Saitama's Life Progress Thread

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Here I am going to discuss some of the things I am working on overcoming in life. I have some major addictions that I am fighting. I hope this will further my accountability, and cause me to reflect.


Progress at time of posting:


Days w/o porn:22
Days w/o commercial fiction:0
Days w/o pointless comparing self to others:0
Days w/o deviating from PE schedule:13

MOST IMPORTANT
Days w/o taking a break from achieving my career dreams:
2


Collection of personal development info:
======Take at least 3 years to Learn this Thoroughly==============

AttractionInstitute:

http://attractioninstitute.com/wp-co...1291e32e9aa865

http://attractioninstitute.com/are-y...int-checklist/

http://attractioninstitute.com/5-questions/

http://attractioninstitute.com/under...sychology-101/

http://3wamk31ysalp2s3pqb2fizuy.wpen...s-v3.3-2mb.pdf

Mark Manson:

http://markmanson.net/question

http://markmanson.net/goals

http://markmanson.net/be-patient

http://markmanson.net/romance

http://markmanson.net/confidence

http://markmanson.net/the-secret (for the lolz)

http://markmanson.net/not-giving-a-fuck

http://markmanson.net/attention

http://markmanson.net/risk

http://markmanson.net/worst-moments-of-your-life

http://markmanson.net/you-cant-have-it-all

http://markmanson.net/love

http://markmanson.net/surviving-my-20s

http://markmanson.net/hidden-costs-of-happiness

http://markmanson.net/10-life-lessons-excel-30s

http://markmanson.net/still-single

http://markmanson.net/how-we-judge-others

http://markmanson.net/school

http://markmanson.net/wrong-about-everything

http://markmanson.net/9-subtle-lies-...tell-ourselves

http://markmanson.net/stop-trying-to-be-happy

http://markmanson.net/sex-education

http://markmanson.net/find-what-you-love

http://markmanson.net/measure-your-life

http://markmanson.net/weight-loss

http://markmanson.net/being-special

http://markmanson.net/6-toxic-habits

http://markmanson.net/everything-you-need

http://markmanson.net/dreams

http://markmanson.net/stupid-things

http://markmanson.net/transformational-moment

http://markmanson.net/change-your-mind

http://markmanson.net/sex-and-our-psychological-needs

http://markmanson.net/one-trait

http://markmanson.net/amazing-person

http://markmanson.net/suicide

http://markmanson.net/psycho

http://markmanson.net/paradoxes

http://markmanson.net/the-bad-acid-trip

http://markmanson.net/youre-okay

http://markmanson.net/boundaries

http://markmanson.net/check-please

http://markmanson.net/manipulative-relationships

http://markmanson.net/shut-up-and-be-grateful

http://markmanson.net/self-help

http://markmanson.net/your-two-minds

http://markmanson.net/the-guide-to-being-miserable


http://markmanson.net/open-letter

http://markmanson.net/the-prime-belief


http://markmanson.net/meta-awesomeness

http://markmanson.net/why-you-fail

http://markmanson.net/how-to-make-your-own-luck
http://markmanson.net/its-complicated

http://markmanson.net/diversify-your-identity

http://markmanson.net/analysis-paralysis

http://markmanson.net/evolution


http://markmanson.net/therapy

http://markmanson.net/are-you-an-emotional-vampire

http://markmanson.net/pornography-ca...-your-sex-life

http://markmanson.net/joy-and-meaning

http://markmanson.net/do-something

http://markmanson.net/attachment-theory

http://markmanson.net/how-i-quit-smoking

http://markmanson.net/my-girlfriend-just-dumped-me

http://markmanson.net/std-guide

http://markmanson.net/how-to-give-advice

http://markmanson.net/power-in-vulnerability

http://markmanson.net/woman-lovers-and-haters

http://markmanson.net/the-zen-dilemma

http://markmanson.net/compatibility-and-chemistry

http://markmanson.net/this-is-water

http://markmanson.net/three-loves-theory



Dr. Nerdlove:
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2013/0...0-year-virgin/




Corey Wayne:

http://www.scribd.com/doc/33421576/H...A-3-Man#scribd

Actualized.org

=========All the self-help I am allowed===



Some Notes on Happiness:


