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[Kald Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kald]

so I was working last night during my regular night shift as a waiter
2 girls come in and both of them are pretty good looking, they're regulars so we're used to see them in the restaurant
so I lean down to take their order and I meet this girl's beautiful eyes directly... I could smell her and she smelled pretty good...

all of a sudden while I am asking for her order she smiles at me and hesitates with her words a little... 2 seconds later I get this quick erection JUST BY TALKING to her... this really didnt happen to me before, I am always around girls and I really just dont get aroused just by looking/smelling one even if they're the hottest girl in the world

then the whole night I coudn't think of anything else but her. She only comes on sundays but she said she might visit today after she gets off. I am really confused, I just felt all of a sudden that I wanted to grab her and kiss her right there. and that only happened to me with just one girl, and I am not saying that I wanna just undress her and fuck her... I really wanted to kiss her romantically (if that makes any sense)... she looked at me in a way that energized me immensely

She's waiting for me to ask her out that's for sure... but I have a gf that I like, I feel bad because I am not a player, I come out as a player most of the time and I guess most girls like that but I know inside me I am not, I really wanna go out with this girl because this moment I had with her has just affected me greatly through the whole night... I still feel it right now as I am typing this.. it's weird

what do you guys think about this? I don't know what to do.. I don't wanna date 2 girls at the same time

[7x6PocketRocket Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 7x6PocketRocket]

Something like that happend to me once, except the girl wasn't that pretty. But I was so turned on by how she spoke to me, looked at me, the sound of her voice. Some ladies just ooze sexyness and then you can't get them out of your head.

As for your girlfriend, if you really like her stay with her man. Even if you married her, as a man you will always find other women attractive. You should even talk to your girl about it, but not directly about it if you know what I mean.

[Gel King Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gel King]

Certain looks and certain smells can trigger great emotions/feelings in your body. It happens to everyone, and most of the time it's simply just lust.. which would explain a lot of infidelity in this world. If you are happy with your girlfriend and don't consider yourself a player.. don't put yourself in a situation where something you'll regret might come from it (do not date this customer if you are taken). You may say now that you can control yourself, but if she already gave you an erection, obviously your body wants more than just "romance" with her. I'm not telling you what to do.. the choice is ultimately yours, but be fair to your GF. Just flip roles around hypothetically and you'll see that it would hurt if she did that to you. Good luck man.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Don't try to sneak around behind our girlfriend's back. If you like her, stay with her and write the other girl off as something with possibilities that came at the wrong time. If you feel you MUST date this new girl or go crazy, you should leave your girlfriend, or at least be honest with her. Yes, it is a hard choice. But sneaking around just causes stress and hurts people (you included). There is no reason to try to make yourself into a "player" if that is not your nature.... indeed I respect guys who avoid that temptation.

[Kald Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kald]

I do not wanna date this girl as of yet, but I can see some potential in that
I will not do anything with her right now thats for sure... I do like and respect my gf very much and I wont be able to do that to her
thanks for the good advice guys

I totally agree with you rocketpocket, some girls are just sexy because of the way they move, speak, and carry themselves, even if they're not really that hot

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Throughout your life, you will occasionally meet people that you immediately fall in lust with. It is the same for women. Sometimes, that person ends up being compatible with you in other ways -- personality, interests, emotions, etc. -- and you can make a great match. But it is also possible to be totally bowled over sexually by someone you can never have any emotional or intellectual connection to. It is important to make sure it is more than lust only before you jump into anything major, especially if you are giving up a relationship with someone else for it. Overwhelming lust can be great, but it is no substitute for lust plus.
Don't let your dick lead you places that your mind and heart can't follow.

[Titansfan Member Find all posts View Profile Close Titansfan]

I do not wanna date this girl as of yet, but I can see some potential in that
I will not do anything with her right now thats for sure... I do like and respect my gf very much and I wont be able to do that to her
thanks for the good advice guys

I totally agree with you rocketpocket, some girls are just sexy because of the way they move, speak, and carry themselves, even if they're not really that hot

I know exactly what you mean, the first time I met the girl who I'm into right now, I didn't even think she was that hot, but after hanging out with her and talking to her more I've become crazy attracted to her physically as well as mentally. Lucky for me, we are going to prom together. (I know I'm kind of a young'n on here) We aren't dating unfortunately, though that's kind of a long story.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

The prom? Wow, that takes me back. Is she your first girl? How old are you?

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

Throughout your life, you will occasionally meet people that you immediately fall in lust with. It is the same for women. Sometimes, that person ends up being compatible with you in other ways -- personality, interests, emotions, etc. -- and you can make a great match. But it is also possible to be totally bowled over sexually by someone you can never have any emotional or intellectual connection to. It is important to make sure it is more than lust only before you jump into anything major, especially if you are giving up a relationship with someone else for it. Overwhelming lust can be great, but it is no substitute for lust plus.
Don't let your dick lead you places that your mind and heart can't follow.

Wow, Batwoman!

[Titansfan Member Find all posts View Profile Close Titansfan]

The prom? Wow, that takes me back. Is she your first girl? How old are you?

I'm 18. It's a long situation to explain (way more than you might think) and I'm not sure that I want to hijack this guy's thread.

[kelthuzad1986 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close kelthuzad1986]

Be honest with your girlfriend. Tell her exactly what's happening. If you have been with her for awhile then you have something more than just a chemical attraction with her. With this new girl, it's spur of the moment chemistry. It's not anything real. To have something real you have to get to know a person. Tell this new girl if you run into her again how things are. Honesty on both sides is the best policy believe me. Don't play with your girlfriend's heart. A breakup for a girl is so much harder than it is for a guy.

[BMot Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BMot]

Haha, something like that happened to me when I was getting my gym induction. This female trainer, who looked to be a couple of years older than me, was showing me around all of the equipment. We had a split second of eye contact and I felt all kinds of crazy stuff. Very weird.

[Kald Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kald]

lol bmot good thing that girl was younger than me... if she was older and I had the same experience I would go crazy on her... I just love older women
anyways guys I am not doing anything with this girl, I do like my girlfriend a lot and I am not going to jeopardize my relationship with her.

One thing I like about being in a relationship is the fact that I feel that I can talk to any and make them interested in me, and I feel that it's a lot easier than before! I guess having a girlfriend just gives us men the confidence that we might be lacking when we dont have one? it's an interesting theory