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[Guillotine01a Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Guillotine01a]

I've been with this girl for about 7 months. I just fucked it all up. I was flirting with this other girl and my girl found out. We didn't get together or anything. She said she isn't going to forgive me so i was like well then we're never going to get past this if you don't it'll be a waste of time for us both so I said take care. I really liked her and miss her. Never thought I'd feel this way about a girl but I guess I do. Any advice from the females or should I just move on?

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

When did this happen?

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

If you really care about your girl, and you know you screwed up, just do what you can to make it right. Apologize over again. Send her some flowers (or better yet, take her some). If you can say with a clear conscience that nothing happened and you were just flirting, then you should be able to stand in front of her and convince her that that's true. She probably won't let you off easily, and it may take a while for her to trust you again -- that's natural. Just give her a chance to work through her anger. She probably misses you, too.

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

The single best thing that you can do when you screw up is say "I screwed up and I am sorry."
But only do that if you mean it.

[Gel King Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gel King]

honestly dude, take it from an apology pro.. other than it having to be sincere, try adding a little cheesy humour to the apology.

I found that making my girlfriend at the time laugh, breaks her shell and really lightens things up. One time I literally painted an "I'm Sorry" painting with grey clouds, rain and a sad face.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

I agree. OK, so you fucked up man, we're all human and we all make mistakes. You didn't cross line and kiss her or worse so imo, no harm no foul. However, if SHE is the one that's got the problem with it and you seriously like her, then you're gonna have to swallow your male pride and do whatever it is you've gotta do to apologize. It's that simple bro.

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

Why are you flirting anyway? Did you have somthing in your eye, hehehehe! Just go make amends and don't flirt anymore.

[calixto ModeratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close calixto]

honestly dude, take it from an apology pro.. other than it having to be sincere, try adding a little cheesy humour to the apology.

I found that making my girlfriend at the time laugh, breaks her shell and really lightens things up. One time I literally painted an "I'm Sorry" painting with grey clouds, rain and a sad face.

Guillotine, You should totally paint something like this cloudy painting that NP suggests and give it to her, with some flowers too, of course.

Dang NP, where were YOU when I needed this advice!!!

If I have any rep points available (I have been repping ALOT of peeps today for such great posts) you are getting them NP!!!

[Gel King Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gel King]

Guillotine, You should totally paint something like this cloudy painting that NP suggests and give it to her, with some flowers too, of course.

Dang NP, where were YOU when I needed this advice!!!

If I have any rep points available (I have been repping ALOT of peeps today for such great posts) you are getting them NP!!!

Thanks Calixto! Sorry I wasn't around to help you out.. i was probably busy mixing colours =P

[Guillotine01a Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Guillotine01a]

Alright guys so heres the truth and the whole story. Maybe you guys would understand it more. Alright so I meet this girl last August at a banquet. She doesn't leave any impression on me so I'm like whatever. Forget about her. Obviously I left one on her. She adds me on fb in september and asks me if I remember her. I'm like no. We start talking and she seems really cool. She sends me pictures ( not nudes...at least not yet ) and I'm like this girl is gorgeous. Like the woman of my dreams, Nice curves cute face not a slut. Shes captain of her cheer team and has only been with one guy. ONCE! So I'm like really digging this broad. I take her to an amusement park and we hit it off. Three months into it she really likes me but I'm still single so is she. I get with another girl and she finds out. she gets really mad and I'm like okay? We aren't together just like flirting/talking. She says she doesn't want to be in a relationship thats just talking she wants a monogamist one. So I say I'm game. 4 months into this and I start falling for her. Some shit happens and I so I haven't seen her in two months but we talk via phone and txt and we're still together. I'm not really screwing around and she isn't that I know of. I trust her tho. On Sunday i have a BBQ. Some really fine girl adds me and says hey have we met? My friend goes on and starts talking to her posing as me. Like Im'a get her number for you. Im say I'm not interested but I let him fool around with her. Its all fun and games I'm totally aware of this and I even add some things to say. My girl finds out today and gets really upset. I tell her it was my friend (I tried to blame it on him..I know stupid me) and I knew he was doing it but I wasn't totally aware. She probably thinks that is bullshit but I can't convince her otherwise. We talk and she says shes not going to forgive me and its not okay but she still trusts me. I'm like okay so where do we go from here? she says she doesn't know and I said well if she can't get over this then this isn't going to workout and I dont wanna waste my time or hers. She doesn't respond. I tell her to take care of herself and then hang up. We haven't talked all day. We were suppose to see each other this weekend where I was going to finally ask her to be my girl What to do? What to do?