Low Tier(Avoid):1.Drugs2.Food,Partying,Drinking3.Beaut y(Worrying about your looks/trying to impress). Studies show beauty obsessed people are depressed and that physically attractive people aren't more fulfilled.4.Money/Shopping/Materialism-People with primarily money based goals are the most frustrated.5. Media/Entertainment: TV,Internet, Social Media,etc. It is super time consuming and involves a HUGE opportunity cost. Studies show people who watch lots of TV are,on average, mildly depressed.6.Gossip/Idle Socialization7.Pursuing Fame/Public Image/Success: This is external validation and is short lasting and ultimately unfulfilling. 8. Validation from other people: It is pointless trying to get others to like you.9. Porn/ Empty Sex:10. Romantic Infatuation: First 6 months of romantic relationship.Mid Tier(Good and Healthy):11. Hobbies12.Physical Exercise and Growth: Don't confuse these for beauty. Don't exercise to become more physically attractive.13. Friendships and Strong Relationships: These are deeper friendships between a small number of people, not gossip.14. Family15. Companionate Love: Long term relationship.High Tier(Best):16. Learning and Education: Commit yourself to life long education and find pleasure and joy in it.17. Excellent work/Flow States: Produce high quality work and become absorbed in it.18. Inner Development and Self-Acceptance: This is mastering your psychology. Be happy with yourself right now but still work on yourself, out of love, not out of self-hate.19. Kindness20. Gratitude: If you aren't already grateful for your current situation, getting new things in life will still eventually lead to misery since hedonic adaptation will just urge you to chase the next thing.21. Integrity: You can't be fulfilled in life if you don't live up to your greatest values. Do you honor your commitments? Do lie,cheat,etc? Do you set goals then not follow through? 22. Contribution23. Being/Spiritual Enlightenment: Mediation/ Self-Inquiry is best for this. Transcend your ego and be able to enjoy the moment. This will be your greatest source of satisfaction. You will become independent of stimulation. This is ultimate peace of mind.

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Today, I remember a past event with some friends, so I started getting into my bad habit of comparing myself and my life to others and brooding/ ruminating about it.

I am not other people. They are not me. I have my own life and need to focus on being my best self.

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I also watched two hours of television to help numb my mind and make me forget about the pain I was feeling. A stronger man would have accepted that hurt is a part of life and conquering that pain is what makes him strong. I will become a stronger man.


Addictions come from a failure to feel. I must feel it to heal it.

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Good luck man, what are you doing actively to work on your confidence?

When I was younger, to help with all the frustrations and negative energy I took it out by physical means. When I started powerlifting, I often took progress pictures and when I experience extreme body dysmorphia I look back at myself and see where I started- this always makes me feel better. Plus feeling stronger and knowing you're significantly more physically powerful than before feels awesome.

Is there a hobby you left on the backburner that you can throw all your passion into? Tracking progress in that hobby does wonders for your mindset.


Also looking at your counter/signature, it motivates to give up porn too. I didn't realize till recently how much I was watching and relying on it to get fully erect for Edging or BM use. After seeing how you track your days, I cleared my history on all my devices and deleted all pornography on my computer.

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I need to devote more time to working on my career. I'm letting other personal life issues eat up too much of my time.

[Saitama Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Saitama]

Good luck man, what are you doing actively to work on your confidence?

When I was younger, to help with all the frustrations and negative energy I took it out by physical means. When I started powerlifting, I often took progress pictures and when I experience extreme body dysmorphia I look back at myself and see where I started- this always makes me feel better. Plus feeling stronger and knowing you're significantly more physically powerful than before feels awesome.

Is there a hobby you left on the backburner that you can throw all your passion into? Tracking progress in that hobby does wonders for your mindset.


Also looking at your counter/signature, it motivates to give up porn too. I didn't realize till recently how much I was watching and relying on it to get fully erect for Edging or BM use. After seeing how you track your days, I cleared my history on all my devices and deleted all pornography on my computer.

To work on my confidence? Meet my goals.

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I did a good job with all categories today.

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I am still struggling with quitting commercial fiction, and I fill my day with way too many disparate activities. I need to simply my life style so I can harness deep concentration.

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I am getting into the trap of thinking I need to achieve all my goals immediately instead of being realistic and having consistent, incremental progress. Consequently, I am scatter-brained and overwhelmed by variety. I must slow down and give different areas of my life attention at different times, not doing everything at once, haphazardly. Rome wasn't built in a day.

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Lately, I've been trying to overcome my socializing issues, but it has totally upset my life balance. I need to get centered again and focus on my career, giving me a sense of stability.

Plus, I love working on my mission and purpose, so doing that will make me more authentic in my interactions. I noticed I tend to fake my personality when I stray from my purpose.

For now,I'll work on creating the type of lifestyle that really appeals to me, make progress in my career ambitions, and work on overcoming my bad habits. Socializing is better when I am coming from a place of confidence and self-love.

In my interactions, I'll make sure to be a bit more outgoing and warm and have better posture. Since I am usually quite reserved, cold at times, and have unattractive body language, I believe this subtle difference will make a big difference in the long run.

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I have a habit of checking my favorite websites, like PEGym, when I'm trying to work. I need to overcome this so I can be better at focusing.

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The porn avoidance is getting easier. Once I hit 90 days with no-porn, I'll have more will power to allocate to other habit modifications. I am excited to see where this goes.

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Little by little and day by day, I am outgrowing my need for external validation. All the validation I need comes from within. I am becoming the person I respect, just a little more each day.

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I took today off from school to get caught up on studying. I must get off the internet-- bad habit. Stay focused.

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I am going to compile a list of personal development/self-help material and post it to the OP. I am not allowed to read anything else in those topics until I have mastered and implemented the material.

I am turning into a self-help junkie instead of a man of action. I must reverse that by focusing on implementation and intimate knowledge of a little material, not indiscriminately reading and never applying.