Mental Health

[doejohnny Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close doejohnny]

Mental Health Question - This seems like a lot but it's very important to me. So thank you to wise, experienced advice.

I just did my first jelqing routine ever just 30 minutes ago. It's weird accepting the fact that I want the size of my penis to be larger. Some quick background on me is I am fortunate enough to be a healthy 21 year old in my junior year of college. I do pretty well with the ladies honestly. I get with hot girls, I really do. Some girls I don't feel the need to go back to but they even hit me up to try and make it happen again. I really believe that being a good lover is not based on the size of your penis. However through my research and curiosity I only really measured my penis correctly not too long ago. I am currently at approximately 6"BPEL and 4.5" girth and I guess I would like to make it bigger through healthy means (this). I understand that there are people with smaller dicks than this but I have a desire to better myself if I can, idk. So the question is...

How do you keep your sanity during this process. It's hard enough accepting the fact that you want to make your penis larger. Now when I get boners I find myself thinking of its size instead of just enjoying my boner. It's not thaat extreme yet but I don't want to develop some kind of complex ya know? Recently I have just started kind of dating this new girl who's really cute so I guess there are thoughts going through my head that have never been there before. Just typing this out is honestly helping me. I think I may just be bad at taking my own advice unless I write it out. Writing on this site is helping me and it's really wonderful what this community has done. I think staying sane is a matter of respecting the cards you've been dealt, sucking it up, and having fun not only with what you have right now but also having fun in the process of trying to produce results.

Like I'm not gonna stop banging sexy chicks because there might be some bigger dicks out there? Right? =]
Anyways, I imagine there are people out there with similar thoughts. Confidence is key. I am going to keep banging hot girls with the dick I got and understand that I am already one step ahead of the version of me that hasn't even found this website yet.

Any motivational remarks or comments with your thoughts would be appreciated. I know I sound slightly crazy but I actually have a good head on my shoulder. Having a good head on my shoulder is actually what makes starting all of this so off the chain to me and weirded out. I think I need to just calm down. Thanks for reading.

[TheSerpent Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheSerpent]

I think staying sane is a matter of respecting the cards you've been dealt, sucking it up, and having fun not only with what you have right now but also having fun in the process of trying to produce results.

Like I'm not gonna stop banging sexy chicks because there might be some bigger dicks out there? Right? =]

Confidence is key.

I am going to keep banging hot girls with the dick I got and understand that I am already one step ahead of the version of me that hasn't even found this website yet.

I think you've pretty much gave yourself the answer here. Although I do think that you may have had these thoughts about making your member bigger, not because of inadequacy but do to just wanting to reach another level maybe as a lover. I mean even if you were born with the magic 8x6 penis you'd want to make it the hardest, most resilient penis that you could naturally achieve.

So in that regard, welcome on your journey to being a better you, not because you need it, but because you strive to be better. I salute you.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

News flash! - This is not a contest where the biggest dick wins.

This journey you started yesterday is for you and you only. It doesn't involve your roommate or your best bud. And most of all has nothing to do with a guy some girl was with sometime before. It is about you, a healthy penis, and the skill and knowledge to use it to the best of its ability. IF along the way, you make some gains, it is nothing but a bonus. But your goal is to try to enhance that which you have been given and rock someones world the right way. So, clear your mind of other dud's dicks, focus on the chicks (I think that is my new motto).

Welcome to the party my friend!

[W.I.P. Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close W.I.P.]

Damn, you just spelled out something that i could not predict when starting my journey for a healthier/bigger penis.

But this has to do with an alternate lifestyle as well... Me and my gf are swingers, this basicly means we hook up with oher couples and trade partners, wich is in our eyes totally fine. But recently i am starting to worry more and more about my size compared to what my gf is getting, instead if enjoying the ride. Weirdest thing though is that she hasnt gotten anything bigger than me so far. (7.2bpel 5.5 eg). Plus there is the looks department. I think im to heavy, i might have a pimpel. Maybe i might not pleasure others well enough.
So in some cases this led to ED, comming from Sexual Performance Anxiety, wich is totally psycological. And eventhough i know it, I cant put my mind off it. Maybe overtime. When at home i have no troubles getting it hard, so its not a physical thing fir sure

So i totally understand your view. But all i can say is that whenever there are no others around, like it is supposed to for most, you should focus on the girl.

Well you basicly spelled it out yourself, the point of eliminating these thoughts is the trickiest part.
Woman care about a man who can please and hit good spots instead of a 10" log pounding the shit out of them for 2 min and be done.

Could be worse in size though, dont sweat it. Have fun, PE, and grow to a better self

WIP

[doejohnny Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close doejohnny]

Thanks so much guys for your real and quick responses. All the most successful people in the world had mentors so it's nice to have some experienced people straighten me out (and i'm not tryna pay for some bigal thing). Life is crazy lol.