so confused on what to do

[amazingthing4her Member Find all posts View Profile Close amazingthing4her]

For the first time in my life I don't know how to act or what to do around this girl.

Ok here is the story. 15 years ago I was dating this girl her name will be Amy for this. I was a senior in High school and she a junior. Amy has a younger sister she will be Mary. While dating Amy my brother and Mary became friends, they were freshman at the same school. Things fell apart with me and Amy sometime during the year. I graduate move on ect.

Mary continued being friends with my brother and they still are. Mary would come around the house all the time and I wasn't necessarily the nicest person in the world to her but still I considered her a friend. Mary moved away to become an actress/model.

Fastfoward to present day she is back in town and her and my brother are still friends. My brother and I share a house a month ago we had a party and she was here. Everytime we would talk she would bring up me being "mean" to her when we were younger, like I said I wasn't the nicest but I was far from mean. I didn't kiss her ass. She is a very beautifull lady and all the others guys did and would. I saw her as an annoying young girl during that time.

So she calls my brother today so that the two of them can hang out. She gets here and I'm still in a state of shock but we couldn't stop flirting with each other.

Now here is the problem. My brother is in LOVE with Mary. He has been forever but he is in the friendzone and his never getting out. She sent me a message after she left asking if we can get together for drinks. My brother did not seem all that happy that we were getting along as well as we were earlier, he left almost immeditaly after she did.

She is a knockout and is now one of the coolest people I know. Do I forgo my brothers feelings and just go for it? Or put myself in the friendzone also just to keep things as they are?

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

There was another post about moving in on an old best friend's woman. I told him no, it was a terrible idea.

This is even worse. That's your family. Not trying to sound like a dick, but this is really a no-brainer. You stay away. Blood is thicker than water.

[amazingthing4her Member Find all posts View Profile Close amazingthing4her]

Yeah I agree, If they had ever been more then friends I wouldn't even entertain the idea.

[diesel121 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close diesel121]

honestly dude, I'd be straight up with your brother. I agree with RIB that blood certainly is thicker than water...and I would NEVER suggest going behind your brothers back to meet this chick. Be a man about the situation, if you really dig this girl, sit your brother down and tell him how you feel about her. If he clearly isn't in support of the situation after you talk, I'd have to say respect it and move on. Even if nothing else, at least your not hiding anything from your brother and your feelings are out on the table. Best of luck!

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

honestly dude, I'd be straight up with your brother. I agree with RIB that blood certainly is thicker than water...and I would NEVER suggest going behind your brothers back to meet this chick. Be a man about the situation, if you really dig this girl, sit your brother down and tell him how you feel about her. If he clearly isn't in support of the situation after you talk, I'd have to say respect it and move on. Even if nothing else, at least your not hiding anything from your brother and your feelings are out on the table. Best of luck!

This is good advice. DO NOT sneak around behind your brother's back. DO NOT go after this girl, no matter how you feel about her, if your brother does not give you the OK.
Brothers first.
No girl should come between you. If you let it play out badly, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

[boxer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close boxer]

Yea man, no brainer for sure, you never act on somthing like this

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

Dude even if you sit him down and tell him you're interested in her, and she is interested in you, and you want to see where this leads, and blah blah blah. As a brother (or even a friend would react the same way), he'll claim to be understanding. But in reality, he will feel betrayed and pissed off.

NO GO. STAY AWAY.

[doupdoupdoup Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close doupdoupdoup]

Well from words I can only imagine what the situation is like. But RIB2211's advice to me seems best, as you made it seem like in your OP that your brother really likes that girl a lot. Plenty of girls around. And you seem to not really care for her in a deeper way. I think you should tell your brother to grow some balls. Maybe he was holding out for your sake. That is what I think.

Does she like him? Why would she keep on coming over then? I think you should try to gain more clarity over the situation, before you ruin a relationship. I could interpret your post in a lot of different ways, and different interpretations would warrant different advice. People have layers. People do things in a curvy way, the world is not straight forward.

I'd have to say RIB2211's advice is pretty solid, given I have limited information on the situation.

[amazingthing4her Member Find all posts View Profile Close amazingthing4her]

Well so much for me having to talk to my brother. We were at a party last night and he brought up the subject. He told me that she has been asking about me for the last couple of months. He told me that she would invite him to the bar or what not and ask him if I wanted to come along but he wouldn't ask. He then said that he knows that they are only friends and to go for it if I want.

We talked this morning after he sobered up. He did make his play for her a bit ago and she told him that she thinks of him like he was her brother. At first he was upset that she was interested in me but would be happy that she wasn't with some d-bag.

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

Still wouldn't do it if I were you.

[millia Senior Member;PEGym Editor Find all posts View Profile Close millia]

Bros before hoes, literally.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Bros before hoes, literally.

I LIVE by this motto. It's rather crude but it works. Even if your brother is cool with it, YOU DON'T DO IT! He might be saying "yeah, go for it" but really meaning "do it and die". I have 1 brother and he and I have like no relationship at all, which I think seriously sucks but it is what it is. You have an opportunity with yours man, don't blow it over a girl, especially when this world is FULL of beautiful women.

[amazingthing4her Member Find all posts View Profile Close amazingthing4her]

Thanks guys, after rereading all of this and stepping out and looking at from a different perspective, I realized I would have given myself the exact same advise. Again thank you all

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Thanks guys, after rereading all of this and stepping out and looking at from a different perspective, I realized I would have given myself the exact same advise. Again thank you all

That's what we're all here for brotha man.

[mountie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mountie]

I fear one day you will be looking back and saying "What the Fuck Was I Thinking"...... And you will be saying it to yourself becasue your brother isn't talking to you anymore. Family first....end of story.