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Alright guys so heres the truth and the whole story. Maybe you guys would understand it more. Alright so I meet this girl last August at a banquet. She doesn't leave any impression on me so I'm like whatever. Forget about her. Obviously I left one on her. She adds me on fb in september and asks me if I remember her. I'm like no. We start talking and she seems really cool. She sends me pictures ( not nudes...at least not yet ) and I'm like this girl is gorgeous. Like the woman of my dreams, Nice curves cute face not a slut. Shes captain of her cheer team and has only been with one guy. ONCE! So I'm like really digging this broad. I take her to an amusement park and we hit it off. Three months into it she really likes me but I'm still single so is she. I get with another girl and she finds out. she gets really mad and I'm like okay? We aren't together just like flirting/talking. She says she doesn't want to be in a relationship thats just talking she wants a monogamist one. So I say I'm game. 4 months into this and I start falling for her. Some shit happens and I so I haven't seen her in two months but we talk via phone and txt and we're still together. I'm not really screwing around and she isn't that I know of. I trust her tho. On Sunday i have a BBQ. Some really fine girl adds me and says hey have we met? My friend goes on and starts talking to her posing as me. Like Im'a get her number for you. Im say I'm not interested but I let him fool around with her. Its all fun and games I'm totally aware of this and I even add some things to say. My girl finds out today and gets really upset. I tell her it was my friend (I tried to blame it on him..I know stupid me) and I knew he was doing it but I wasn't totally aware. She probably thinks that is bullshit but I can't convince her otherwise. We talk and she says shes not going to forgive me and its not okay but she still trusts me. I'm like okay so where do we go from here? she says she doesn't know and I said well if she can't get over this then this isn't going to workout and I dont wanna waste my time or hers. She doesn't respond. I tell her to take care of herself and then hang up. We haven't talked all day. We were suppose to see each other this weekend where I was going to finally ask her to be my girl What to do? What to do?

If thats the complete and honest truth, I would copy and paste what you just wrote.. including what I'm writing right now telling you to copy this, so she knows its instructions from me, and send her the copy. that should clear everything up!

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Don't do anything by text or email -- you need to talk to her in person. Here is your best advice:

The single best thing that you can do when you screw up is say "I screwed up and I am sorry."
But only do that if you mean it.

If you mean it, go see her or call her, and tell her the truth. Keep apologizing; you're the one who screwed up, and only you can make it right. If you keep trying, I'm betting that she will relent and forgive you. But it is up to you to make the effort.

[Guillotine01a Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Guillotine01a]

Alright she txted me last night with an unhappy face. I told her this wasn't how its suppose to be. She was like then why did you let us get into this situation. I told cause I'm an idiot. Basically the conversation consisted of her saying that I don't care about her and me saying that she shouldn't base all of my feelings of her off one stupid mistake when I've showed her countless of moments of emotions. Then I said I know your upset and goodnight. I didn't want to drag it out all night cause she is still angry about it. ANy advice from here?

Heres teh thing about flowers man and the painting. As much as I would love to do that. We haven't seen each other in two months. But we talk everyday via txt and/or phone. We were suppose to hang out this previous weekend but complications with her family and someone keyed her car so it didn't work out. Now we planed for this Saturday but thats I think obviously called off. Theres no way for me to deliver her flowers or the painting because I don't where she lives. She still lives with her parents and her dad is crazy about dudes so i was never able to come over. Would it still have the same effect if I made a painting on the computer and sent it? I know its cheesy but I want to lighten the moment.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

If you can't go see her right away, sure, do a painting on the computer and send it to her with a big "I'M SORRY" attached. Then ask her if you can get together this weekend as planned, say you really want to see her to try to make it right between you. Keep it simple and keep apologizing, maybe that will work. If she really wanted you to go away, she wouldn't be texting you or talking to you at all. So the fact that she is, that's a good sign.

[Waylander Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Waylander]

http://i297.photobucket.com/albums/m...untitled-1.jpg

DAMN, Thats pretty good.

Isn't it amazing how a good looking woman can cause our brains to malfunction?