do with whatever ejaculation reflex is going on, and that mine must be more hyperactive than normal.
Does any of this sound familiar to anyone else?
Honestly, I'm very close to going to a doctor and see if I can get a Prozac prescription. I'm not depressed but if nothing else helps solve it I will be, so maybe it's just preemptive.
I'm sure some of you, if you reply, will recommend certain exercises to try. And I may try them – but you'll have to forgive me if I'm a bit skeptical. Once I've seen what alcohol can do, and the fact that a blowjob makes me cum almost instantaneously when sober (seriously like 5 seconds), it makes me very skeptical that anything other than a chemical/physiological treatment will be of much help at all.
Sorry for the super long first post.
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