I've just used a fleshlight for the first time. Question.

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

Yup, I bough a STU flleshlight and.. my god, that felt so good.. And obviously I couldn't last for shit.

I've edged for about 20 minutes but I had to stop every few strokes because I was reaching PONR so quickly. (And... just like with a real woman). I didn't ejaculate but I was so so close.

Could someone who uses a fleshlight give me an advice or a trick?


Also, if someone could tell me what can I improve with my routine(Maybe it's too excessive for a begineer?), I would appreciate it a lot. I've started doing this exercises 5 days ago. I REALLY wanna overcome premature ejaculation, which is my main problem.

Through the day :
10-15 minutes tennis ball massage.
10x Reverse kegel ( hold 10 seconds, rest 10 seconds).
100x Reverse kegel (hold 2 seconds, rest 2 seconds).

5x Normal Kegel (hold 5 seconds, rest 5 seconds)
50x Normal Kegel (hold 2 seconds, rest 2 seconds)

I have A LOT of IK when my penis is more sensitive due to high arousal

10 minutes Penis Stretches, flacid.

15 minutes Jelqing (I'm not counting warm up)
2-3 minutes Squeeze exercises.

After the jelqing-Squeeze session, I've been edging for 25-30 minutes with my hand, but now that I have my fleshlight, I'll use it.

I will ejaculate every 4th-5th day.

Thanks A LOT!

Update :

I'm disappointed...

I've met with a friend and everything was going fine, things started getting hot and she gave me a blowjob.. I reached PONR in 20 seconds. I told her to stop, she stopped, but the sensation was so intense I finally ejaculated without even penetrating her once.

I want to forget this moment ASAP, so embarrasing.

[closed291 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Member of the Month June 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed291]

What program are you doing?

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

What program are you doing?

Not a specific program. I've been reading and I've just done my own routine.

I want to know if you think it's a bit excessive or it's good for a beginner.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

You should drop the squeezes for now. They are an advanced exercise and you should wait until you are conditioned before doing them. Everything else looks good.

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

You should drop the squeezes for now. They are an advanced exercise and you should wait until you are conditioned before doing them. Everything else looks good.

Really thanks a lot for the advice! I'm gonna stop doing them for now.

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

I've just finished my training today.

I didn't do jelqing because I was feeling a very slight sensation which wasn't pleasant (maybe pain, too strong grip?) , so I've just done my edging session and tomorrow I will rest and do just RK / Normal Kegels.



I've started edging with the fleshllight. The first 3-4 minutes were OK since I was doing it slowly.. but I decided to start thrusting and I just reached PONR really really quickly.


What I've noticed is I automatically kegel when I thrust, I try to push out doing a reverse kegel but it feels like I'm fighting like crazy against my kegels, because I feel it's impossible for me to have my pelvic floor relaxed when thrusting.

Btw, It's really really hard to keep calm and deep breath for me, I'm a really nervous person, so the fact of trying to RK to keep my pelvic floor relaxed, the fact I feel how PONR is coming soon and then trying to deep breath slowly makes it so difficult.

I also have a lot of IK when edging with the fleshlight with my hand, I try to push out with a reverse kegel but it's really really hard because in one stroke I have about 3-4 IKs.

After some time passed in the edging session, I was able to edge and thrust without reaching PONR that fast.


I would really appreciate some advices/tips about my IKs and the problem I have when thrusting.

Also, apologies if something is hard to understand, I'm not a native English speaker. I'm from Spain!

Thanks a lot!

[Shikamaru Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shikamaru]

Hey merieu welcome bro and I was like you 6-7 months ago when I first got my fleshlight . Barely could last in it always felt PONR couldn't thrust without reaching PONR but I am here to tell you your PE is beatable . I went from cumming before I even entered in a girl to lasting 20-30 mins when I have sex now . The truth is you must stick to your routine and be patient ! Week by week you will get better and better and you must I repeat do not get down on yourself . You can't cure your PE in a month . You will see progress in a month but most likely real progress within two -3 months if you stay consistently and I mean really consistent . First off ur first week or two it will be hard to thrust just go slow and watch ur arousal ! That is the main thing you should learn is where are you on ur arousal scale 1-10 9 is PONR . You will use this technique during sex . This will make you become a sex king knowing when to slow down speed up during sex and when to pull out because you are close to cumming. Most important thing while edging is learning ur arousal scale and where you are on it and if one more stroke can send u over to cumming . Next after a couple weeks you will be able to thrust now you must practice positions like sex doggy style , missionary , riding , to practice for real life . Also warm up the fleshlight is the one of the most important things . Get a big container that has a lid that you can soak ur fleshlight and lube in hot water for 10-15 minutes . This will make it feel so close to a real vagina . So basically practice practice practice . Practice makes perfect . The more you practice the less anxious you should get . I advise you to get a girlfriend she doesn't have to be hot but use her for sex which sounds bad but the real thing is the best practice . You must cure ur PE so use her and hopefully you get ready so when you meet the girl of your dreams you will be able to bang her lights out . The fleshlight is the best way to go if u want to increase ur stamina . Take it from me I went from not lasting shit to making my girl cum 4+ times every time we have sex now only from 6 months of hard work . Trust me you will go through rough times but you must take the good with the bad . Keep ur head up and just think of that hot girl you want saying you were so good in bed and making her scream ! Also pelvic floor tennis ball massage is the best and penis stretches and yoga also with ur rk routine and kegal . You don't need 100 just do 70 RK a day and 30 Kegals . U should probably start with RK only until you get it down but u can do 70 RK 30 K if u want . You don't need jelging unless u want to I didn't and I have great erections .

