Things with Labret and I have a feeling of moving forward. She has told me that she feels less inclined to sleep with other people, and that she wants more of a commitment from me. Although when I ask her directly, she still does not want complete exclusivitiy.

She said that, while I was in Oregon on a dance recess, she slept with someone else. No big deal, since we weren't expressly exclusive with each other; I wasn't upset, but was glad she felt comfortable enough to tell me about it. She said that, after that she had the feeling like she didn't want to do that any more.

The thought that crossed my mind was, "Sometimes you have to step outside your bounds of comfort, to know that there was a boundary there in the first place." She had to sleep with someone else to find out that she was uncomfortable with it, and it wasn't what she wanted. This is a step forward towards exclusivity for us. In return, I reaffirmed that I still haven't had sex with anyone else.

CG and I have been naked in bed together, and I've gone down on her, but we haven't had penetrative sex yet. Not to say it won't happen in the future, just that it hasn't happened yet. A big factor is that Labret has been exhausting my sexual reserves, and so when I'm with CG I can't muster the energy for sex. Which I guess isn't that big of a deal for CG, since she says she enjoys just exploring each other's bodies in a tantric, non-orgasm-seeking way. It brings a kind of calm and tranquility to my time with CG.

I mentioned to Labret last night that I felt we were in a place where we shouldn't be planning too far ahead. She started asking questions about what I meant about that. In that conversation, it was revealed that she wanted more of a commitment than "one day at a time," and that she wouldn't be spending this much time with me if she felt it could end in a few days or few weeks.

I clarified that I thought she was the one putting on the brakes, since I had tried to schedule time together, a week in advance, and was being frustrated by her attempts to just "see how she felt" on that day... so I stopped trying to plan so far ahead. Not that I was angry at her, just that I was doing something that made me feel frustrated, and I don't like feeling frustrated, so I stopped.

I learned that she had less of an inclination to plan casual activities like going to dance venues, but would like to plan other activities in advance, like making dinner together, going to see shows, visiting other people. It's good we had that talk, and it clarified where each of us thoughts we stood, and it brought our misconceptions onto common ground. We're farther along than I thought.

I'm also moving forward with Labret, in that I'm making an effort to get to know her son more. I've arranged a Sunday, two weekends from now, that he come by and we can play video games, each chips, popcorn and ice cream together, and basically hang out and get to know each other. I think it'll be fun.