Mindset while having sex

[Fighting Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fighting]

Hi, I just posted this in the thread about edging while watching porn and want to ask the guys with the better control something about it, just didn't want to deviate the subject of the other thread:

Well, about the part of watching porn while having sex, I think that you do... Sort of. I mean, sometimes I observe the act of penetration itself while on doggy style or other positions that allow for good perspective, or I contemplate the hotness of my wife's body and genitals, or her face and the sounds she makes while enjoying sex and I get too aroused. I think that would qualify as porn, life porn being done by yourself, much more intense than videos.

So my question is: do you guys think about that while having sex? Should I avoid it? I just find like a waste of the opportunity not to take advantage of the position to admire the beauty of what I have before my eyes and enjoy the visuals + sensations + sounds.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Is this a sex with the lights on vs sex with the lights off question? I much prefer to have the lights on for the very reasons stated. Males are visual creatures, it enhances the experience.

Although, I have seen a few people who skipped out when the looks were being handed out that I would be inclined to flip the switch off, lock the door and run in the opposite direction.

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

I love to look into her eyes while I slowly work my magic. I really don't think about anything. One of the only times I'm at peace. I let instinct take over and just feel. Don't think, just feel. And go slow. Very slow. Sometimes it take me 5 min before my dick is completely inside her. I start with just the tip. I make her beg for the dick, then bam, all the way in. Nice and slow I use my hips to control my dick against her insides. She cums like an animal. I love it.

I usually try to use candles and music. It just perfectly sets the mood and she looks so gorgeous in candle light.

[Mixim Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mixim]

ice and slow I use my hips to control my dick against her insides.

I didnt understand this lol.. What u meant??
How with hips? againts insideS?
Like when u move a bit to the left u aim with dick to the right?

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Learning how to pace yourself will allow you to continue to enjoy sex without the need for distraction routines. Some men like to use negative imagery during sex to suppress their erections. Picture what goes on at the level of conditioning and invoke negative images during sex would be the last thing you want to do.

[Fighting Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fighting]

I love to look into her eyes while I slowly work my magic. I really don't think about anything. One of the only times I'm at peace. I let instinct take over and just feel. Don't think, just feel. And go slow. Very slow. Sometimes it take me 5 min before my dick is completely inside her. I start with just the tip. I make her beg for the dick, then bam, all the way in. Nice and slow I use my hips to control my dick against her insides. She cums like an animal. I love it.

I usually try to use candles and music. It just perfectly sets the mood and she looks so gorgeous in candle light.

That's very nice man. Did you have PE before?

[plays alot Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close plays alot]

If you are having control issues, your thoughts need to be on your pelvic floor until keeping it being relaxed becomes second nature(automatic). Or, if it's not PF related, you need to learn to keep your mental stimulation level in check. Once you gain better control and don't need to concentrate on staying relaxed,because you naturally are, then you can enjoy all the sights and sounds for as long as you like.

My approach while recovering from preE was simple. In the beginning of sex, I had a job to do. So I went to work staying relaxed, concentrated on breathing deep and doing RK's, if necessary, long enough for her to orgasm. Once she did, it was play time. I earned it and what ever happened next was for me.
I should add my girl didn't need forever to orgasm.

[Fighting Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fighting]

If you are having control issues, your thoughts need to be on your pelvic floor until keeping it being relaxed becomes second nature(automatic). Or, if it's not PF related, you need to learn to keep your mental stimulation level in check. Once you gain better control and don't need to concentrate on staying relaxed,because you naturally are, then you can enjoy all the sights and sounds for as long as you like.

My approach while recovering from preE was simple. In the beginning of sex, I had a job to do. So I went to work staying relaxed, concentrated on breathing deep and doing RK's, if necessary, long enough for her to orgasm. Once she did, it was play time. I earned it and what ever happened next was for me.
I should add my girl didn't need forever to orgasm.

Thanks for your insights. Did you overcome PE already? I found this post of yours but I couldn't find a conclusion. If you did, would you mind to update it so we can all learn from your experience?

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...-d-thread.html

[plays alot Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close plays alot]

yes, Fighting, I conquered it. I think I made a post in a new thread about it some time ago. I will still update the one you linked, though. Thanks for bringing that up.