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

Hey Shikamaru,

Really thanks a lot, these words give me a lot of hope to be able to beat PE. It's good to know that you've overcome PE, congratulations!!

I will be more carefully when thrusting this days, thanks!

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

See, this is the biggest problem with guys that can't last during sex. Stop thrusting so damn much. You need to start slow. Start with justthe tip of your dick. Don't kegel at all. Stay relaxed. Gradually enter deeper. Just use your hips. You want your penis head to massage the walls of the vagina. Thats what makes women orgasm.

Not saying you never thrust, but that should be reserved for after she cums. If you learn to enter into a women, balls deep, and then just use your hips to move your dick around, you will last much longer.

Also, do the same with the flashlight. No thrusting, enter slowly, no kegels, completely relax. Work you way up to 1 hour edging and you should habe complete control.

Like Shikamaru, I also had preE. Couldn't last a minute. Then I started hour long jerk off sessions and I learned to relax the pelvic floor. No kegels, no IKs. Edging is key and stop thrusting so much.

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

See, this is the biggest problem with guys that can't last during sex. Stop thrusting so damn much. You need to start slow. Start with justthe tip of your dick. Don't kegel at all. Stay relaxed. Gradually enter deeper. Just use your hips. You want your penis head to massage the walls of the vagina. Thats what makes women orgasm.

Not saying you never thrust, but that should be reserved for after she cums. If you learn to enter into a women, balls deep, and then just use your hips to move your dick around, you will last much longer.

Also, do the same with the flashlight. No thrusting, enter slowly, no kegels, completely relax. Work you way up to 1 hour edging and you should habe complete control.

Like Shikamaru, I also had preE. Couldn't last a minute. Then I started hour long jerk off sessions and I learned to relax the pelvic floor. No kegels, no IKs. Edging is key and stop thrusting so much.

Thanks for your advices. Will try start slow and keep calm.

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

I'm disappointed...

I've met with a friend and everything was going fine, things started getting hot and she gave me a blowjob.. I reached PONR in 20 seconds. I told her to stop, she stopped, but the sensation was so intense I finally ejaculated without even penetrating her once.

I want to forget this moment ASAP, so embarrasing.

[JanTantra Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JanTantra]

Hi Merieu.

You didn't blow the moment by cuming to fast, you blew by thinking the moment was over only because of that. I really do hope that you eat her pussy out afterwards and used your fingers. Then if you continued to do this for 5 minutes and do not let her cum too quickly such that she is still in the mood, you can gain your erection back and fuck her again.

Keep up the spirit, now you can keep practice like myself. Rome wasn't build in one day and you didn't learn to walk in one day either.

[Merieu Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merieu]

Hi Merieu.

You didn't blow the moment by cuming to fast, you blew by thinking the moment was over only because of that. I really do hope that you eat her pussy out afterwards and used your fingers. Then if you continued to do this for 5 minutes and do not let her cum too quickly such that she is still in the mood, you can gain your erection back and fuck her again.

Keep up the spirit, now you can keep practice like myself. Rome wasn't build in one day and you didn't learn to walk in one day either.

Hello JanTara.

Yes, I continued pleasuring her, but, you know.. the frustation of not being able to last more than 20 seconds with a blowjob and can't even penetrate her, makes me feel bad.

Thanks for the motivation, tho

[JanTantra Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JanTantra]

I feel with you. And do understand why you want to improve. I would just make sure that you do not ruin it totally for yourself.

[PaulC Member Find all posts View Profile Close PaulC]

I've seen a few people post that they've tried real sex very soon after starting a program and while they still can't control the PONR during edging. Then take a massive self-esteem hit. If you've a long term partner willing to go through this with you and help you beat it, brilliant. But otherwise why?!

I'm presently battling this as well as you guys are, but I'm abstaining from real life sex for a bit until I have control over my edging then at least I have confidence going a real situation that hey, I can ride that plateau during edging for ages, I'm going to have the confidence that therefore I'm going to be great. Yep, I hate not getting real sex, but when real sex was 20s and a destruction of self esteem what was the point. Give yourself a few weeks, keep up your routine and you'll improve, then once you feel confident in your edging, try real sex.